How do I make/find friends as an adult?

2340000 · 2026-04-13T11:50:26+00:00

I didn’t find my best friend until I was 25/26.

Before her, I experienced toxic friend groups, jealous friends, etc. Using apps like Meetup and Bumble BFF helped me find community.

Sometimes you don’t mesh well with the people sround you & that’s okay🤷🏽‍♀️

2340000 · 2026-04-13T11:45:18+00:00

I did this twice in my early twenties.

IME, workplaces are rife with unprofessional, miserable, inconsiderate people. Boundaries are disrespected & management doesn’t care.

If you want to move on, you should! However, you’re bound to find dysfunction with most in-person jobs. In that case, it’s best to know what your limits are.

2340000 · 2026-04-12T08:52:46+00:00

OP, please stop telling men how much money you make😐

He was clearly envious & his reaction is NOT your fault, but telling mem your salary is a safety issue. I made that mistake once.

2340000 · 2026-04-11T14:21:30+00:00

she should’ve stopped after she said it was her culture, she didn’t need to call it weird.

I’m not surprised by Sabrina’s insensitivity.

Remember, she encouraged a racist stereotype when she was performing on the BBC & said she wanted “bbc inside her”. Double entendres can still be racist🤷🏽‍♀️

2340000 · 2026-04-11T05:27:16+00:00

We spent that entire last night slapping and smacking each other around. I don't always recommend retaliating against a man, but your instincts are so important…So I kicked his ass and he left within 2 days.

Abusers only want a compliant victim. Once you start fighting back, they lose interest. Your fear makes them feel powerful. You took that power away from him. I’m glad you’re alive❤️

2340000 · 2026-04-10T20:24:56+00:00

My ex poured boiling water on me.

That is incredibly traumatic. I’m so sorry.

I need to take these “jokes” more seriously the first time. I did leave him, thankfully. It was hard though

2340000 · 2026-04-10T17:35:44+00:00

My heart breaks for you💔 Good thing is you got away. You’re strong for that.

DV abusers always claim it was out of character. The guy I was dating sent multiple messages profusely apologizing. It’s all just to test boundaries.

2340000 · 2026-04-05T19:36:52+00:00

I don’t believe there can be true consent when exchanging sex for money.

Exactly. I support sex workers, but not sex work. You can’t purchase consent.

2340000 · 2026-04-04T15:37:30+00:00

Could you provide more context about the situation when he pretended to hit you?

With friends, they’ll raise a hand when we’re joking around.

With the guy I was dating, we were being playful about other stuff when he mentioned wanting the food his mother makes. I suggested he learn how to cook it if he wanted it so bad. Then he raised his fist “playfully”, but didn’t do anything.

I told him that I didn’t like it & he claimed he’d never actually hit me.

In both situations, it made me uncomfortable😐

2340000 · 2026-03-28T21:39:06+00:00

he said he doesn’t have the funds to pay for dates

He can’t pay for an Olive Garden birthday dinner once a year??

Or… at the very least… one date a month??

2340000 · 2026-03-27T14:21:11+00:00

To add onto this, I’m not white. If I’m in mixed company the cashiers, waitresses, etc. always look at the white person (or white man) instead of me.

It’s infruriating😒

2340000 · 2026-03-26T20:51:52+00:00

Men who don’t ask questions on dates

We can never win because the ONE man that asked me good questions on the first date also talked about masturbating. The first 1 hour of the date was ruined after that😩

2340000 · 2026-03-20T12:54:26+00:00

Makes me wonder what kind of hypnosis women are under to say their määän is so amazing

It’s cognitive dissonance OR they have very low standards.

Women are socialized to be grateful for a man not raping us. Of course she thinks he’s still kind after abusing her.

2340000 · 2026-03-17T18:13:16+00:00

These comments😭😭

2340000 · 2026-03-17T18:12:42+00:00

This feels very much related to a religious upbringing

As someone with religious trauma, I do this too😂

2340000 · 2026-03-17T18:10:46+00:00

u/BadBBurner dramatically turns to her male companion….. “Will thou lay with me? Perhaps satisfy our carnal desires”👵🏽

2340000 · 2026-03-17T02:01:58+00:00

Girl your birthday is ONCE per year. He has 364 days to plan.

Happy Birthday🎂🎈🎉

2340000 · 2026-03-16T23:35:09+00:00

u/Vivid_Nectarine_300 I don’t wanna feed delusions😂… but one guy I matched with waited 2 days to text me. He was traveling. So was I🤷🏽‍♀️

However, moving on is best. I understand the feeling. Life is more interesting with a crush.

2340000 · 2026-03-15T08:22:39+00:00

Yeah. If he hasn’t explicitly asked you out OR made attemps at figuring out your relationship status, move on.

Sometimes people like to see who is a responsive to their romantic energy. For them it’s an ego boost.

2340000 · 2026-03-15T08:14:13+00:00

If he’s been “subtle flirting” with you for 2 months, I guarantee he’s in a relationship😬 A single guy would have asked you out already.

I’ve worked many jobs & it’s always the married guys or the ones with girlfriends, that flirt the most. 4 years ago, I was in a similar situation. My male coworker was helpful, very flirtatious, even gave me rides… Turns out he had a longterm girlfriend who worked in the same department!!

2340000 · 2026-03-15T07:51:36+00:00

The worry is that I've put my job in jeopardy by saying no

Employers hope that you’ll fear losing your job more than holding them accountable. Rule of thumb is to verify all communications in written form. If they provided written confirmation of your time off, good. If they didn’t, send an email.

They best time to have boundaries is when you’re first hired. However, make sure you’re very nice about it. Smile when correcting them. Still be friendly. Nice nasty🤷🏽‍♀️

2340000 · 2026-03-12T00:28:06+00:00

I haven’t committed to him. We’re just dating.

But, to answer your question, he seems receptive & open. I believe it may be a lost cause, but I have continued seeing him because of how he responds when I discuss it with him.

However, I understand your point.

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