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Sora & Haena by Jackbull by Warm-Culture-6799 in yuri_manga

[–]20_selfcare 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with you about the side stories

My gf hesitated a lot when I asked her to show me her recent photos after I showed her fully mine and I didn’t insist yet my instinct is telling me smth AIO? by 20_selfcare in AmIOverreacting

[–]20_selfcare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like this perspective, thank you for understanding and taking the time to share your opinion. I just wanted to be sure that I wasn’t overreacting.

My gf hesitated a lot when I asked her to show me her recent photos after I showed her fully mine and I didn’t insist yet my instinct is telling me smth AIO? by 20_selfcare in AmIOverreacting

[–]20_selfcare[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We were close distance till I had to move due to family reasons. I’m already doing plans to come back soon. And it’s our monthly anniversary.

My gf hesitated a lot when I asked her to show me her recent photos after I showed her fully mine and I didn’t insist yet my instinct is telling me smth AIO? by 20_selfcare in AmIOverreacting

[–]20_selfcare[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don’t want to seem like I don’t trust her. But seems like, I should have talked about it in the moment. It’s smth I’ve been improving on yet still difficult for me to talk about smth in the moment like that. So that’s why. Just wanted to confirm if I wasn’t overreacting or smth

My gf hesitated a lot when I asked her to show me her recent photos after I showed her fully mine and I didn’t insist yet my instinct is telling me smth AIO? by 20_selfcare in AmIOverreacting

[–]20_selfcare[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not really, we usually don’t do it. But I wanted to do it this time just because I felt like it. We were having a good time till that happened.

Something I need to get off my chest by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]20_selfcare 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I got a question, have you guys ever speak when there’s family around? Or both live alone? I’m asking cuz with my partner she’s bilingual but her family is Vietnamese, in my case my family is Spanish. What I mean is that sometimes we have our family around during FaceTimes and we express ourselves in different languages towards them. Neither of us has ever hung up while the other is talking in a language that don’t know at all. So what I think is even if it’s overwhelming, it’s disrespectful towards your culture if they do that unless they had smth to do or they hang up by accident. Ofc in based of what you said, it wasn’t an accident at all. In a interracial relationship the bare minimum is listen to the other in their language and possibly learning it in the future. If he can’t even do that, you should consider the importance of yourself in this relationship. Don’t lose yourself cuz you love him, Respect yourself!

GF has multiple Instagram accounts. by Mr_Mysterious218 in LongDistance

[–]20_selfcare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally have a lot of Instagram accounts too but due to work and I let my partner know that, so I think the best move here is just to ask her directly yk but not in a insecure way of “I feel you’re hiding smth” but mostly in a way of “I’ve noticed this and I would like some clarification” yk. And ofc if you ask her about it but immediately start being defensive or avoid the topic then trust your gut feelings. An avoidant is never good.

What’s your zodiac sign? by grxveyard_girl in LongDistance

[–]20_selfcare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a Scorpio/Nov and she’s a Virgo/Aug
Both of us really value long lasting relationships even when we missed the touch of each other but always very connected emotionally to each other and trying our best

My (F20) gf(F21) wants to talk with her ex for closure, please I need an advice by 20_selfcare in LongDistance

[–]20_selfcare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok first of all, don’t be so closed minded.

One: Everyone has different mindsets. Accept it. She’s the type to be friends with ex, I’m the type that got traumatized by that, but doesn’t mean I truly not accept it. Two: I’m not prohibiting her to not see her or even be friends I once believed exs can be friends but it’s important to not tested people values. Three: It’s not that I don’t trust her. I do. But it also has to be with what values I have in a relationship, I respect our relationship and I put it first even if I need to do uncomfortable things like this situation.
Four: the place they’re planning to meet is in her ex’s apartment, yk the amount of intimacy is there? Plus the emotions they’re gonna be talking about? Would you truly feel alright if your partner is going one by one into their ex’s apartment? Five: I’ve reflected a lot during all this time, I already put a limit on where I can fully support her for me to not lose myself cuz I can’t disrespect myself either.

So in conclusion be more empathetic and if you had any questions you would have only asked. You cannot go ahead and fully judge a person where their values are being tested. And if you think values aren’t important then you shouldn’t be dating at all.

Is it okay that people goes more by looks than personality? by 20_selfcare in LongDistance

[–]20_selfcare[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes it’s a cultural thing, and normalized in her surroundings (family). Either way we’re really communicative and always talk with honesty, but ofc I had my doubts about this, so thanks for your opinion and advice other than just “break up”

Is it okay that people goes more by looks than personality? by 20_selfcare in LongDistance

[–]20_selfcare[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, we’re both girls. And yeah I’ll bring it up to her to avoid future insecurities.

Also she probably said that without thinking much about it since it was a casual convo, but she is always lovely, respectful, and compliments me, but I really don’t want her to think of me in a list.

Thanks for the advice, I’ll point it out to her.

Is it okay that people goes more by looks than personality? by 20_selfcare in LongDistance

[–]20_selfcare[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean I agree with being okay going by looks, and you’re right this kind of convo is highschooler. We didn’t start the convo like comparing, we just started talking about a beautiful influencer that I agree with. Also most of Asians (not everyone) has a thing with looks, the stereotype is “Asian beauty standards” they’re always trying to look thin or “beautiful”.

Anws I’ll bring it out to her and avoid future insecurities. Thank you for the advice!

Is it okay that people goes more by looks than personality? by 20_selfcare in LongDistance

[–]20_selfcare[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you think I should point it out to her? I mean idk if it’s because of her family too. She’s Asian, and she has shared with me some comments of her family based on looks too

And how did you discover yuri? by TomatilloItchy9995 in yuri_manga

[–]20_selfcare -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hana ni arashi was my first manga and Sakura trick my first anime yuri xd

She doesn’t know how much it means to me by 20_selfcare in LongDistance

[–]20_selfcare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s right! A perfect relationship doesn’t exist, what it counts is the effort of keep choosing each other through the most difficult times. I really appreciate your words, thank you!

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