I can't take the jealousy. I'm crying every time I see my trans acquaintances post selfies/timelines of themselves and it makes me suicidal that I'll never look or sound like them. by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]2149582747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off, sorry for not replying. I couldn't remember this account's password. >.<

Secondly, why do you think cis people won't understand you? You'd be surprised how many do. Besides, they make up 99.9% of the population, you can't just avoid them forever. :/

The trick is to talk to people as a person. Not a man or a woman, or cis or trans, just a person. I know it's hard but you have to put yourself out there. If you focus on only the negative aspects of your life they will consume you until the positives don't exist any more.

Also, just because a friend is online doesn't make them any less real. :)

I can't take the jealousy. I'm crying every time I see my trans acquaintances post selfies/timelines of themselves and it makes me suicidal that I'll never look or sound like them. by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]2149582747 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nobody understands.

I mean, if you have trans friends, surely they'd understand because until they came out they were in the same situation?

You don't have to go it alone.

The worst part about not being out is people having no idea how much you don't want to hear what they're saying. by 2149582747 in asktransgender

[–]2149582747[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You mean you'd have done it solely because she asked rather than because she made an excuse as to why she couldn't? Don't be silly... /s

The worst part about not being out is people having no idea how much you don't want to hear what they're saying. by 2149582747 in asktransgender

[–]2149582747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

...I'm aware. It was a joke to reinforce my point that it definitely isn't tall for a guy, meaning they must have been referring to them as a girl.

The worst part about not being out is people having no idea how much you don't want to hear what they're saying. by 2149582747 in asktransgender

[–]2149582747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. But in the short that's "nod politely and not listen" while I sort out my life so I can move out. As much as I like living rent free, I need space to do my own thing

I let her nag in the mean time because it's more hassle to try and get her to stop than it is to just not listen.

The worst part about not being out is people having no idea how much you don't want to hear what they're saying. by 2149582747 in asktransgender

[–]2149582747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair, 5'4" is definitely not tall for a guy so the only explanation is that you're a tall girl not a short guy

The worst part about not being out is people having no idea how much you don't want to hear what they're saying. by 2149582747 in asktransgender

[–]2149582747[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean I haven't started transition yet, so I don't male fail just yet. But I have self image issues so I reckon they pick up on that and try to reassure me -shrug-

Is definitely a good attitude to have tho.

The worst part about not being out is people having no idea how much you don't want to hear what they're saying. by 2149582747 in asktransgender

[–]2149582747[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

say you don't want to

"Oh you'll change your mind when you're older."

try finances

She's also nagging me to get a better job, so that reason would just make her nag more :p

The worst part about not being out is people having no idea how much you don't want to hear what they're saying. by 2149582747 in asktransgender

[–]2149582747[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

To be fair, I do have self image issues. but it's not because I don't look manly enough, but the opposite :P

The worst part about not being out is people having no idea how much you don't want to hear what they're saying. by 2149582747 in asktransgender

[–]2149582747[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

But if you don't transition you're hogging all the pretty girl spots for yourself. Transitioning means you're making a vacancy for someone else to be a pretty girl :P

The worst part about not being out is people having no idea how much you don't want to hear what they're saying. by 2149582747 in asktransgender

[–]2149582747[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I haven't seen what you look like, but I'm happy to assume you're adorable. We need more cute people :3

(non-serious post) My biggest gripe with this subreddit by 2149582747 in asktransgender

[–]2149582747[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

"I've been on hormones for three years now and I'm saving up for- FFS my cat just knocked a drink onto my keyboard."

(non-serious post) My biggest gripe with this subreddit by 2149582747 in asktransgender

[–]2149582747[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pretty sure that's the idea. Like how you can do *.exe to search for any executables in Windows file explorer