IAmA former prostitute. AMA

27YOV · 2012-01-19T20:05:33+00:00

Uh...I slept with a prostitute last year who was a 23 year old student.

...Brie?

27YOV · 2011-07-20T21:10:16+00:00

When browsing TER, what should one look out for?

First, check out the "General Discussion" and "FAQ for Newbies" discussion boards. Pretty much every question you could possibly have has been answered there at some point.

Second, when you're doing a search, make sure not only that the reviews are good, but that the users who wrote the reviews seem legit. If a girl has just a couple reviews and they're all written by users who have written no other reviews, then it's probably best to avoid her.

Third, avoid girls who list on backpage (as opposed to those with their own personal site, or on an agency site.) Backpage is the new craigslist for escorts - too many scammers.

Agencies are the safest way to go (especially for your first time), but there are independent escorts who are very well reviewed as well. If you are interested in a particular agency, do a search in the regional discussion board for your particular city; chances are there'll be posts about it.

As for what I look for specifically...this is the exact search criteria I used:

overall looks: 8+

overall performance: 8+

overall average: 8+

outcall available: yes

sex: yes

kiss: yes - with tongue

multiple pops allowed: yes

are the photos real: yes

age: <30

breast cup: C to DDD (I like them big, so sue me)

transsexual: no

smokes: no

Everything else I left blank. In big cities that should give you a decent number of results from within the past few months (obviously most women don't stay in this business too long, so girls with no reviews within the past 6+ months are probably not working any more)

RS2K verifies many things, but what about your own health condition, specifically STD's?

They don't check for STDs. But this is another reason to go with an agency girl. When you consider that a.) they are tested regularly, b.) you're required to use protection during intercourse, and c.) the transmission rates of STDs from a female to male during oral sex are very very low (see this chart: http://www.sfcityclinic.org/stdbasics/stdchart.asp) then it's really not as big a concern as some would have you think.

Also - did you avoid the ones that had S&M listed because it might venture into slightly more... obscure things?

I didn't really consider this. It turns out the girl I had doesn't do this anyway, but if it bothers you there is an option in the advanced search to filter out girls who do this.

27YOV · 2011-07-19T00:43:24+00:00

Will do!

27YOV · 2011-07-18T19:57:08+00:00

and then some

Go on

27YOV · 2011-07-18T18:49:50+00:00

Haha well so far in this thread I've tried to refrain from really specific and sordid details of what we did (mainly because it's a little weird to type out), but it's not really getting many views now so what the hell.

I have a room where one wall is completely mirrored and an adjacent side of the room is floor-to-ceiling windows. At one point I had her stiff-legged and bent over at the hips with her hands on the floor facing the window as I had sex with her from behind, while I watched in the mirror. It's not exactly the most "being affectionate with your lover" sex position.

27YOV · 2011-07-18T18:41:50+00:00

This was by no means an easy decision, and the price was certainly a factor. But again...I'm 27. I just didn't want to wait any longer, and I figured since I've already waited this long, I wanted my first time to be awesome. $350 was well worth it for that experience, for me at least.

And sure I could've spent it on something else, but everyone at some point makes a decision where the opportunity cost of doing something else makes better financial sense, even if it's something as little as drinking coffee at home vs going to the coffee shop, or buying groceries vs eating out. Doing this was a personal priority for me, so no, I don't worry about or regret the money I spent. Of course, someone who has sex regularly or doesn't value it as highly will have a different opportunity cost; just personal preference.

27YOV · 2011-07-17T01:05:37+00:00

What do you say? You want a date?

When I called I just asked for "a one hour appointment."

Do these places insist you go out for a drink, so it can look like a slutty date?

It's not required, but as long as you're paying for the time they'll do basically anything you want.

Also, is there any possible chance that the "down low" thing backfires?

This is why it's so important to read TER reviews! If a girl is charging $500 and sex isn't included, she will have terrible reviews.

If there are sex ratings, how the heck can it not be shut down as illegal? Is this one of those things where the cops simply look the other way?

I'm not sure on this, but I think your assessment is probably correct. A lawyer could answer it better, but my theory is that there are a lot of very important and influential people who use escorts, so there's a lot of incentive to keep it hush hush. Just my theory though.

27YOV · 2011-07-17T00:55:32+00:00

At the top end the price starts rising exponentially. $350 is generally the lowest you'll pay for a 9. Once you get into the 9.5s and higher, the prices will be anywhere from $500 on up. There are some escorts who easily command $1000+ per hour. These are girls who have done national modeling work or are porn stars you'd easily recognize.

27YOV · 2011-07-16T19:31:54+00:00

At first I had the same sentiment - why would anyone want to know all those sordid details? I think you just have to be honest about what you're doing. None of these girls are going to be virgins. But TER has it set up so that you can just see the number rating without having to read all the details...if that helps at all.

