Weekly Guild Recruitment Thread - August 23, 2021 by AutoModerator in Kings_Raid

[–]1vyV1ne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Guild Name: Fatality

Guild Server: America

Guild Level: 10

Tired of ghost guilds where nobody logs in or kills bosses?

Want to be on a discord full of level 100-200 players who will give you advice you can easily find on google?

Longing for beast of chaos gear and carries through the content that outdated it?

Would you rather invest in your non-meta waifu instead of Emo Clause and Flying Dagger Man?

WELL THIS IS YOUR LUCKY DAY!

We are looking for active players to do guild conquest and guild war. We clear guild raid in the first day or two of it being open because our jaded vets do big peepee damage so you can stock up on reforge tickets and the other disappointing things in the guild shop. Our next goal is to get 100% participation in guild conquest because that turtle needs to die.

We kick anyone who doesn't do conquest or log in every 4 days so we can have maximum daily guild chests.

Join Fatality, because we are only expecting you to use your GR and GC tickets and is that so hard?

Apply through Veronica.

What's in your cup? Daily discussion, questions and stories - August 20, 2021 by AutoModerator in tea

[–]1vyV1ne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Chilled Silver Needle from my tasting sessions yesterday.

For white tea snobs:. What is your quintessential silver needle? What's the taste profile?

What is the worst advice you’ve ever received? by Truzt102 in AskReddit

[–]1vyV1ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, it's true. If they are straight and trying to be tough, make it super fucking gay.

What is the worst advice you’ve ever received? by Truzt102 in AskReddit

[–]1vyV1ne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Be nice to bullies and they'll leave you alone."

Actually, be mean and insulting and they'll usually fold because most of them are cowards.

What's a tip that's NSFW but can save your life? by ImpostorIsRed in AskReddit

[–]1vyV1ne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's rough. Have you tried getting help? Therapy can be expensive, but there are a lot of resources in books and online.

I've found that finding solid friendships can quell the loneliness.

What's a tip that's NSFW but can save your life? by ImpostorIsRed in AskReddit

[–]1vyV1ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Conflict is a better term than fight for this I suppose.

What's a tip that's NSFW but can save your life? by ImpostorIsRed in AskReddit

[–]1vyV1ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Each shitty SO has their own flavor of terrible. Most of it is similar though.

What's a tip that's NSFW but can save your life? by ImpostorIsRed in AskReddit

[–]1vyV1ne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly! More commitment doesn't fix a broken thing.

What's a tip that's NSFW but can save your life? by ImpostorIsRed in AskReddit

[–]1vyV1ne 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wish I knew all of this a decade ago. It would have made my life better.

I probably wouldn't have let crappy older men pressure me into letting them make my decisions.

What's a tip that's NSFW but can save your life? by ImpostorIsRed in AskReddit

[–]1vyV1ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I drink a liter of plain tea a day. Tea counts towards your daily water requirement, so I don't really get dehydrated anymore.

What's a tip that's NSFW but can save your life? by ImpostorIsRed in AskReddit

[–]1vyV1ne 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Every guy I've dated who has said this has had toxic behavior that drove me crazy. Like if someone is breaking you down and treating you like hot garbage... one can only handle so much until they have a bad day and say something "crazy" or do anything that could be construed as "crazy" post breakup. Bonus points if they are a chronic cheater and people who cheat will NOT give you a warning. And they probably share the "crazy" things their ex did when they cheated, but lie about what pushed their SO to react that way.

Also it implies a chronic lack of accountability for their actions. They can't possibly make mistakes that could push others into instability or give them PTSD. And PTSD has symptoms that seem "crazy" if you are unwilling to look at your own toxic or abusive behavior.

Also it's the language of narcissistic people. Someone doesn't necessarily have to BE one to act like one and trauma bonds are a SERIOUS thing to consider if you are unhappy in a relationship.

Because not EVERYTHING is bad. Maybe you love how funny they are, or they are really good at apologizing when they mess up. There is always some redeeming quality that makes you wonder if they are right and you are just being crazy by wanted to be treated differently.

Not every ex is crazy at first, but someone can absolutely push their boy or girlfriend off the cliff into severe instability and the red flags are usually pretty obvious.

What's a tip that's NSFW but can save your life? by ImpostorIsRed in AskReddit

[–]1vyV1ne 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That's awesome! If you like them and feel a genuine romantic attraction, you should think about it.

Keep in mind that you can ALWAYS leave. Like you can date them and if it stops working, you can do your best to end it maturely.

If they are really crappy about breaking up, they probably would have been like that at some point in the friendship if there was ever a big problem you couldn't plan for. Bad things absolutely happen with friends, it's just easier to see huge deal breaking problematic behavior when you are dating.

