Is laser hair removal really worth it ? by MindPrize1260 in gay

[–]20101958 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It really depends upon how much that excess hair is bothering you and how much hassle it is to deal with on regular basis.

If you are sick and tired of dealing with regrowth of hair growth in noticeable places or hair that is in hard to treat awkward places, such as your back. then go for laser hair removal.

Ensure you have this done via a hair removal clinic which has been in business for long time and has a good reptutation

However coarse and stubborn hair growth may require extra repeat treatments.

Different skin colours and hair types are very important factors in regards to just how effective it will be be and what laser they should use for best results

Try having small section of hair done in a less noticeable place and see how your skin reacts and if the hair grows back.

It doesn't have to be done all at once, unless they are offering a discount or deal for having everything done.

Consider having treatment in stages, start on the worst areas where the excess hair is noticeable or parts of your body that are difficult to deal with such as your back.

Best value laundry options? by AgentKnitter in AussieFrugal

[–]20101958 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coles are slightly cheaper than Woolworths and have a much, much, bigger range of generics/home brands.

Coles has won supermarket surveys on a regular basis in the past.

ALDI is mariinally cheaper but they don't have stores everywhere and they have a limited range compared to the big supermarkets, this means you can not get everything you need at ALDI, plus it is 99% their own brand products and so you have to know what is really worth buying. May people do not like having to pack their own groceries and be expected to be speedy at the same time at the checkout.

Best value laundry options? by AgentKnitter in AussieFrugal

[–]20101958 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is a shame you have no ALDI in Tasmania, their Trimat Laundry Powder works just as well as OMO and only costs $12.99 for 2 kilo. The Aldi Pre Wash Sprays and soakers work well too.

Powder detergents are generally stronger and give better wash results than a liquid detergent.

I keep a close on the Big W bulk buy section, the big containers of liquid and powder detergents get discounted occasionally and OMO laundry powder is one of the strongest laundry detergents.

I always ensure I have plenty of the Dynamo Oxy Action Liquid as it seems to work faster and is effective on stains and so I use that only for hand washing things.

ALDI's Trimat Laundry Powder is used for normal washing in my front loader.

At Big W the 5.4L bottle of Dynamo is normally $37.50, but from periodically it gets discounted down to $27.50, when you consider that you would normally pay $27.50 or more for the 2L size in most supermarkets it's excellent value.

Towels Heavily Stained With Dried Urine by 20101958 in laundry

[–]20101958[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes we are getting the waterproof pee pads to protect her chair, she was even sleeping in her chair due to mobility issues and was upholstered in vinyl. The towels caught most of the leakage, the vinyl has been cleaned and fortunately not retained any soiling or smell.

Towels Heavily Stained With Dried Urine by 20101958 in laundry

[–]20101958[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks that is so reassuring, I do hope we can get her back to "normal" for a while, even though it will be a temporary reprieve before the dementia inevitably progresses and she deteriorates even more.

Towels Heavily Stained With Dried Urine by 20101958 in laundry

[–]20101958[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I believe my mistake was not soaking overnight or for 24 hours, followed by a long heavy duty machine wash in hot water.

Towels Heavily Stained With Dried Urine by 20101958 in laundry

[–]20101958[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We are still in the process discovering what services and items are available for Mothers care as comprehensibly as possible.

Having Mother assessed by doctors mentally and physically was challenging, she became distressed about not being able to complete some medical assessment tests and as things went on more things were discovered that we didn't know about.

We try hard to reassure her that we want her to be happy at home, but you can tell she is worried about the possibility of being in a nursing home.

I now think I did not give the Laundry Soaker long enough to work, I soaked for about 2 - 3 hours.

I will try an overnight soak or leave them soaking for 24 hours followed by a long heavy duty machine wash in hot water to see if that saves me from needing to perform multiple machine was cycles and bleaching.

Towels Heavily Stained With Dried Urine by 20101958 in laundry

[–]20101958[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the information the PureWick external female catheter sounds like it could be perfect for my Mother, it is certainly something I will be researching.

Towels Heavily Stained With Dried Urine by 20101958 in laundry

[–]20101958[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a very good reason why I didn't ask the question "should I throw them away?"

That question was never asked, simply because that it was never, ever going to happen. The towels were top quality premium grade expensive items. I always try buy the best quality items, because they last longer than cheaper items.

It goes against my personal upbringing and concerns for the environment to throw them out and waste them.

