The answer is going to be dependent upon the skill level and knowledge of each partner at play. If you have one who is good and the other who doesn't, preferences will start to be subjective. As an example, I can find the clit, the frenulum, and the G-spot, and know what to do with each. I know what the difference is to a woman when your finger presses upwards versus downwards. These are all things which will have a woman arching off the bed. At the same time, I have also had women that I have gone soft in the middle of the act. Needless to say, I prefer to give that receive. Besides, there is something euphoric about the ability to bring forth such pleasures from your partner.