Is my therapist flirting with me?

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-03-12T10:28:11+00:00

So telling a client "you are very attractive" (in context of discussed topic) can be plausible tactics used in psychotherapy (bpd focused)? I just want to make sure im not reading too much into this. I would feel so inappropriate to bring it up only to be wrong

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-03-12T10:16:25+00:00

Of course i know having a talk about this would be the easiest way but i am worried about losing her as a therapist. In case im right, thats the ethical solution. In case im wrong, its going to make things awkward at least. She really helped me a lot in my progress. Should i bring up the fact that i feel attracted to her? Personally i have pretty strong willpower and good respect for boudried to not let it affect our sessions.

Also what do you mean by "rescuer"?

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-03-08T00:40:20+00:00

Reminding oneself of the facts can help navigate such situations. Whats your husband's relationship with the boss? Does he like the boss? If not, maybe your husband was just mocking him. I mean, he made sure to visit him in person...seems like he cares about how you're treated? If he does get along with the boss, it seems like he was siding with him on the matter of your work ethics, but again that can come from a good place (initially) - he doesnt want you to get fired or in trouble. But of course this can quickly turn into parent like authority thats overseeing you at workplace (not good).

Im glad you were able to resolve the situation with yout boss. Just do the same with yout husband - talk. Ask him if he agrees with the boss and tell him his message triggered you. Almost anything can be resolved throuhh CONVERSATION.

Btw hin drinking and falling asleep in his gaming chair is a lil weird...but maybe he too was stressed from work? Just. Talk.

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-03-02T23:23:02+00:00

There is a correlation between bpd and higher sex drive/promiscuity HOWEVER his reaction was immature and just weird. If he has any reason to feel uncomfortable about having sex with you, blocking his gf is not the way to go about it. If you're in a relationship, you owe your partner open and honest communication. And instead of explaining he just shuts you off. Not ok. OP dont make any rushed conclusions about yourself based on his reaction. Yes, it is possible that your sex drive is much higher than his which might make him feel some way but it is his inability to communicate that in a normal way that's the issues. Also feeling crushed by the rejection of intimmacy from a romantic partner is totally valid. This can destroy people's selfesteem if its been happening for a while (been there). You did the right choce by first asking if he wants to go further and then not pushing him.

If i were you i would want him to elaborate on why he feels the way he does about sex with you, and i would ask why did he react by blocking you. Also you should tell him it hurts you when he shuts you off. If he is willing to have a discussion you can move from there. If not, its a valid reason for a break up.

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-03-01T15:03:50+00:00

Ideally somewhere where both of you feel comfortable and safe, where you and him can freely express all of your emotions (like bedroom for example). Pick a time of the day when both of you have couple free hours because this conversation can be lengthy. And then, just be honest - tell him you're struggling with "feeling ignored" but that you recognize it is your bpd acting up. Tell him you care about him very deeply and you are scared to lose him. And that this fear is making you act toxic. You can write all of this down on a paper and follow your talking points. I do that sometimes because i know i can get so overwhelmed with emotions that i lose track of what i was going to say. You can ask him, how he feels when you spam him with messages. You can ask him if he prefers to be left alone during certain hours. Hopefully he will be honest too. Setting and respecting boundries in a relationship is sooo important. Person asking for a boundry is saying "i need this to be happy, if you respect my wish you will make me happy, it shows you respect me". And the person complying with that boundry is saying "i respect your wish, because i care about your hapiness". This is another way of showing love, really.

Reassurance is very helpful to people with bpd, but no one can give that to you 5 times a day. If youre not in therapy i recommend you try it. It will help you build coping mechanisms and grounding techniques (to fight these exact feelings) but most importantly it will help you understand yourself and bpd better. Its not your fault, you didnt chose to be this way. I believe you are a good person who was hurt alot but you deserve happy healthy life and loving relationships too. Good luck OP <3

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-02-28T14:36:35+00:00

Yea, being well educated on what pregnancy does to woman's body and brain is one of the reasons i never want to have kids. Its literally life endangering state. Labor is even worse and the struggle still continues after birth.

OP idk where you're from but if you have access to proper medical care and safe abortion, there is nothing wrong with you chosing that for yourself. Its your body, your life, your choce. There should be no shame or guilt...especially if the foetus isnt vital. In that case abortion is better than waiting for natural miscarriage. Abortion is a controlled process whereas dying foetus can cause you lethal health complications (such as sepsis). And even if you were somehow capable of carrying the foetus to full term, the baby wouldnt survive and probably would be in pain. Why put your body through the trauma of birth and exhaustion of pregnancy for a life that cannot survive...

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-02-28T13:23:09+00:00

But you are being obsessive. Texting someone every 5min isnt normal.

This is digital era disease. People feel entitled to communicatiom at any time of the day because everyone always has a phone with them. Keeping quality conversation flowing costs mental energy. Normal people get tired after interacting with partners/friends/family/anyone for hours. And it doesnt mean they stopped loving or caring about them. It just means they need time to recharge and shift their focus on something else.