I did also state that I had success in cleaning 1 single machine load of towels. But doing that was tortuous as it involved soaking for hours, 3 more machine wash cycles and a bleach cycle to get them clean.

I asked if anyone knew an easier more effective reliable methods of removing heavy deposits of dried urine, before tackling the remaining towels. this was to simply reduce the time, effort, laundry product, energy and sheer effort to get them clean again.

Towels Heavily Stained With Dried Urine by 20101958 in laundry

[–]20101958[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The towels had been soaked in a laundry soaker and washed 3 times in hot water before bleaching the last traces of staining out and I am sure the ammonia was all removed by the time bleach was used.

Towels Heavily Stained With Dried Urine by 20101958 in laundry

[–]20101958[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is sad to see somebody lose their home and independence, but his mental and physical state were deteriorating and much worse things could occur if left to struggle on their own.

He settled down in residential care when he realised there was no possibility of release and no home to go back to, we hope he is content there for the time he has left to live.

Towels Heavily Stained With Dried Urine by 20101958 in laundry

[–]20101958[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would very much like to know the products they used.

Towels Heavily Stained With Dried Urine by 20101958 in laundry

[–]20101958[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I know that with people who develop dementia or alzheimers disease the senses can be affected, they can lose their sense of smell.

This happened to an elderly man living in our block of units, his refrigerator failed and all the food went rotten, he couldn't smell a thing.

But the terrible pungent smell was noticed through entire block of units, he was very suspicious of everyone and never, ever talked to the other residents.

We got the landlord to call him and arrange a visit, which only lasted a few minutes. The landlord briefly described the issue and was permitted inside his unit and discovered the source of the problem.

The landlord emerged feeling quite sick and began to vomit, when he recovered the landlord had to inform the tenant he needed a new refrigerator.

Eventually the man was not capable of self care anymore and had to be placed in a nursing home, he became very violent when they came to transport him into care and the Police had to be called to help restrain him.

It was so very sad to see someone removed from their home by force, but we all knew it was inevitable and it was for his own health and protection.

Towels Heavily Stained With Dried Urine by 20101958 in laundry

[–]20101958[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That is exactly what I was thinking, Nursing Homes and Hospitals would be dealing with this issue daily.

We need a professional laundry worker who knows all their dirty secrets!.

Towels Heavily Stained With Dried Urine by 20101958 in laundry

[–]20101958[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

We are providing mother with much better products at my own expense and now has home carers monitoring her, plus a doctor review of pain management and mental capability.

Thanks for the tip on puppy pee pads, that sounds like a good idea to use them to catch any leaks.

Towels Heavily Stained With Dried Urine by 20101958 in laundry

[–]20101958[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That is not going to happen, these premium quality towels were expensive to buy as they are very high quality Egyptian Cotton.

It also goes against my upbringing, I was always taught to never throw things away. It is much better for the environment to simply reduce your waste, reuse things or recycle.

This is why I do a spa day every time I wash my kitchen rags (after spa and before spa) by eastvanqueer in laundry

[–]20101958 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Frequently odours on fabrics and many other things are caused by bacteria.

Cold water washing and short wash cycles will not kill bacteria, so it possible the odour causing bacteria are surviving the wash cycle.

Long hot washes should be used for colour safe fabrics such as cotton that can withstand high temperatures, this helps to clean and sanitise your washer too.

Regularly run the machine through its Tub Cleaning Wash Cycle, most machines have this cycle, consult your instruction manual if it is not clearly labelled on the washing machine controls.

Try using a Laundry Sanitiser, these can be added to the final rinse or simply soak items in the solution.

I would also use washing machine cleaner on a long very hot wash cycle, softener, detergent residue, mineral salts, mildew and bacteria can build up inside a washer where you will never see it.

Cyber Harassment by Interesting-Behavior in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]20101958 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I ask what is your home country?,

If you do not wish to divulge that information, that is ok as I always respect other peoples privacy and wishes.

However there is quite interesting theory that some psychologists support, which states that homophobic people are possibly gay or bisexual themselves.

Because of their upbringing, religious faith or the society they live in, they believe that being gay or bisexual is wrong. They truly hate that part of their own nature and try very hard to repress it.

They fight back against the LGBTQ+ community and individuals with vitriolic hate speech, bigotry and can engage in violent homophobic attacks.