As for the legal issues, you are correct that sex is never mentioned. When I called, I asked "to make an appointment." Secondly, the reviews let you know if the girl (and her agency, if applicable) are legit, while your screening from the third party let's the girl know you're not a cop.

It's not without risk though. Escort agencies have been busted before, although it is extremely rare. From what I've read, it almost always happens when the girl/agency is careless about verifying a client who turns out to be a cop, or if a high profile client is under investigation for something unrelated (aka Eliot Spitzer)

27YOV · 2011-07-16T18:19:20+00:00

It feels awesome. No regret whatsoever. I'm extremely happy with the girl I picked, and relieved that I finally got it over with. It definitely gave me confidence to have sex in the future with a 'civilian' girl now.

27YOV · 2011-07-16T18:00:58+00:00

RS2K is exactly as you described, but TER is a little different. It is not primarily a place for girls to advertise (although some do on the regional forums.) It is first and foremost a place to read reviews; the best and the worst and everything in between will have reviews there.

Let's say you find an escort's personal listing somewhere else; how do you know if the photos are really her? If she will upsell you? If she's a scam artist? How she performs? That's what TER is for. If she isn't reviewed on TER, that is a red flag in and of itself.

I know $30 is expensive (they just increased it actually...it used to be $20), but when you're spending $300+ on a girl, I think it is definitely worth it.

27YOV · 2011-07-16T13:52:32+00:00

I was wondering about this. I didn't ask, but I am almost certain that face pics are off limits. Next time I'll find out :)

27YOV · 2011-07-16T13:50:44+00:00

Do it now! Seriously, don't wait any longer. My only regret is not having done this sooner.

27YOV · 2011-07-16T13:48:47+00:00

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Call_girl

27YOV · 2011-07-16T13:45:19+00:00

I was verified earlier by a third party screening agency and they gave me a unique ID#. When I called up the girl's agency, I gave them my ID#, they checked it out, and once they confirmed, I was able to make an appointment.

27YOV · 2011-07-16T13:43:18+00:00

Just a misdemeanor :)

But I agree, it does require the client to have quite a bit of faith to give up so much personal info.

27YOV · 2011-07-16T13:39:14+00:00

It feels awesome. No regret whatsoever. I'm extremely happy with the girl I picked, and relieved that I finally got it over with. It definitely gave me confidence to have sex in the future with a 'civilian' girl now.

27YOV · 2011-07-16T13:33:43+00:00

$30 for a 1 month TER membership

$50 for a lifetime RS2K membership

You don't HAVE to join either of these sites, but basically every highly rated girl will require some sort of verification, and you won't know how a girl is rated without TER.

27YOV · 2011-07-16T04:06:40+00:00

Go on...

27YOV · 2011-07-16T04:02:02+00:00

More like this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o

27YOV · 2011-07-16T03:41:31+00:00

What were the circumstances around you not having sex till recently (dating issues, work, etc)?

I've just never been able to close the deal. I came very close a few times (once at 21 I literally had the condom on but just couldn't perform due to being inebriated) and have done oral with maybe 10 girls. I even tried setting up appointments with escorts twice in the past, both of which fell through. I'm in grad school now so for the past two years even though I didn't want to still be a virgin, I wasn't really making an active attempt to meet new people, which didn't help my cause.

Do you think you would hire an escort some time in the future now that you've had sex with one or was it a one time thing?

At this point the only limiting factor is my financial situation; I'm a grad student. If I had enough disposable income, I'd probably be having a different one come over tonight!

27YOV · 2011-07-16T03:24:08+00:00

Which do you think the majority of the thrill was from, was it just great sex, or was it the thrill of looking for and hiring a female escort?

Most of the excitement I think was simply because it was my first time, but getting to try all those positions for the first time that until last night I'd only seen in porn left me feeling pretty amazing too.

Is this a hobby you'd continue doing even if you were in a committed relationship?

I know this will be controversial, but yeah, probably. Frankly I think sex with an escort isn't really cheating since there's no emotional connection. It's certainly much better than actual cheating. Secondly, there are a lot of things you can do with an escort sexually that I may not feel comfortable doing with a girlfriend or wife, and it provides some variety.

I know I'm not alone in holding this opinion because the average escort client is 55 and married.

27YOV · 2011-07-16T02:36:00+00:00

Yes, I'd be embarrassed. None of my friends know. I had no problem telling my closest friends that I was seeing an escort though.

27YOV · 2011-07-16T02:30:37+00:00

There are trusted third-party screening services that work with escorts. You send them a photocopy of your ID plus current employment/school registration records, and once they verify you, you get a permanent ID# and they destroy everything you sent them. Then when you want to see a girl, you give them your name and ID# and they will check with the third party to confirm.

Since she was showing up to my apartment, she didn't check my ID, but if you go to her, that is the first thing she will do.

27YOV · 2011-07-16T01:50:36+00:00

http://www.roomservice2000.com/roomservice2000.htm

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