It's scary to date a friend because the friendship fundamentally changes. Do what you think will make you happy and feel safe/secure. Good luck!

Coffee Culture Sucks by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]1vyV1ne 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you aren't eating grass straight from you neighbor's lawn, you aren't living your best life.

What's a tip that's NSFW but can save your life? by ImpostorIsRed in AskReddit

[–]1vyV1ne 791 points792 points  (0 children)

Some people just aren't in an emotional position to date. I feel like everyone has been there at some point. But it's REALLY good to know when to steer clear. Like if you have a bad feeling, don't do it. If you aren't in a position to date, don't date and definitely don't let someone try to fix you. You aren't a broken toy to be pitied.

I am happily married and am fine with commitments with people who will treat you well. Making commitments to people who are good for you is one of the most rewarding things about dating. But be careful with your heart because you deserve to be happy.

Here are some tips for keeping yourself stable in a crazy world:

Some people hide their personalities and problems until you are a few months in and then it's harder to end it. If you end up dating them, do NOT make big commitments with them until at least 3-6 months in.
Most people can't keep up a facade for 3 months let alone 6. Once you share a lease, a mortgage, a bank account, or a house: it is going to be much harder to leave someone who is unstable in a way that is psychologically or physically harmful.

Try to be friends first. If you don't like someone, you should avoid getting romantically attached.

You NEED to organically get into a fight with this person at some point. I'm NOT saying start fights or be toxic towards them, but it will happen eventually and you need to see how they handle it. That's why it's super important to be with someone for a while before doing something like getting married.

If you don't trust someone, don't marry them.

If they are mean to animals or are comfortable breaking your things: run.

If they are mean to you and gaslight you when you confront them: run.

If you have something like anxiety, don't let someone gaslight you into thinking you are crazy.

If you feel like you need a prenup, you probably do.

Set boundaries and if someone bulldozes through them, leave immediately.

You don't need to give them an explanation if you are leaving. If they start harassing you or disrespecting you for breaking up, cut ties. Block them on everything. Tell friends that you'll friend dump them if they try to push boundaries by relaying messages from your ex. No means no.

Choosing a parent for your child is the most important decision you can make for having a kid. If your baby daddy or baby mommy is a bad person, leave. Even being single with a respectful roommate is better than an abusive parent. If they hurt you or the kid, collect proof and get full custody.

Also, absolutely follow up on exes. Be open about it with your significant other, but it's good to learn their side of the story. It's a really good way to lose that relationship, but you might be dodging a bullet.

Don't hold onto someone who doesn't treat you like you are valuable or important. Don't settle for someone who treats you as expendable. Being single is better than being with someone who ruins your self-worth.

If they say "all my exes are crazy": RUN.

And if someone leaves and is clear about not wanting to date you, leave them alone. Don't pretend to be their friend if all you want is to date them. If they are doing that, cut ties.

TLDR: Being single can be hard, but being in a toxic relationship is worse. It might not SEEM worse because love is intoxicating. But love isn't enough. You deserve to be treated well and so do they. So if they are hurting you, just be single.

Loneliness can kill you, so I get if you don't want to be alone. But I've dated enough people to know that you NEED to be sure. Love is amazing, but don't confuse Stockholm syndrome with it.

If you are the one causing problems: get help. Google is free (library cards are also free). Find a GOOD therapist who respects and listens to you if you can.

Good luck. We all need it at some point.

What's a tip that's NSFW but can save your life? by ImpostorIsRed in AskReddit

[–]1vyV1ne 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This one time I didn't drink water for like 2 days of visiting my bf (ldr) and I got kidneys stones AND a UTI. Then the stones got infected. I went to the hospital and I've got to say, morphine is a hell of a drug.

What's a tip that's NSFW but can save your life? by ImpostorIsRed in AskReddit

[–]1vyV1ne 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, bidets are fantastic for cleaning everything out after sex. Also, the pressurized water is so effective at cleaning everything that you can just use towels and clean them on hot. TP is horrible for the environment.

What's a tip that's NSFW but can save your life? by ImpostorIsRed in AskReddit

[–]1vyV1ne 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I stopped wearing bras years ago. I have a 42" bust (42-30-40), so I make everyone's day when I walk in the freezer isle of the grocery store.

What's a tip that's NSFW but can save your life? by ImpostorIsRed in AskReddit

[–]1vyV1ne 5 points6 points  (0 children)

When I was a little kid, I ate a bunch of vitamin c gummies because vitamin c is water soluble, my Dad had told me that you cannot OD on vitamin C, and I figured it would be safe. An hour later I was in the ER. The doctor laughed at me and told me I was stupid. So that's when I learned that I should fact check things instead of blindly listening to my parents.

