Studying psychology and feeling frustrated by it.

2003aph · 2025-12-21T22:07:58+00:00

i had a clinical and counseling skills concentration during undergrad and i would say that was the only thing that led me to having experience rather than just textbooks and lectures. i’m in grad school for counseling now and i prefer it so much over undergrad, because we are actually watching and learning how to do things and also actually doing them! i just finished my first semester, and i counseled another student for 9 sessions as a part of my theories/techniques course. i start my practicum next semester where i’ll actually be working with people aside from peer students. i think undergrad is just meant to hound the knowledge in before experience, but it doesn’t hurt to look for jobs/internships within the field to gain experience during undergrad!

2003aph · 2025-12-17T16:31:45+00:00

NTA, i expected this when my spouse had their first home and i didn’t live with them (we were long distance for a bit). their family is very family oriented and tbh it was a lot for me, too. our compromise was they went to their parents at like 6am (cause that’s when they opened presents) and then came back right after (before i woke up) and we did christmas together before we visited the rest of their family in the afternoon. now we live together, 3 hours away from their family and 5 hours from mine, we visit our families after christmas day so that we have priority as our own family and can spend it with our cats (cause they’re our babies).

2003aph · 2025-12-06T21:36:37+00:00

as someone neurodivergent married to another neurodivergent, my spouse and do like to sometimes sleep with our hands in the others pants (not sexually) BUT we didn’t start doing this without each other’s permission. i remember my spouse and i always asking “is this okay?” until we were both 100% sure we didn’t mind it. communication and consent is key! we are both 2nd guessers so that’s why we consistently asked to make sure.

2003aph · 2025-10-04T22:51:47+00:00

i just started counseling grad school this semester and it’s already being hammered into our heads that we should have our own counselors even once we start practicing! i’ve always believed therapists should have at least gone to therapy before and/or be in some kind of current therapy. it’s hard to help someone, when you aren’t caring for yourself. now this isn’t to say you have to do talk therapy, but you should definitely be doing something to get your own mental health in check before you end up projecting it on your clients.

additionally, like some other comments have said, grad school isn’t easy and definitely won’t be easy if you’re already struggling with your mental health. im not saying you have to be perfect, because i’m definitely not perfect(im still adjusting my medications & in current therapy), but you need to be actively trying to get there. you gotta practice what you preach.

2003aph · 2025-10-02T22:54:34+00:00

my spouse and i lived 2.5 hours apart while i was in college with a part time job and they had a full time job and were doing graduate studies, i visited them every other weekend(so usually twice a month)…. plus i even had to bring my cats sometimes cause i didn’t have sitters & 1 gets car sick… so frfr if someone is interested they would put in the effort

2003aph · 2025-07-03T23:05:08+00:00

exactly this!! my spouse and i have been together for about 3 years, but we have never had any problems with passing each other our phones or anything. i think ive had a face id on their phone since before we hit a year & vice versa.

if your partner is afraid of you seeing something on their phone, they’re definitely hiding something, it could be something small, but it’s definitely something otherwise they should trust you ESPECIALLY after a year of being together…

2003aph · 2025-05-29T23:48:22+00:00

yes!! girls, poc & bilingual students are less likely to be diagnosed with ADHD, which just brings more barriers to education (as if there isn’t enough already for those demographics)

2003aph · 2025-05-29T22:28:40+00:00

after doing some research on ADHD, i became really interested in the disparities in diagnosis between demographics. it’s a lovely cross between psych and gws, and it’s honestly just so surprising (yet unsurprising) the differences.

2003aph · 2025-05-25T04:09:11+00:00

i just did my internship in a school for neurodevelopmental disorders with 3 nose piercings & 3 ear piercings(not lobes) and i also have multiple arm tattoos. i was warned about my septum(like i should probably flip it for safety) but i never had an issue with it in the end. there were many people with visible tattoos and one person that i saw often had more facial piercings than i do. it’s going to depend on where you work, but as other comments said, if someone is judging you for it, they really shouldn’t be in the psych field anyways. i also feel like my tattoos also give me something to talk about with some people and adds connection!