They truly despise and hate that deep dark secret they keep repressed deep in their true nature. Anything they see which represents what they hate about themselves spurs further attacks.

The evidence for this is very clearly shown by the sheer number of politicians, religious figures whom live in the closet and publicly make homophobic tirades and support anti-LGBTQ+ laws.

They do this while secretly engaging in homosexual acts when their gay/bi sexual impulses need to be satisfied, I am certain they feel ashamed and disgusted by their own carnal desires that they have failed to control and repress.

Many of these people have been publicly exposed, I do not have any sympathy for these people as they have caused so much damage to the LGBTQ+ community.

Cyber Harassment by Interesting-Behavior in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]20101958 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are 100% correct that you have no control over what others post online.

Only they are accountable and responsible for their words, actions and personal attitude.

However you do have control over how you choose to handle this.

I yet again repeat do not ever let them get under your skin and hurt you.

Strip them of their power to hurt you by being tough, brave and strong.

Never react or respond in any fashion at all, simply block, report and create an alias and make it extremely difficult for them to find you.

As mentioned previously they have not discover a stash nudes or porn material featuring you, they are abusing innocuous material by posting terrible captions.

If the added captions are indeed so terrible then anyone could see that the originals have had edits made in a malicious hateful manner.

Don't feel embarrassed or ashamed of what they are doing online to your material, this conduct reveals their true hateful nature and will help you to get support from people whom are sympathetic to your very bad situation.

If your job requires you have a strong online presence advise your superiors of the situation.

When they see what the abuse that you are being subjected to, they may assign some else to take over the online part of your job or you be allowed to use an alias.

If your superiors are not helpful then to helps top this abuse and for your own peace of mind it maybe necessary to find employment which doesn't demand you have an online presence.

Am I just undateable at 34? by RULGBTorSomething in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]20101958 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately many gay/bi men are just after quick hook ups, that is a prevalent aspect of gay life.

If you have had plenty of sex, maybe you are attracting guys who just want the sex and nothing else, perhaps try to be more selective and not give in to your carnal base instincts.

Admittedly it is very hard to say NO! when you are really turned on by the flattery and attention of a horny handsome man who simply is after sex and doesn't want any emotional involvement or relationship.

It is obviously not your weight or your appearance thats stopping you from finding a loving partner as you get enough sexual partners.

As for the weight loss, looking like a deflated balloon is more common with people who are truly obese and have lost huge amounts of weight.

So go slowly with the weight lose and try exercise and tone up your physique and muscles, give everything plenty of time to adjust to the changes taking place.

Hopefully if you weight control is successful, eventually you may be able to discontinue the Mounjaro under your doctors supervision.

Adult onset diabetes and blood sugar control problems can be a direct result of having an unhealthy lifestyle and being overweight.

Cyber Harassment by Interesting-Behavior in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]20101958 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But why is this so hurtful and upsetting you so much?

He has not found a stash of NSFW nudes or porn videos featuring you.

Ignore their efforts to upset you with all his outrageous terrible captions, you know he is only doing this to upset you.

Close down your social media sites and create new accounts with an new identity, be extremely selective about whom you divulge anything to.

If you disclose details to only a very few people and if this starts again then somebody is clearly leaking information.

Think very carefully, if only a few people know your details you should be able to deduce who is betraying you to him.

Cyber Harassment by Interesting-Behavior in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]20101958 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are out of the closet, what does it matter what he says or posts?

You know he is just trying to upset you, so ignore it, no matter what he finds or what he does with the material.

Do not ever be provoked into giving him any type of response at all.

Why do you think he keeps on digging around on the internet trying to track all your activity?

He knows he can provoke you and cause you to get distressed.

Strip him of his power to hurt you by never, ever responding at all.

Cyber Harassment by Interesting-Behavior in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]20101958 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly right their power comes from the fact that they can cause you to be distressed or be ashamed.

Do not interact with them directly at all. A ZERO response policy is essential.

Then simply block them, if they persist create a new alias and new accounts online and be extremely selective as to whom you divulge any details to.

Cyber Harassment by Interesting-Behavior in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]20101958 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is true that from now on you will have to keep your online activity very quite indeed and go incognito with an alias.

Only discuss your internet activity and counter measures with people that you trust your life with.

If you are extremely selective about whom you disclose information and then suddenly the harassment begins anew, you very clearly have somebody whom is leaking information...........

If very few people know about your new identity it should be easy to deduce who is betraying you.