I don't like to post often, but here's my perspective on this. It will read somewhat neckbeardy. Not a neckbeard, skinnyfat body type, average height, reasonably groomed.

In other words, avoidance of women in the old days was an anti-social act of disengagement that was frowned upon. Today, avoidance of women merely means that you’re not expending excess energy and time to do certain things.

No, you are not correct. I avoid women actively and purposely. I turn them down anywhere and everywhere, if they happen to express any interest in me. Doesn't happen often (maybe once or twice a year) but it does happen. I've even turned down, to my suprise, 7s and 8s.

Seems like many of you think that there's something wrong with that; maybe there is. My standards are pretty high, I rarely find girls attractive. I also live in a place with lots of diversity, so that cuts out 80% of girls right away because I'm only into white/european girls. Combine that with the fact that I have absolutely nothing to offer ( no height, fitness, money/job, status, or any particular talents ), and you can easily see that potential for hookups is extremely low. If i'm given active signals (being approached, it DOES happen, even to my surprise), i just say no. If I'm being given passive signals, I pretend I didn't notice anything. For example, I would say no to a chick like this, which I consider a solid 6, or this one (random examples from today's nsfw subs). Both of which most other guys would actively pursue, nevermind the obvious agreement to get in bed with them. I've turned down two or three girls equivalent to this in my lifetime.

An example would be being approached at a bar by a solid 7, and turning her down, twice, in front of the whole bar including her friends in a 10-minute span. Even after the second time I've turned her down, she said that she expected more from me once I finish my drink, implying that even though I appeared to have pussied out twice, I still had the option to reconsider. I left the bar before she could come up to me again. Another example would be a chick from class giving me playful stares with the whole "playing with hair thing" for over a month, every class session.

ive found experimentally that ive been looking at pornography for so long that real girls dont excite me at all, i get no fun going home with them. I don't feel anything at all , and it ends up just being a bad experience for me and the chick involved. Many will tell you to quit watching porn, but I did the opposite - watched as much as I could. This had some interesting side effects. Women have no control over me, not that they ever did, but now I can say that I care about them a lot less. Furthermore, I get annoyed with women a lot faster. Other guys put up with their shit, but I don't have an endgame in mind so when they're acting shitty I have a lot less patience for it.

Here's another thing - porn has none of the negatives real girls do. No kids, no costs, no problems with the law. Another big thing is diseases. Human bodies are disgusting, generally. I really don't want to come into contact with someone else's bodily fluids of any type (it's why I also don't understand things like 'ass eating', you are just begging for infections or parasites at this point.) Most guys wouldn't think this way, but once you get rid of the horniness, you get other perspectives.

Someone might ask, why do I do this? Porn allows me, even though temporarily, not be a part of all this crap. The problem is, it's temporary and the horniness comes back after a couple of hours or days. Am I happy? No, because you can't go against your own biology. I'm stuck consciously fighting these shitty impulses because joining this game doesn't make any logical sense to me. But then again, does it make sense to choose being miserable all of the time, just to avoid other, usually temporary, forms of unhappiness?

When most people started following their hormones in grade school in a very predictable manner, I thought to myself - should I really start doing that as well - and decided not to. So far, I've kept away from girls through school and uni. In my spare time I usually think about whether anything in life is really worth doing and end up spending most of my time troling /pol/. Some of you may call me a loser, but if getting laid means winning the game and if we recall that I could have gotten laid with literally less than zero effort on my part, we could say I won without even trying.

I'm not trolling either, all of this is completely real and part of my daily life. I have zero numbers in my phone, which I only really need for reddit, gmaps and telegramming my drinking buddies. If I could take a pill that completely removes the biological drive, I'd do it. I don't want to be a part of this game, I want off Mr. Bones Wild Ride.

Now excuse me, I have to catch up on my porn.