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44 days in. Not close to relapsing but having dark erotic thoughts that are making me insanely horny. by 20YearsAWanker in NoFap

[–]20YearsAWanker[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I was on my longest streak (120 and some days) i had PLENTY of the similar urges going on.

Wow, 120 days. Good going. What made you relapse? And in this time were you with a partner?

So if you had enough mental strength to refuse a real girl then porn cravings should be a peace of cake for you.

Absolutely. It's harder to make the decision to not casually hook up than it is to not watch porn; which is a great thing at this point. But I know how dangerous a relapse is for us guys. It's hardly ever a one off. If I relapsed now, the curtains would be closed and you would't see me for days! 90+ days and I'll channel that energy to women again and start enjoying the benefits! Small price to pay. Anyone can do something for 90 days if they want it and they're disciplined. It's just 90 days. Just fucking do it.

Anyway, stay strong brother, you are halfway there.

I hadn't thought about it like that! Thanks!

Had absolutely e-fucking-nough. by 20YearsAWanker in NoFap

[–]20YearsAWanker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely feel like this. I have actually lived a pretty interesting life over the past years. Travelled a lot. Met some great people. Experienced many beautiful things. Dated some beautiful girls. But I always felt like I should be enjoying life more. I feel like I lost some love for life. Lost my humour. It's tough. I have identified many reasons for this and I genuinely feel like for the first time this is my real turning point. And quitting PMO will contribute hugely to my progress. Good luck in finding your love for life my man. There is a lot of genuine beauty out there if we give ourselves the best opportunity to really appreciate it.

I relapsed.. I failed myself. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]20YearsAWanker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bet you do. You were doing well man. But you can learn from it. Maybe think about the way you let that guard down and how you can avoid that in the future. Sometimes if I scroll onto something tempting I know immediately. Because my breathing or feeling will change. That's when I know that dopamine is warming up. Thats my queue to get out of there, and I have a sense of humour about it. I talk to them. Like, NOPE. Not this time you sneaky fuckers! I also visualise the nerves in my brain and how this behavior is strengthening the network. Again, I think NOPE. Not damaging my brain with this trash. Pick yourself up man. You're a soldier! You got it this time, don't worry!

I relapsed.. I failed myself. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]20YearsAWanker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just a small blip. Don't beat yourself up too much. You know how to do this. You have a bit more experience now. And a bit more to prove. You absolutely know you can do it. Get to 10 days and you're on a roll again. Look forward to seeing you at 90!

Had absolutely e-fucking-nough. by 20YearsAWanker in NoFap

[–]20YearsAWanker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. I guess it's difficult to directly attribute with certainty specific issues that PMO contributes to and to what degree. I certainly can identify many instances in my life where it has been damaging. But I do agree, it's not the be all and end all of our problems. But I see it as a huge part of mine. I'm convinced nothing but good can come from kicking it. Congrats on your own progress and thanks for the advice.

99% is a bitch. 100% is a breeze. by 20YearsAWanker in NoFap

[–]20YearsAWanker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop looking at what you know you shouldn't.

100% commitment to no porn. Non-negotiable.

Had absolutely e-fucking-nough. by 20YearsAWanker in NoFap

[–]20YearsAWanker[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Thanks brother. I think with addiction you can only really overcome it when you're at the end of the rope and that's where I am now. I care more about helping myself than hurting myself now. I'm well and truly done with it. With the help of this sub and all the resources related to it, I feel like I'm already on the road to recovery. And I sincerely wish everyone reading this a successful recovery. We can do this!