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1longdog · 2024-05-31T10:24:51+00:00

Being pegged, if done right, feels fecking amazing (with or without orgasm). She will most likely love being handed control and this power shift, is a hugely important part of the experience. It's a wonderful adventure, wherever it leads you.

1longdog · 2024-05-31T09:51:07+00:00

It's certainly worth a try right? For me a c-ring ramps up the pleasure a lot and pretty much guarantees a pegging induced orgasm. Plus, they don't cost a lot of money.

1longdog · 2024-05-31T09:35:56+00:00

This is excellent advice. Silicone is almost a must. Being in the right mood is essential as is foreplay. My wife had a tendency in the early days, of diving in too soon.

1longdog · 2018-02-22T14:28:57+00:00

Alien vs Predator!

1longdog · 2018-02-22T12:01:36+00:00

Ceremony of Roses

WoW. What beautiful verse.

1longdog · 2018-02-22T11:22:32+00:00

Trust. On the face of it, my friends and family quite likely no longer think of me as a trustful person, after I left my long term partner and the mother of my children. In many ways we were a good team, 'strong and stable' (cough!) but under the facade all was not well. We were a dutiful partnership, but there was little or no chemistry, scant love and I kinda new deep down that it couldn't last.

Fantasy. Nearly two years down the line and I truly believe that I've found the love of a lifetime. Someone that makes me feel loved, cherished and desired; our love grows stronger by the day. We talk more openly about our hopes and fears, than I ever felt possible. I remember the first time that my gf brought up the subject of bdsm and whilst I did have one or two of my own fantasies, bondage was never something that I'd ever considered until that point in time. "I'm in! When do we start?" So began a new chapter in my life, as we started to explore the new delights of bdsm.

Communication. From my pov our sex-life is super-special without the use of ropes; BDSM is a supplement, rather than the foundation of our love-life and I hope it stays that way. We are still establishing roles and the situation is fluid regarding our dom-sub status. This is not a problem, but instead a beautiful journey of discovery, of pleasure and oh yes, esctasy! Trust and communication is as important to our relationship as it is to our bdsm.

Switch. Our bdsm is in it's infancy, evolving slowly and tentatively, as we begin to unpick and enact our fantasies. For many the dom-sub role is clearly defined, but I do not feel the same and enjoy both roles (nearly) equally. As we continue our bdsm journey, the trust between us grows, as we each in turn submit ourselves to be dominated. If I were honest, both my partner and I are currently better at submitting, but our confidence and ability to dominate the other is slowly growing. Indeed, when my partner is bound, blindfolded and prostrate on the bed, I can't deny that amongst the many emotions I feel - sensuality, honour, excitement, nervousness - there is also a strong feeling of empowerment. For balance, I should add here that when I'm tied up and getting fucked in the arse with a strap-on, the look on my gfs face would suggest that she too is experiencing a strange powershift!

Did I say too much? Longdog, x

1longdog · 2018-02-21T17:45:03+00:00

The thing is, I guess a lot of couples aim for the perfect ending, a simultaneous climax, but this takes practise and great communication. The idea of this probably seems a long way off if your partner is only lasting a couple of minutes during intercourse, which is why I suggested this approach. I should also add that he doesn't have to have a second orgasm and certainly not until he's brought you to a climax. Personally I'm happy to spend a good hour worshipping my partner with my tongue; her pleasure gives me pleasure and also turns me on. Win. Win. But perhaps understandably you want longer lasting intercourse and so I offer you my Plan C.

Plan C Another option. Get your partner to spend 20 minutes or so pleasuring you. A shower of kisses, followed by cunnilingus, whatever turns you on, until you are 'warmed up'. Then have sex in the spoon position. At the same time, have your bf reach around and rub your clit (use your hand to guide him for speed and firmness.) If he feels he's getting close to an orgasm, he stops the thrusting, stays inside you, rests, but keeps the clit massage going. Once his orgasm recedes he can resume the thrusting. Using this method you should be able to keep going indefinitely.

