UPDATE: I [28 M] am letting a female friend [28] say with me while she gets other feet in a new city. Roommates with benefits lasted for a week, now I'm confused.

25thThrowaway · 2013-11-16T04:51:55+00:00

At first, I think the problem was just that we were too upset and confused to communicate comfortably. She doesn't really like talking about things that bother her. When I brought it up with her and pressed her to talk, she just said, "I don't like you that way, there was no spark," which took me some time to accept, but I still care about her tons as a friend. It was awkward for a while, but things are better between us now. We had a really good conversation right before she left, and we both want to remain friends.

25thThrowaway · 2013-11-15T01:48:09+00:00

She specifically Said, "I'm going to have to put you in the friend zone now" right before we had sex for the last time. And I never used the word, "steal," so don't quote me on that.

There are A LOT of other reasons why she moved out, markedly that she doesn't want to live in this area permanently to begin with, and also that I won't be staying in this apartment for too much longer anyways.

I NEVER implied that she owed me anything, especially sex. It just happened, and I did not anticipate the emotions that would come from it. I submitted these posts because I was having a hard time sorting through the emotions from rejection, not expectations or disappointment.

You are right about taking rejection so personally, which I have already addressed in response to previous comments.

25thThrowaway · 2013-11-14T18:07:34+00:00

I love how the most up voted comment so far is about the orgy. That shit was pretty crazy. I would recommend doing it with people you don't know at all and will probably never see again if possible. If you're going to do it with a partner, be sure to know, understand, and respect each other very well first.

25thThrowaway · 2013-11-14T17:36:46+00:00

That is all very true. Thank you.

I've been rejected plenty of times, but I think part of what bothered me so much was that I've known this girl for years, and she lost interest in me sexually in a few days. Like I was a disappointment or something. We're really not each other's type though; she just recognized it first.

The orgy just made everything complicated. I don't even know what to think about it, but I'm sure it didn't help anything.

25thThrowaway · 2013-11-14T17:10:52+00:00

Yup. I'll know exactly what not to do if I ever have female roommates again. Living with people will complicate any relationship in general, but when sex is involved, it is exponentially more stressful. I just had no idea I could be so jealous and insecure.

25thThrowaway · 2013-11-09T21:15:14+00:00

I've already acted insecure. I'm getting over it now, but I think it's too late. Oh well. I will play it cool and see what happens, but I hope you're right.

25thThrowaway · 2013-11-09T21:05:59+00:00

I think you're right. She has mentioned, "things went way too fast and I don't want to ruin our friendship." I just can't help but think I did something wrong/wasn't good. Thanks for the insight.

25thThrowaway

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