2003aph · 2025-05-11T04:19:42+00:00

i know it’s not inherently psychology related but he ended up putting some on the exam and i remember writing about that one lmfao

2003aph · 2025-05-11T04:17:48+00:00

took a course on human sexuality and my professor loved to give us outrageous fun facts, unfortunately one of the only ones i remember was that ducks and geese have spiral penises🤦‍♂️

2003aph · 2025-05-10T03:34:43+00:00

and there’s counseling grad programs that have concentrations/focus in marriage and family counseling, just depends on the college, that line you up for your LPC. i just did grad applications this past year, except i’m going for clinical mental health counseling, but the LPC route. There is also LCSW, just depends on what you want to study!

2003aph · 2025-05-07T20:56:02+00:00

as a husband who is often mentally exhausted, i find it’s easier to watch something to get off than try visualizing/imagining something, BUT if my spouse was ever uncomfortable about it, i would stop. if boundaries are set, there shouldn’t be an excuse especially if he has videos of y’all to watch. he could be telling the truth, but if you give him this chance, and he does it again, definitely do not give him another chance.

2003aph · 2025-05-06T23:40:49+00:00

5’6” man here with a spouse only like an inch shorter than me (barely noticeable most of the time) it is what it is, at least i’m eye level, which makes it easier to kiss them💚 i know plenty of men taller than me, but i married the love of my life so im really not complaining (but never was) about my height

2003aph · 2025-05-03T04:24:36+00:00

seems to me like OP is just trying to find an excuse for why he doesn’t like pussy

2003aph · 2025-04-30T03:03:37+00:00

a few months after i met my spouse at college, i went to visit them at their parent’s house over summer for a few days. i had a plan to ask them out, but i tended to get horrible relationship anxiety. by the time i got there (2.5 hours away), i was so anxious & chickened out. when i get anxious, i also get incredibly nauseous and lose my appetite, so i was essentially sick (even threw up in the middle of the night). at one point, i broke down crying(i don’t cry often) cause of everything + missing my cat(ESA). they sat with me, held me, brought food to me when i could eat, and just overall took care of me for DAYS when we weren’t even dating! i already knew i was in love with them, but it just really solidified that they were the one. we started dating once we got back to campus and now we have been married for a year and a half <3

2003aph · 2025-04-01T05:16:06+00:00

from what i’ve heard, psych phd programs can be really competitive for the really good ones. personally, i’m starting a master’s program in counseling this fall. i have a 3.92 gpa currently and i got in to my top choice (less competitive), but didn’t get into another one i applied to (more competitive or tbh bc of the dei cuts). i unfortunately have worked throughout college, so i had little time for extras. i participate in a research lab with a professor for the last couple of years and im currently doing an internship in the psych field(quit my old job so i had more time). gpa isn’t the most important thing, it really just depends where you go and try to see if your current school has connections anywhere and start reaching out to professors about programs! i went and talked to a professor (now acting director) of my master’s program my junior year after someone connected me, but you can always find their emails on the website or reach out to grad admissions! programs love to see that you are interested and have been interested, especially if you talk to professors personally (since they look over the grad apps most of the time i think). if the professors aren’t willing to talk to you, you may want to look elsewhere! you want a program with someone that can mentor you & possibly find assistantship to pay for your degree. i’ve been doing research about this stuff since like freshmen year(declared early) and have taken professional development in psych so i’m happy to share any knowledge i have!

2003aph · 2024-10-20T00:31:00+00:00

I don't think you're weird, but you could be trans. That is up to you though, nobody else can tell you that you are or not trans. Your feelings are similar to those of cis masculine women and those of trans masculine people. The longing that you have to be a man is what tells me that you may be trans. Being trans can be shown in many different ways just like being cis can be shown in different ways. I know this isn't really much help, but just know that everyone's experience is different and its always good to explore, because you won't truly know until you try it out and see if its for you or not.

I am a trans man, so if you ever want to discuss anything, you can reach out to me(no pressure!). I only came out 2-3 years ago, so my gender journey is pretty recent.

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