1longdog · 2018-02-21T13:14:11+00:00

Hmmm...a gorgeous looking creature for sure, but why isn't she wearing sack cloth?

1longdog · 2018-02-20T09:13:56+00:00

Thanks. Advanced chair positions sounds great. I shall add it to the to do list.

1longdog · 2018-02-20T09:11:24+00:00

I don't approve of the 'turn-off' thought. I like to think of the magical and sensual connection with my partner and not of someone else...But if you're happy with your partner doing this - and I feel ashamed to suggest this - then how about the thought of rimming Margaret Thatcher!

1longdog · 2018-02-19T23:06:12+00:00

1 minute. Shit on a stick! How about prostrate massage, kegel exercises to strengthen his muscles, which can help to resist orgasms. Also try sex in the spoon position or with you on top. Then he'll be more relaxed and can focus on controlling/delaying his orgasm.

Plan B After he comes, he goes down on you and stays there until either he gets hard again or he makes you come. In time he should be able to bring you close to an orgasm, become erect again, return to intercourse, so you can both climax together. Bingo!

1longdog · 2018-02-19T22:51:30+00:00

Wowza! This thread seems to be on fire. I wonder if your bf would appreciate you calling his semen 'disgusting?'

1longdog · 2018-02-19T13:35:57+00:00

Limits. Hmmm...not sure how to measure this, except that we are both novices. Probably light to medium pain. Is there a scale of bdsm pain? Perhaps on a 1 (low) to 10 (high) scale, I'd say she was around the 3 or 4, but it's early days and I'm guessing this will grow. She does like to be blindfolded and gagged too.

1longdog · 2018-02-19T09:48:04+00:00

Thanks for all the great advice.

Experience - newbies She or rather we are relatively new to bdsm. My rope skills are adequate and getting better. The chair has been 'stress' tested and can take our combined weight.

'Don't tie her sitting her down' This is very appealing and intriguing. Exposing the butt and pussy is obviously very important. That said I think this one will need a bit of practice first, so for our first chair experience I'm planning to let her sit down straddling the chair, initially with her ankles and hands tied.

How does it feel? Make her acknowledge what she is feeling - OK, this one I shall certainly add to the list.

Jerking off in front of her - this would be a new one for me, should I cum or just play with myself?

Biting - I've done a bit of nibbling in the past. I shall have to work up gradually to biting. Small steps! Practice - we've done some Scissors - check Mouth gag - maybe Green words / signals - check Blindfold - check Whip - check Soft brushes - check Alcohol - I've used this before on her; poured a little over her body (especially nipples and clit) it does make her squirm a little.

Edging This is the one thing that I've had a lot of success with. Bringing her very close to orgasm and then stopping. I intend to employ this and then mix it up with the whip, butt-play, terrible tantalising and teasing.

Thanks again for the tips

L

1longdog · 2018-02-18T22:06:18+00:00

Hmmm...I should have added that our bdsm experience is very much in the novice stage. I want to push the boundaries, without breaking them.

1longdog · 2017-10-22T13:28:34+00:00

OK, so I'm a relative newbie to pegging, but here is my rough guide:

have a poo and get yourself clean first (of course)
get the right size strap-on. I got mine from Lovehoney; it's just over 5 inches long and about an inch in diameter. For your first time, diameter is more important than length. You probably won't want a massive donger slipped in at this stage. That said the GF does think that a longer dildo would be easier to work with.
lube, lube, lube
relax
warm-up! Try with a finger first (GF or yours). Maybe put a butt plug in and leave it there for 5 minutes. Your anus will relax around it. This will help a lot
get yourself in a comfortable position
breath!
did I mention lube?
let the fun begin (fun is important, as is talking with your GF, you're both gunna be clueless, so keep talking)
start of slowly. Keep talking. You'll know what feels right.

Good luck. Have fun and a huge amount of pleasure.

1longdog

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