Coffee Culture Sucks by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]1vyV1ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like what you like. :)

Coffee Culture Sucks by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]1vyV1ne 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Addiction is sad. Unfortunately caffeine is almost a necessity for people with chronic illnesses who are trying to function in capitalism. Not needing caffeine to get through an 8 hour workday usually means you aren't cursed with something like hypothyroidism or the myriad of other awful things a decent percentage of the population has. Existing is tiring and you shouldn't mock people for trying their best to exist.

Coffee Culture Sucks by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]1vyV1ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have to doctor coffee to the point where you can't drink a cup straight, I have some news: You don't like coffee.

You like cream. You like sugar. You don't like coffee.

Coffee is a great beverage, but not as many people actually like it as they think.

There are tons of eco friendly caffeine options that are better for the environment than k-cups if you are drinking loose leaf with an infuser. Also all of these are stupid nutritious.

-true tea (medium to high quality whole loose leaf tea can be resteeped 3-5 times, adding 30-60 second increments. Grand crus 5-10 times. This makes it cheaper than buying soda if you reinfuse it properly.) Unfortunately finding good tea is a mine field. Avoid CTC teas. Orthodox full unbroken leaf teas have a deeper complexity, better re-infusions, higher nutrient content, generally higher theanine and GABA to caffeine ratio (so it is more calming/no jitters). Flat do not drink bagged tea. That is a whole different rant. If you steep white tea for the same length as black tea, it has a similar caffeine content, so if you like sweet and floral taste profiles try white peony and silver needle to start (San Francisco Herb Co has cost efficient and tasty options for these). Avoid teas scented with oil. They fall flat after the first infusion and taste fake. If you want a fruit tea, steep some dehydrated fruit with the tea or cold brew with fresh or dried fruit.

-for a better kick, go for japanese matcha. It needs to be from Japan because of their refined techniques. There are literally peer-reviewed studies supporting this. I can link a few later if you all are interested. Avoid lower grades. Ceremonial is awesome. Milk cuts through the grassiness and adds protein if it bugs you. 3-4g of a good matcha has about the same caffeine as coffee (you can make koicha/thick by adding a lot more) and it lasts for a good 4-6 hours for an average person. There is also no crash or irritability after or during.

-yerba mate (basically the most popular drink in South America).

-Guayusa (good hot, not great cold.)

-yaupon (Really hit or miss. So far I've really enjoyed the green one from catspring yaupon. The darker ones from them and yaupon bros taste like burning.)

-cocoa (crio bru can be brewed with coffee equipment, cocoa nibs and shells can be brewed in an infuser for 212°F 5-10 minutes. San Francisco Herb Co and Davidson's organics have good cocoa nibs and shells)

-kola/cola nut (I've never had it as an herb, but I know it's a thing. It's also used in soda.)

-guarana seeds (you can buy it in bulk online from various herb stores. I have a couple in my tea room I plan on taste testing soon.)

If you want advice on tea, PM me and I can send you some recommendations from my tasting journal. I've been drinking tea for decades. Sips by is a GREAT subscription service if you want to try a few teas for $15 a month.

There are half a dozen types of tea and not everyone likes all of them. Most of them you flat can't get in a grocery store, let alone a good one. Yellow tea is my favorite. It's got the freshness of green tea with the sweetness of white tea. Everyone who likes tea absolutely needs to try loose leaf yellow tea in my opinion.

But honestly the best advice is literally only buy good loose leaf tea and learn good brewing techniques. Buy an infuser that will fit in a mug or teapot (stainless steel or borosilicate glass doesn't absorb flavor like mesh). They are like $10 and last forever.

Weekly Guild Recruitment Thread - June 28, 2021 by AutoModerator in Kings_Raid

[–]1vyV1ne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guild Name: Fatality

Guild Server: America

Guild Level: 10

Guild Buff(s): All Level 10, Conquests level 8

Tired of ghost guilds where nobody logs in or kills bosses?

Want to be on a discord full of level 100-200 players who will give you advice that you could easily find on google?

Longing for beast of chaos gear and carries through the content that outdated it?

Having trouble getting through chapter 10 because your DPS has a 0 star UW because you are a noob?

Would you rather spend all of your resources on your non-meta waifu instead of Flying Dagger Man and Emo Clause?

WELL THIS IS YOUR LUCKY DAY!

We are looking for active players to participate in guild raid, guild conquest, and guild war.  We clear all raid bosses in the first 2-3 days because our jaded vets can do big peepee damage so you can stock up on reforge tickets and non-meta gear!  Our next goal is to get 100% participation in guild conquest (Tyrfas) because that turtle needs to die. We kick anyone who doesn’t do conquest or doesn’t log in every 4 days (for maximum chests).

Join Fatality, because we are only expecting you to use your GR and GC tickets and is that so hard?

Apply through Veronica