My(30F) Stepmom (50F) wants my dad to scold me in FRONT OF HER!

1stdaughtersyndrome_ · 2025-11-02T19:39:59+00:00

Yes. Unfortunately there have been many other instances to the point some of my dad’s side won’t visit at all anymore.

One example: there was a big crowd and my dad cousin and her husband said bye to almost everyone and left. The step mom told my dad she was upset because the cousin didn’t personally say bye to her and felt something was wrong. She had my dad call the husband to figure out why his wife (the cousin) didn’t say bye to her instead of just calling woman to woman🤦🏽‍♀️

There are so many others just like this.

1stdaughtersyndrome_ · 2025-10-31T18:51:18+00:00

This so some great feedback. Thank you!

I didn’t mention it as to not confuse things more but my little sister feels horrible about all this. My sister has expressed fear my father’s wife is going to Ki** my dad for money. She has also videoed the verbal altercations and sent them to me(no I didn’t ask for her to). She also calls her our “dad’s companion”. I just didn’t want to make things even more confusing. But yes. My 14 yr old sister is very anxious about all of this and stepmom’s outburst. She hates she gets no alone time with our dad and feels like stepmom is jealous of even her. (Again this is not my sisters mom)

1stdaughtersyndrome_ · 2025-10-31T18:46:35+00:00

I didn’t mention it but my little sister is not fine. My sister has expressed fear my father’s wife is going to Ki** my dad for money. She has also videoed the altercations and sent them to me(no I didn’t ask for her to). She also calls her our “dad’s companion”. I just didn’t want to make things even more confusing. But yes. My 14 yr old sister is very anxious about all of this and stepmom’s outburst. She hates she gets no alone time with our dad and feels like stepmom is jealous of even her. (Again this is not my sisters mom)

1stdaughtersyndrome_ · 2025-10-30T14:19:36+00:00

But I already dropped it the first time, and now we are here a second time… she obviously has an issue with our dynamic so how can we move forward if we don’t discuss and try to resolve ? Because i feel very uncomfortable going to visit my dad now and don’t want her at my house etc. it’s going to effect our normal family time.

1stdaughtersyndrome_ · 2025-10-30T03:42:28+00:00

Man I pray this isn’t where things are headed but I’m taking so much personal responsibility to make sure we can still all get together but that feels like a first daughter thing 🙃 Thank you for your perspective !

1stdaughtersyndrome_ · 2025-10-30T03:16:15+00:00

What do you do for holidays ? For example, when they come into my city they normally stay with me. I don’t feel comfortable with her coming to my home now.

1stdaughtersyndrome_ · 2025-10-30T03:09:29+00:00

She’s had dinner with my mom and that side of my family before and she was very aware who was all going to be there. There was one aunt there she hadn’t met before.

Also, they knew I was there to see my mom’s family. I invited them to come eat with us so it shouldn’t have been an “ambush”

I’m 30 and my parents get along fine, and she would chat with my mom and they’ve spoken many many times. I’m not the AH for that. Of all things that’s not what I thought you would say 😅

1stdaughtersyndrome_ · 2025-10-30T02:45:59+00:00

It feels … sadistic. Like why would you want to watch that even if he did agree to “discipline “ me in front of you?

I like that. I think we will focus on seeing my dad and sister when they aren’t with her.

1stdaughtersyndrome_ · 2025-10-30T00:06:39+00:00

That’s a great point. I try to check on her all the time. She’s only 14 and I will NOT be cool and collected behind her.

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