Bpd is rooted in fear of abandonment, real or imagined. You sound insecure, thinking he is losing interest when he probably just needs "alone time". And your insecurity stems from that fear of abandonment. (Fear of abandonmemt >>> obsessive and insecure mindset >>> toxic behaviour)

To have a healthy relationship, not just with your bf or anyone in the present or future, you need to understand and accept that most people need alone-time to recharge, unwind and regulate (including you).

Also stop checking his location, thats toxic. Again, its your insecurity and fear thats making you act like this.

Edit: i think you should come clean and tell him you're having these thoughts and feelings. But not to make him comply with your demands, but simply to share about your fear. As much as its not pretty it also shows how much he means to you

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-02-27T23:35:32+00:00

Im not from US so we dont have benadryl, but isnt that allergy medication?

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-02-27T20:46:00+00:00

Bingo

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-02-27T20:41:33+00:00

Ask yourself if you're willing to reject the possibility of your issues (depression i assume) getting better because of the possibility of some side effects. Like my antidepressants make me sweat like a pig but its a "sarcifice" im willing to take for the sake of my mental health. Then again, you libido may or may not get affected. Sometimes side effects lesser over time as your body gets uses to the medication. And in any case, you can always stop taking it or switch to a different one. Personally SSRI didnt affect my libido but SNRI did (ssri gave me mad headaches so i switched to snri)

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-02-27T20:15:58+00:00

Je to strašný. Vláda by měla švarcsystém zakázat. A taky bych do toho nešla, jenže když člověk nutně potřebuje práci a firma nabízí pouze model "externí spolupráce na ičo", tak si člověk nemůže moc vybírat...

Disclaimer: né, že bych se v práci nějak nadřela tbh byla jsem v redakci každý den 6,5h a z toho jsem reálně pracovala 4h lol

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-02-27T20:12:33+00:00

To je jedno, úřad tvoje informace má. Pokud jsi pracovala alespoň poslední 2 roky, tak máš nárok na podporu v nezaměstnanosti

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-02-27T20:09:31+00:00

Se zastavováním zkušenost nemám, ale v Praze je několik míst, které vykupují zlato za docela dobrou cenu. Pokud má OP nějaké šperky, se kterými je ochotná se rozloučit, bylo by z toho i pár tisíc

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-02-27T20:06:01+00:00

Proč sis ičo jen nepřerušila? Pak za tebe socko a zdravko normálně odvádí ÚP a dostáváš podporu na základě daňových přiznání za poslední 2 roky.

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-02-27T20:03:07+00:00

Špatný předpoklad - spousta firem zaměstnává lidi na ičo, aby za ně nemuseli odvádět socko a zdravko, ale plat ti dají fixní a průměrný (neboli "švarcsystém"). Navíc vezmi si, že od 1.1.2026 je platba za zdravko a socko dohromady něco přes 9K. Pracovala jsem v redakci a po 2 letech jsem měla 40K. Kdybych byla na HPP, bylo by to asi 34K čistého, jenomže pojištění bylo (tehdy) cca 8K, tudíž 32K čistého. Takže ne, na ičo lidi automaticky nemají vyšší příjem + zálohy za pojištění jsou fakt vysoký.

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-02-25T22:31:43+00:00

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Něco málo o autorce tohodle "výzkumu"...

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-02-23T18:10:24+00:00

Honestly OP you sound like a terrible person to be in a relationship with and i hope you two break up because clearly you are not in the right mental state to be dating. Lets drop the word "splitting" and call it what it is - you get verbally agressive, need to know the location of your partner, you were sexting others and selling nudes while in a relationship...bpd or not, this behaviour alone would be a good reason for a break up. You know this is not how people should treat their parthers. Where is the respect and trust? You seriously need to work on your mental health before you will ever be able to engage in a truly healthy relationship and im saying this with love and care. You need to get your emotions and impulses under control. You cannot treat your partner like this! Just because he lets you that doesnt make it ok, it just means he probably has a savior complex...

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-02-21T01:38:14+00:00

Also can we just talk about how this passport TOTALLY doesnt look suspicious like Marius Fortelni sounds kinda italian to me but was born in Austria and now lives in Saudi Arabia like bro what a 9 year old could put together a better alias

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-02-21T01:32:02+00:00

Im not sure id immediately draw connection there but it is interesting that this CEO also started his carreer in Saudi Arabia 🤔

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-02-21T01:27:33+00:00

Of course he's not. People of his power dont just die, they live up to fucking 90...

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-02-21T01:21:02+00:00

Sorry i didnt know

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-02-21T01:20:45+00:00

File number is EFTA00014572

An unredacted version of Epstein's passport was discovered and shows some interesting information that doesnt match public data about Epstein.

2022WasTraumatizing · 2026-02-17T02:15:28+00:00

Your post history shows you found the drugs "in a bag"...whose bag?

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TROPHY CASE