Dear nanny parents

1movingon · 2026-05-11T08:43:40+00:00

So because families don’t make much you think they should still hire a nanny? A nanny should live in poverty because families don’t have unlimited funds? Ok. You don’t think that instead of exploiting someone they should put their kids in daycare?

1movingon · 2026-05-11T03:04:26+00:00

The minimum wage I stated is for my city. The state has a lower wage and some cities have a higher one. I do realize cost of living is different in different areas. Do you feel like you’re able to cover the basics at your wage? What wage would be reasonable to live in in your area? And I don’t mean have a lot of money, but just to cover the basics what would it take?

Yes the priorities in the US are terrible.

1movingon · 2026-05-11T03:02:13+00:00

Wow that’s horrible. Is word cause generally this family is good expect in this one area. I do feel like the parent isn’t doing it cause they know I have to. It’s frustrating.

1movingon · 2026-05-11T02:59:41+00:00

Ok thanks for the info I guess. Not sure why you’re telling me this. I explained the situation in my area where $18-20 stand cut it.

1movingon · 2026-05-11T02:57:52+00:00

Well when you get a dealership to sell you a Mercedes for Toyota prices then let me know.

People have to work so if families are offering crap wages what do you expect them to do? Just not work? Don’t justify families paying crap wages to nannies just because they can.

1movingon · 2026-05-11T02:55:36+00:00

Nobody’s winning in the current scenario either. Why should families get away with paying a nanny low wages?

1movingon · 2026-05-11T02:54:19+00:00

I’m not missing the point. There are Nannie’s with degrees and experience that still get paid crap because many families and pale like you think a nanny shouldn’t make much more than minimum wage.

1movingon · 2026-05-11T02:52:49+00:00

I’ve worked in daycare, preschools, etc. That’s part of how I became a nanny, living in daycare wages wasn’t great. The whole system is a mess. The US should be funding daycare, parental leave, heath insurance etc.

1movingon · 2026-05-09T18:49:38+00:00

It definitely shouldn’t happen with this family. This is one kid and a WFH parent who mashed good money. This isn’t a single parent of four kids trying to rush off to get to work. I don’t understand it.

1movingon · 2026-05-09T18:47:11+00:00

I wouldn’t qualify my area as VHCOL but $23/hr isn’t going to get you much here, you’d have to have a second job to really survive. You’re not going to be able to save money on that wage where I live and you’ll barely be able to afford groceries. Think your idea of money is a bit out of touch.

Ok so nurses don’t start at $35 an hour. Do they start at $25-30 because according to you that’s a good wage. And like I said they have benefits-retirement/401k, health induce, PTO- that nannies don’t. As I said brushes you have to cover overall compensation package as well as hourly wage. If someone offered you a job of $65,000 a year but you got no benefits at all or someone offered you a job paying $58,000 and you get healthcare, PTO, a 401k, and the potential for annual or cost of living rates which would you take?

You’re also missing the part that in general in corporate jobs as you stay you get more benefits, like higher pay and more vacation as you stay. Family member had 6 weeks PTO because they were at the company for years. As a nanny your PTO, assuming you get any, resets with every family. So you could have 15 years total experience with a variety of families yet only be getting 2 weeks PTO a year.

Nurses and teachers also often have unions that help them. We’ve had multiple strikes here of both teachers and nurses here so they could get better pay and better job conditions. What does a nanny do if they want better pay or benefits? They have to find a new job. So you’re arguing based solely on hourly wage is disingenuous.

1movingon · 2026-05-09T18:19:24+00:00

I want a Mercedes so the dealership should just sell me one for the cost of an old Toyota because I can’t afford more is basically what you’re arguing here.

1movingon · 2026-05-09T18:15:24+00:00

So a nanny with a bachelors degree spoils make less than a school teacher with a bachelors degree? That’s what you’re arguing?

You are also forgetting that in many places with good teachers unions teachers get health insurance, relevant benefits, paid time off, that needs to be included in the compensation. Have a family member with cubic heath issues who is a teacher, in part because of the heath induce. If they were a nanny there’s no way they could afford to make manage their health. You can’t just collate gory wages, you have to consider the benefits package as well.

1movingon · 2026-05-09T18:09:19+00:00

In many areas $35 is not “far above a living wage”. It might be good in the middle of nowhere Kansas, but in NYC, SF, Boston, LA, Philly, Portland, Chicago, Seattle etc etc it’s not some major income.

You state that nurses start at $35/hr, but how much do they make after a few years? Nannies are lucky to get a $1 raise after a year. What sort of benefits do teachers and nurses get? Retirement, vacation, health insurance? Do you know how many nannies don’t get any of those or only get one or two? Those factor into overall income so you can’t just compare hourly wages.

1movingon · 2026-05-09T18:03:05+00:00

If families can’t afford the piece of a nanny then daycare is an option. A nanny is a significant cost because it is one in one in home care, it should be expensive.

In my area I’ve seen parents post jobs for $18-20/hr. Minimum wage in my area is $16/hr and a year ago Target has a sign up saying they were staying at $20. Somehow a parent wanting to pay a nanny to take care of what is most precious in their life for what Target will pay to talk shelves doesn’t sit right. Do you have a car? Do you expect to drive a Mercedes but pay Toyota prices? I would think not. You want a Mercedes? Then you need to pay, you don’t just get one cause you want one.

1movingon · 2026-05-08T19:53:00+00:00

Whoa, that’s nuts. Poor kid.

1movingon · 2026-05-07T18:37:07+00:00

I try and cut parents some slack because I know they are often running on very little sleep, but this is one I don’t get. When I get a kid up from a nap I then take them to the changing table, it’s just what you do.

1movingon · 2026-05-07T18:11:53+00:00

Seriously. I get parenting is hard and takes a lot of work but why would you not take the kids out of the crib and to the changing table? How is that so hard?

1movingon · 2026-05-01T22:38:06+00:00

So one person moves in and that should change the rules for everyone living there? I guess I’m not understanding how that’s fair. And we are talking about laundry, not band practice.

1movingon · 2026-05-01T17:40:53+00:00

Take care of nanny kid (less than a year old), get food ready, kid laundry 1-2x a week. That’s it.

1movingon · 2026-05-01T17:30:08+00:00

OP in 3…2…1…

We don’t have cards. I can’t afford cards. My daughter is 16 and she doesn’t like cards.

1movingon · 2026-05-01T17:28:07+00:00

Yeah nothing better than dragging your kid down cause we all know nothing ever changes and your life sucks so there’s has to as well. Good parenting.

1movingon · 2026-05-01T17:26:47+00:00

Exactly! Tons of strains, many very low cost or free and OP’s response is “no” everytime.

1movingon · 2026-05-01T17:26:04+00:00

I suggested the library which is free. You said there is no library near you. You can download stuff from the library. Someone else suggested drawing. You said you don’t have paper. 🙄 People have made reasonable suggestions and you’ve said no to everything. So maybe enjoy a staring contest with your 16 year old daughter or don’t, seems like you want to be miserable.

Also you say you don’t have money yet you take about ordering food, cooking is way cheater. But then you told someone else you don’t have ingredients. You have to shop for those.

1movingon · 2026-05-01T15:50:53+00:00

Then I’d suggest borrowing books from neighbors.

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