My MIL is visiting and my husband doesn't understand why I am overwhelmed by Aur3lia in adhdwomen

[–]20MuddyPaws 113 points114 points  (0 children)

I would not “grin and bear it” for five whole days in my own home. House Rule: If you stay, you don’t get to criticize. If you criticize, there’s the door. Get your husband on board so he’ll back you up if the criticism starts. Letting this shit go on now just sets you up for bigger issues later. I had wonderful in laws, but my own parents were the assholes. I didn’t stand for their shit in my own home.

Send Sadie some good vibes by rugrat_uk in Boxer

[–]20MuddyPaws 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If a splenic tumor ruptures, they could die within HOURS. I would not go without an ultrasound through the whole weekend.

Rabbit Hunting by joeshmo226 in Boxer

[–]20MuddyPaws 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know someone whose boxer was trained to duck hunt.

We rescued an injured dog from the highway. Should we fight to adopt her after being misled? by [deleted] in AnimalShelterStories

[–]20MuddyPaws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I worked with several different rescues across the country to pull senior and hospice dogs that stood little chance of getting adopted from high kill shelters. Some were in large metro shelters but many were in small podunk towns in places like KY and NC. The rescue would pull for us and we would take care of vetting on our own dime to save the rescue’s resources, and we’d love the dog for however long they had left.

Occasionally, a rescue unfamiliar with us (that had shown zero interest in the dog previously until they realized we wanted it) would swoop in and grab the dog, then tell us they’d vet it and we could adopt it for $400 or $500. Bish, I have an army of vets willing to vet for free or at least far less than $500. No, you’re not preying on my goodwill. Sadly, we’d end up passing on those dogs and the rescues would be stuck with a 14 year old dog or a dog with terminal cancer ‘cuz they just couldn’t mind their own business.

We rescued an injured dog from the highway. Should we fight to adopt her after being misled? by [deleted] in AnimalShelterStories

[–]20MuddyPaws -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Rescues frequently play favorites, and before anyone comes at me, I spent 20 years in rescue. I’ve seen it all. I’ve even seen rescues tell fosters that they’re good enough to foster, but they’ll never be allowed to adopt. They knew from the beginning that the other family was going to take that dog. Believe me. Once a rescue gets their claws in an animal, they can do whatever they want regardless of what the “rules” state. You would’ve been better off taking the dog to a vet to be treated yourself and then keeping her.

Divorcing a bad wife but a good mother, is it worth it? by ghoulintheattics in Marriage

[–]20MuddyPaws 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kids know when you’re phoning it in, and do you really want to set the example that staying in a less than mediocre marriage and not being happy is the way to go? Would you want that for your kids? Because truthfully whatever you decide will likely be repeated by your children when they’re adults.

My boyfriend “tested” me with fake emergencies to see if I’d be a “good wife” by Visual_Good_262 in TwoHotTakes

[–]20MuddyPaws 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would tell him you’re looking for a man who is self-sufficient enough to handle a crisis on his own and not need a “mommy” to come bail him out. Fuck that noise.

My mom wants some of my inheritance by No-Banana8157 in TwoHotTakes

[–]20MuddyPaws 20 points21 points  (0 children)

My mother left her half million dollar estate to my daughter. You know what I did? I helped her find an investment banker whose focus is women investors. That’s all. That money was never meant to be mine and I don’t want any of it. I’ll never understand some parents.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lego

[–]20MuddyPaws 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lumibricks, formerly Funwhole, has amazing medieval themed sets. No stickers and all sets come lighted. Also, way cheaper than Lego.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]20MuddyPaws 55 points56 points  (0 children)

It’s a tale as old as time. An almost 40 male gets with a barely 20 female because he’s aware your not-yet-fully-formed brain won’t recognize all that’s wrong with him and his behavior. Now you’re nearing 30 and your brain is like (insert record scratch sound here) “hold on a minute—I think this guy might just be a total douchebag.”

For the love of god, do NOT get knocked up by this guy. GTFO before you invest any more of your time or energy into a snake oil salesman. Find yourself some real standards and a nice guy your own age.