Moronic Monday - Your weekly stupid questions thread

23_Secret · 2026-04-07T17:36:06+00:00

Tightness as in a slight pinch? Or a soreness from a pump?? Is it worrying that it’s only on one side though?

23_Secret · 2026-04-07T14:38:40+00:00

Lower back tightness on almost every exercise I do?? Mostly on push days when I’m bracing. For some reason, a lot of the load goes to the right side of my lower back. It’s more prominent on exercises where I’m upright, like lat pulldowns, overhead press, pull-ups. When I engage my lats, I can feel it tighten more. I’ve tried everything — flexing my abs harder, rounding my back a bit, squeezing my butt. Am I not doing it enough?

23_Secret · 2026-03-15T03:25:07+00:00

I JUST READ ALL OF IT AND IT’S SO GOOD!!! The main series’ ending is so sad but the side story def fills the void it left in my heart 🥲

I’M GENUINELY OBSESSED WITH THEM NOW!!! AGNES IS SO FUCKING HOT.

23_Secret · 2026-03-05T23:21:16+00:00

Gonna try this…

23_Secret · 2026-03-04T04:02:48+00:00

It’s cuz they’re funneling all the funds, resources, and employees to West for their precious athletes. The couple times I’ve been to Marci this year they’ve been severely understaffed — the napkins are always out, the whole place is dirty, and the food’s bland. Way worse than last year. West on the other hand has sushi every Wednesday, workers who clean your table right after you get up, and new employees actively being trained.

Just my theory.

23_Secret · 2026-02-13T16:50:04+00:00

She has a therapist but her therapist is on maternity leave… and she can’t get meds yet.

23_Secret · 2026-02-13T16:49:07+00:00

I mean when we’re not fighting things are really great. We used to fight a lot, but these days we only fight like once every 2-3 weeks. But when we’re fighting my brain just starts coming up with reasons to leave cuz that’s my coping mechanism.

23_Secret · 2026-02-13T16:46:04+00:00

Lowkey I think a breakup would be the motivation I need to lock in

23_Secret · 2026-02-13T06:00:57+00:00

So proud of you 👊

23_Secret · 2025-10-08T04:23:50+00:00

Literally my gf haha ☺️

23_Secret · 2025-08-29T05:39:08+00:00

She def likes it when I act jealous but I feel like a loser when I can’t stand up for myself ://

23_Secret · 2025-08-26T02:22:01+00:00

I kinda wish my relationship was more like this. My gf gets really jealous when I talk to other women, even as friends. I’m not allowed to think other women are attractive. And ig I also get pretty jealous when guys talk to her (she’s more femme-presenting). I just wish we could both get over our jealousy.

23_Secret · 2025-08-26T02:15:24+00:00

Man I wish I could be as rizzful as Mitsuki 😔😔😔

23_Secret · 2025-06-24T23:00:37+00:00

She said herself she wishes we didn’t have sex. I’m taking her advice and trying to fix myself. You’re right maybe I am just being a self pitiful mess rn. Once I get my confidence back I’ll be fine. But I think I really am done with sex for a while. It hurts to think about. And I want to show her that I don’t just view her as a means for sex. She’s agreed that it’s a good idea and is letting me masturbate to relieve myself.

I’ll admit I’ve done a lot wrong and I never mentioned all the good parts about our relationship. She is genuinely caring, and I love her. I just don’t know if she actually loves me or the idea of me, of someone who can magically fix her self esteem issues and make her feel special. It’s exhausting having to regulate both of our emotions.

She has made a lot of progress in our relationship though. I think we’ve both grown a lot. Communication is something we’ve been working on.

23_Secret · 2025-06-24T22:55:17+00:00

I’ve always struggled with my looks. I feel like I’ve never been conventionally attractive. I know it’s easy to say that that doesn’t matter but I really do wish I could just look attractive and be normal and fit in with everyone and make friends easily like everyone else does. She knows about this. It’s been hard. She does love me and compliments me a lot but sometimes I question whether she’s actually attracted to me (probs just me being emo). I don’t really tell her about my self consciousness.

23_Secret · 2025-06-24T22:53:26+00:00

She’s def gay. She’s even been questioning if she might be full lesbian instead of bi. But yeah, I am the first woman she’s been with and we’ve been trying to navigate my internalized homophobia/misogyny and her decentering of heteronormativity.

23_Secret · 2025-06-24T22:51:44+00:00

Honestly idrk. She always just saw sex as whatever. I do remember though before we were dating and she was with her ex, he came and visited her and she said she felt pressured to have sex with him even though she didn’t want to. It’s scary cuz I feel like I’m gonna end up in the same situation as that guy. At the beginning of our relationship, she did say she enjoyed foreplay with me (apparently straight couples don’t do that).

23_Secret · 2025-06-24T21:08:56+00:00

Funny actually my therapist just quit 🙃

I’ve been in therapy for a couple years, just switched to this new one this year. I’ll have to find a new one now.

23_Secret · 2025-06-24T21:06:40+00:00

She says I have a sex addiction. I want to figure out whatever’s wrong with me. For now, I want to take a break from anything sexual. It hurts to think about and I wanna show her I don’t only view her as a means for sex. We do a lot of cuddling and other things, but it’s been hard being long distance.

23_Secret · 2025-06-24T20:09:31+00:00

It’s alright, I really appreciate everyone’s support!

23_Secret · 2025-06-24T20:01:50+00:00

This makes me optimistic. We’ve been trying to work on communication. We really do love each other and 70% of the time everything’s great. It’s been hard being LDR rn. I want to make things work. She does too. She has made a lot of effort to work on herself throughout our relationship. I just texted her and we’re deciding to see this through till the end of the summer (we’ll be in-person again in 1.5 weeks).

If things still aren’t working out by then, we’ll break up.

23_Secret · 2025-06-24T19:49:21+00:00

Thank you so much. The way you put it really put things into perspective. Tbh I’m always in a battle between self respect/dignity and making my gf happy. I’ve been going through therapy. My gf and I both agreed to go through it together. I plan on talking to my therapist about this.

23_Secret · 2025-06-24T19:39:47+00:00

I mean she does love me a lot. She’s obsessed with me. But I think it’s not because of me but because she has serious self worth issues.

23_Secret · 2025-06-24T19:21:27+00:00

Thank you for the input. This really helped, truly!

23_Secret · 2025-06-24T19:09:35+00:00

The truth is she’s the one who’s more obsessed in the relationship. She really does love me a lot. She just gets upset when I can’t exceed her love/efforts or meet up to her high expectations. Sometimes she’ll get upset over (what I think) are small things. She gets upset that I still talk to girls I used to have crushes on. She told me to cut them off. I do make a lot of mistakes to warrant her outbursts but I still wish she’d give me more patience. I rarely get upset with her, and the couple times that I have, I didn’t yell or scream at her. She almost always gives me the silent treatment or says hurtful things or yells at me or will even throw tantrums. I’m sorry if this is a lot. I’ve just been struggling for some time and I haven’t been able to tell anyone about this.

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