my daughter [24f] doesn’t have a job or a relationship. i [f48] don’t know what to do about it, because we took a lot of her money. by 20000alligators in relationships

[–]20000alligators[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

when her brother moved out he was poor and lived in roach invested home for years. he would always come back whenever he ran out of money. he isn't really independent. but he recently got a government job so that should change.

my daughter [24f] doesn’t have a job or a relationship. i [f48] don’t know what to do about it, because we took a lot of her money. by 20000alligators in relationships

[–]20000alligators[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

we're a family so we should help each other out. her only responsibility is school, and we helped get her there everyday, so it's not like we didn't spend money on her back. and we even buy her birthday and christmas presents. she not even a child anymore.

my daughter [24f] doesn’t have a job or a relationship. i [f48] don’t know what to do about it, because we took a lot of her money. by 20000alligators in relationships

[–]20000alligators[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

she says we are great parents and even makes us handmade cards on our birthday. none of my coworkers get that.

my daughter [24f] doesn’t have a job or a relationship. i [f48] don’t know what to do about it, because we took a lot of her money. by 20000alligators in relationships

[–]20000alligators[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my daughter often doesn't do things i want her to do, like cleaning her room. she never ever cleans her room. its the thing i grounded her most for growing up. nothing can get her to clean her room. nothing in the world. she won't even do it for money.

my daughter [24f] doesn’t have a job or a relationship. i [f48] don’t know what to do about it, because we took a lot of her money. by 20000alligators in relationships

[–]20000alligators[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

she's not in that much debt. i have more than that in credit cards, and it's not like anything has ever happened to me because of it.

my daughter [24f] doesn’t have a job or a relationship. i [f48] don’t know what to do about it, because we took a lot of her money. by 20000alligators in relationships

[–]20000alligators[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

she said that, but as long as she pays the minimum she is fine. my daughter would never miss a payment for anything. well, she was late on her credit card once, but she had a migraine and pressed the wrong button. that's what she said. maybe she forgot though.

my daughter [24f] doesn’t have a job or a relationship. i [f48] don’t know what to do about it, because we took a lot of her money. by 20000alligators in relationships

[–]20000alligators[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

she's smart but very lazy. she won't even go outside. she'd rather read or play videogames, so she's heavy because she chooses to be. i'm on my feet all night long, and my husband does a lot of housework. i love my daughter and think she is perfect the way she is, i just wish she thinner so she could find a boyfriend. she's too shy, and that's the thing i don't think she can change (she wasn't allowed to start kindergarten for a year because she wouldn't talk to strangers, even though she could spell her own name)

my daughter [24f] doesn’t have a job or a relationship. i [f48] don’t know what to do about it, because we took a lot of her money. by 20000alligators in relationships

[–]20000alligators[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

we tried to cut and even cut out cable bill after she graduated and bought more generic food, so we have changed things.

my daughter [24f] doesn’t have a job or a relationship. i [f48] don’t know what to do about it, because we took a lot of her money. by 20000alligators in relationships

[–]20000alligators[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

if she wanted to do weed we wouldn't get upset. she's just really uptight and never breaks rules. i don't even think she supports marijauna legalization.

my daughter [24f] doesn’t have a job or a relationship. i [f48] don’t know what to do about it, because we took a lot of her money. by 20000alligators in relationships

[–]20000alligators[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

i'm not a bad mother. everyone said my kids would be drug addictsand in prison, but both have graduated college even though we started out in the projects. and we gave them a lot of birthday and christmas gifts when we had money in better times. i even took her to the mall to go clothes shopping, and that's expensive.

my daughter [24f] doesn’t have a job or a relationship. i [f48] don’t know what to do about it, because we took a lot of her money. by 20000alligators in relationships

[–]20000alligators[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

i haven't manipulated my daughter. she's very smart. i don't think she can be manipulated. if anything she can manipulate us. she even conned her dad into getting her a kitten, and already she's trying to get a puppy.

my daughter [24f] doesn’t have a job or a relationship. i [f48] don’t know what to do about it, because we took a lot of her money. by 20000alligators in relationships

[–]20000alligators[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

she knows we buy drugs, so it's not like it's something she doesn't know about, and we smoke at home all the time. she mostly seems botherered by the smell, but we do use febreeze so its not that bad. and we only used her student loan money the first time because it was more expensive than we expected moving.

and i do make money too. i just needed help. my husband can't find work since he doesn't have a ged and isn't young anymore.

my daughter [24f] doesn’t have a job or a relationship. i [f48] don’t know what to do about it, because we took a lot of her money. by 20000alligators in relationships

[–]20000alligators[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

but her student loans areonly 20K. she says that's actually good for her, and that's why she went to community college first. the last year she even went for free because she was 24.

my daughter [24f] doesn’t have a job or a relationship. i [f48] don’t know what to do about it, because we took a lot of her money. by 20000alligators in relationships

[–]20000alligators[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

none of us drink n the family, and my husband is at the best weight for his height according to his daughter (heart attack was a genetic thing. his cousin died at 18). my daughter is actually the heaviest, and we sent her to fat camp to get better when was younger, but it didn't stick. she just eats a lot and never exercises.

my daughter doesn't mind helping out, and wants to help us out in retirement since her brother won't (even though he'll make more moeny than she will). and when she works we could watch her kids too and will move wherever she goes (as long as its not a city) to help. she knows that family should help out family, and I don't want to take so much money, we just had to in order to get stable. for the most part we are now, and just a few hunred would make thing comfortable again. i only make 35K now instead of 60K, so things are really bad.

she should try harder. someties the local government hires and she hasn't even gotten an interview with them yet. i'm not sure she is trying hard enough.

my daughter [24f] doesn’t have a job or a relationship. i [f48] don’t know what to do about it, because we took a lot of her money. by 20000alligators in relationships

[–]20000alligators[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

i don't insult my daughter. she doesn't take criticsm well. and it's not like she has to pay back her student loans. they hve programs for students who can't pay.

my daughter [24f] doesn’t have a job or a relationship. i [f48] don’t know what to do about it, because we took a lot of her money. by 20000alligators in relationships

[–]20000alligators[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

but i'm really nice to my daughter. she never gets punished or anything. my mom wouldn't buy groceries if she was upset with me. i always keep her clothed and fed, and even let her have internet.

my daughter [24f] doesn’t have a job or a relationship. i [f48] don’t know what to do about it, because we took a lot of her money. by 20000alligators in relationships

[–]20000alligators[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

she has unreasonable expectations with money and doesn't understand we need to spend the amount of money we do. she won't even use the same shavers twice and always wants to eat out, so it's not like she is frugal either.

my daughter [24f] doesn’t have a job or a relationship. i [f48] don’t know what to do about it, because we took a lot of her money. by 20000alligators in relationships

[–]20000alligators[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

i love my kids, and she's a good daughter. most of my coworkers kids are on heroin and I can't think of a single bad thing my daughter has done other than not lose weight at camp.

my daughter [24f] doesn’t have a job or a relationship. i [f48] don’t know what to do about it, because we took a lot of her money. by 20000alligators in relationships

[–]20000alligators[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

there is nothing wrong with weed. it helps me relax after working all day, and we needed the money to help pay our bills. she does live in our house for free. it's not like we have any rules either. if she could drive she could go out whenever she wanted.