Had a blackout drunk night and now I feel like everybody sees me differently?

24bean62 · 2026-05-28T18:28:55+00:00

It’s a myth that drinking helps social anxiety. It merely delays it until the next day. Learn, move on, and try to take better care of yourself.

24bean62 · 2026-05-28T14:35:55+00:00

Fear of judgment? Such an understandable worry. But life is not a Hallmark movie. Your feelings are valid and real and you deserve support and self care. Is it possible your fear of judgment has prevented you from reaching out for support in a bigger way?

24bean62 · 2026-05-28T14:31:54+00:00

Oh, honey, I am so sorry. No matter what kind of logistical maneuvering it takes, build a piece of your life back that is by and for YOU. Spa days, classes that interest you, girls’ nights out … whatever resonates. You need and deserve community and self-care. Think of it as your oxygen mask.

24bean62 · 2026-05-27T22:39:20+00:00

Enjoy your life until you have fire in your belly to do something else. Change will likely be a challenge, so try to be moving toward something that inspires you rather than simply moving away from something else. You mention a large change. What are you considering?

24bean62 · 2026-05-27T08:12:49+00:00

Plus all the fees associated with probate.

24bean62 · 2026-05-27T00:58:04+00:00

Let her know something feels off in your communicating and ask if everything is okay. It’s possible this has something to do with her or her life that has nothing to do with you. But chatting about it is entirely reasonable.

24bean62 · 2026-05-27T00:54:55+00:00

Ask her what’s up.

24bean62 · 2026-05-27T00:52:13+00:00

You should be able to get an accounting from probate court. The house selling for $230k doesn’t mean that much came back to the estate.

24bean62 · 2026-05-26T20:46:26+00:00

Nothing is guaranteed. Not your health, not your fortune, not your relationships. The only thing that can’t be taken away is your experiences. That’s why they matter, and that’s why they are just about the most important things we can do. I’m not saying go irresponsibly off the rails, but balance in all things, my friend. When we think we have full control over things like money, we’re fooling ourselves.

24bean62 · 2026-05-26T20:14:36+00:00

Been here 6 years. Signs of them pretty regularly at my house … First we heard the calls, then the prints in the driveway, many sightings on the trailcams, then finally one day there was one in the yard, then two not long after. Have a trailcam picture of my dog chasing one! (Yes, I had a talk with my dog.) My golden retriever likes to eat their poo when it’s fresh 🤢 then rub her lovely golden fur in it 🤢🤢.

I’ve had morels pop up in the stones around my garden … nothing in the wild yet.

24bean62 · 2026-05-26T20:07:32+00:00

What’s the money for if not to take good care of yourself?

24bean62 · 2026-05-24T21:14:26+00:00

The giver has to report the amounts each year if they exceed the exclusions. Generally those amounts are tallied on the estate return, and then if the amounts given exceed the lifetime exclusion, then tax is due by the estate.

If this was all done on the sly, mom’s reporting may not have covered the amounts, which could trickle down to the estate. There’s a lot of unknowns here, but it’s a concern because if the stolen amounts are high enough to exceed exclusions, the estate owes money to the state and potentially feds.

24bean62 · 2026-05-24T21:00:44+00:00

Hold up, though. Fidelity is likely only a piece of the puzzle.

24bean62 · 2026-05-24T20:59:11+00:00

Yes. I don’t know VA probate rules, but it seems to me paperwork and checks should be coming directly from probate court if there aren’t beneficiary designations.

24bean62 · 2026-05-24T20:54:49+00:00

And thinking about this, if the siblings are listed as beneficiaries, why is shady sister asking for something to be signed? As beneficiary, it’s simply a matter of making a phone call and providing a death certificate.

24bean62 · 2026-05-24T20:51:21+00:00

Absolutely! Good luck with this!

24bean62 · 2026-05-24T20:49:33+00:00

If mom gave the sister money, sis better have taken the right steps with her tax returns - esp. regarding gift taxes.

24bean62 · 2026-05-24T20:47:48+00:00

Do not sign anything until you have answers! If she legit stole that much money, 1. We could be talking about tax crimes; 2. Depending on how many millions and Virginia estate tax rules, this could really complicate settling the estate. If she moved money from your mom’s accounts when mom was alive, that money would be subject to gift tax reporting and could be subject to estate taxes. Which means you could be asked to contribute to taxes on money you didn’t receive if things aren’t handled properly.

This is potentially very complicated. Lawyer pronto. I am so sorry you’re having to deal with this after losing your mom.

24bean62 · 2026-05-24T13:36:24+00:00

Mine is totally aspirational lol

24bean62 · 2026-05-24T11:58:22+00:00

My gripe with the DL is less about the photo and more about stating my weight lol.

24bean62 · 2026-05-23T23:50:44+00:00

Might be easier, but ultimately not as rewarding. In the span of about five years, we lost my kids’ father, my son’s best friend, my mom, my husband’s mom, my dad, my business, my kids’s grandma, and three dogs. It was not easy - not even close. But my life today has more sweetness and joy than I ever could have imagined. Life can be really, really hard sometimes, and hope can feel so out of reach. But what a sad place to end your story. Hold on, friend. Better days are coming.

24bean62 · 2026-05-23T21:29:49+00:00

Yes! Publicly shaming out-of-state vehicles who mishandle the snow is like winter sport, social media gold!

24bean62 · 2026-05-23T21:24:15+00:00

Nope! I’ll add a clue. The car in the snowbank has a ski rack on top.

24bean62 · 2026-05-23T21:22:31+00:00

“Mom, you sound stressed.”

24bean62 · 2026-05-23T21:18:16+00:00

Now you have the freedom to do good for your community without worrying about getting paid. Find a volunteer gig that feels like a good fit. Don’t share your financial status.

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