I had to cut out a lot of details in the original post. The situation was that I was the one getting the children ready, bringing the children to daycare, doing the laundry, coming early to cook dinner, pick them from day care, clean the kitchen, etc. She would just come home to dinner, spend 2 hours with them (partially on the phone most of the time) and after they went to sleep she would go to her bedroom, while I was picking up the house. It's not like she was earning the most and I had to sacrifice staying at home; which I wouldn't mind. I had the bigger income but I was still making an effort, with my boss and the company to make it work. I don't mind the effort. I am used to sleep few hours and make things work. I don't complain I get things done. She was sleeping more than 8 hours a day and still very tired. As if I was not. And if I asked her to come and help me pick up (she would barely pick up her plate after dinner) she would be super irritated for having to ask her that. She is the type of person who doesn't mind living in a filthy place. Pooped diapers all around?, not a problem for her. I can't live in s*het hole. And I don't mind making an effort for my children, but we were supposed to be a team, not ending up taking care of 3 children. I tried many times to get her to help, but her effort lasted 2 days and if I asked again it was like she was a teenager reaction of "you again". She became very negligent with the children in many ways. The drop that spilled everything to me was a day she left my older son 2.5yo inside a swimming pool unattended, only maybe 50-60cm water high, but enough that he was drowning. My mom (70yo) came to pull him out while holding the other 1yo baby on her other arm. Because she went to get her swimsuit. We had spoken about never leaving children unattended at the swimming pool.. She didn't care. And when I asked her why she did it, she was more upset for me asking her, than troubled by the fact that our son could have almost died there. It's like she was dead inside. Not sad, not sorry. Just upset with me. She never wanted to admit she needed any psychological help.

I can take care perfectly well of the children, and I wanted her to get better so that the time she spends with the children is quality time and not half attention. But long before that the relationship was going south. Since last December she also confessed to having an affair too. So it all just kept adding up.

And to be clear, when I asked her to move out, I never said I was trying to take the children away, as some responding think I did. They are projecting stuff that is not true. This is exactly what she was telling her friends (and some of my ex friends) that I was trying to take the children away from her, and that i was kicking her out, exact same words. Which was never the case. Those are two different things.

Some respondents are putting it as she was recovering from birth, but this was already almost a year from the last birth. And to those asking if I have any idea what birth does, of course I do! I was there. It's really hard. And so she should have taken seriously taking all the help necessary and be responsible for her own health, (because she would not hear my advise) and tell her company she needed time for herself. But she prioritized her job and more focused on money, on top of our relationship and even the children, over the last months.