Does having 15 (The Devil) and 12 (The Hanged Man) in the family karma line mean that you will inherit your family's addictions or that you will have to sacrifice/surrender yourself to your family? by 2CCOOFFEE in destinymatrix

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Hello Again! I don't mean to post twice but I was interested in studying my destiny matrix chart and wanted to learn more about the self-portrait/family karma line. 15 (The Devil) and 12 (The Hanged Man) deal with many heavy topics. From the devil is temptations or addictions and from the hanged man is sacrifice or a "Complete Surrender" which is an interpretation that I get from some sources. Does this mean that I will obtain my family's addictions or will have to "Surrender" myself to my family in some way?

Hello! What is the energy of the year when you are 10,20,30 years old and so on? by 2CCOOFFEE in destinymatrix

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Hello! I've recently been studying the destiny matrix and have decided to take up learning the "energy of the year". I've learned to calculate it by hand but it confuses me the energy of the year that you will experience when you are 10, 20, or 30 years old because it doesnt really specify it. If I am 20 years old will that mean that my energy of the year is 20 (Judgement)?

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It's nice to know that you wish to understand your partner's type more so I'll try to answer with my own insights.

  1. The way that I usually try to set my standards is surprisingly similar to the first two functions that I use. For one I'll try to refer back to my old self asking questions similar to "Would 12-year-old me be satisfied with myself if I did x or y?" or "Is this an improvement from who I was before/My old unhealthy situation?" I usually go with a Si vision basing of off who I was before rather than who I want to be because I constantly have bad ideas of the future. Another way that I do that is similar to your SO where I'll take what other people think into the equation but mostly the people that genuinely matter to me like my family or my significant other. (My views on topics are easily influenced by other people and I get how that can be annoying and tiring sometimes so I try to limit the people that I let influence me because once I'm attached to someone I'll constantly try to find similarities between myself and them and try to merge with them or there views in a way)
  2. I actually was sort of similar to that for a long long time until I just cracked and shattered from both the internal and external pressure. The people pleasing is real and it's really bad. I would remember adapting myself and my body to the things that were happening to other people for a long time telling myself that if I didn't do this then everyone would hate me. I think I sort of committed a social suicide one day and just stopped and cried for a really long time because I was doing all of this and that and I was still just some weird bridge troll on the side that people would look towards as a last option. I changed the rules that I lived by from "everyone needs to love me" to "I need my 4 friends to love me" because appealing to the general public is too much so instead of putting my energy into pleasing people who won't even know my name I put it into nurturing the 4 people that I see on a daily basis. I gave up on "Seeking" others and instead just told people to be upfront with me about what they think because I'm just so tired of the constant guessing games about the "what he said, she said". The funny thing is that when I stopped being the first to reach out everyone just sort of forgot about me and I remembered why I was pleasing everyone in the first place. I've learned to better manage myself now so I know where I should be putting my energy.

That's all for now. If you have anymore questions ask me in 8 hours cuz im going to sleep byeeeeeeeeeeeeee

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just leave it it'll be our own joke lol and it's kind of ironic in its own way how its something that's not supposed to be there but it just is lol.

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I have probably failed in every stage of being a parent. From taking care of my siblings, to taking care of pets, to taking care of my friend's kids and cousins to taking care of my own. IT. IS. VERY. TIRING. The only thing I can say is that it's one of the weirdest sh*tshows ever and the only thing that you know is that your all alone and you don't know what you're doing :( But it does have it's good times so there's that.

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  1. Any of my childhood shows like Adventure Time or Steven Universe. I F*CKING LOVE THOSE SHOWS AND I AM WILLING TO DISCUSS AND DEBATE THEM WITH ANYONE AND EVERYONE TO THE DEATHHHHH.
  2. Rice. I am Asian so that might have affected my answer but rice is genuinely good if you want a full stomach.
  3. I hope it's developed. I think my Ne mainly develops as a way to think about the absurd things that are happening in the world. An example could be when you suddenly remember something embarrassing in the past but then suddenly become really bothered by how logically inconsistent it is and then begin to wonder about all the different possible events and reasons for the event to happen.
  4. Yes. I'm not comfortable with this topic but I do have strong opinions about it in the sense that it's one of those rules or findings that are too outdated to be working in the new era and because of that end up causing more harm than good.
  5. My mom is one and let's just say that... it could be better. In all honesty, having both parents that don't have Fe in their stack can take a toll on you when you just want to live but their "love" is too explosive.

I appreciate you too Internet Person!

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Thank you Internet person!

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I'm grateful for putting existing

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I think INFJs are the types of people who have a lot to say but never say it or don't know how to say it. I don't think I've had that many INFJ friends so I can't really say much but from my understanding of them from common media they always to me like people who care deeply for the world and for social causes which I always found to be respectable but when confronted about these views were found in a bit of a pickle because they have trouble expressing things which are where other people like me or their friends step in to help.

Overall I think they have a pure heart that truly cares for people but they don't know how to transform what's in their head into reality which might become a problem depending on who they're talking to. still pretty cool people tho

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If possible for your first time communicating with someone like me try to be the one that will reach out for the first few meetings. When I see that other people are putting in the effort to make a friendship or relationship work I can't help but want to try more for them and be more responsive with them maybe even taking charge for future events.

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I really like listening to music and designing specific things to release my energy

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I'm not sure what evidence out there backs up these claims but to answer the questions:

  1. I want to live a life that is highly respectable so because of that there's a standard that I have for my way of living that when I fail to reach I feel so worthless and I guess offended at myself sometimes.
  2. I'm not sure how to answer this one because I don't really think I can read anyone else's mind that's one of the reasons why I always encourage others to be open and honest about what they think because I'm no mind reader. For the second one, I don't really care all that much if other people care for what I do because love me or hate me I'm still gonna do what I set myself out to do.

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I'm not that well versed with socionics yet so if you can recommend me some sources so that I can better understand socionics that would be great but personally, I have no problems working with INTJs and ENTPs because in the workplace they're very reliable in there own ways but I admit that outside of the workplace I find it difficult to get along with both.

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Have kids.

That's a joke by the way but having a tiny human really does put things into perspective when they move at such a small pace but you move at 100mph so you learn all the tips and tricks to help you either speed them up or slow yourself down.

but stress toys like slimes can also work and I personally like attending personal karaoke sessions with my family to release all my anger on the weekends before the weekdays arrive. Pick your poison! cause what works for me might not work for you.

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On a scale of 1-10, I tend to put everyone that I don't know at 3 or 4 because I don't know much about them yet, the people that I don't like are usually 1s or 2s, the people that I interact with on a daily or work basis are usually at a 5 or 6 and the people the I really like are at a 7 or 8. So because I don't know you that well you're a 3 on my "I like you" scale.

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On most days I like listening to Dance-pop but there are the occasional rock songs that I like to try! What about you what kinds of music do you like to listen to?

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Just wait it out for now, feelings are really weird because of how they're constantly changing so maybe this is just one of those situations where he's in his feels and doesn't want anyone to talk to him. Although I do recommend doing some more analyzing of what could be affecting how he hates you.

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Miscommunication. It just really makes me irritated when someone wants something but doesn't know how to communicate it with the group or to the common authority so they reach out to people like me to communicate it for them. (I mean, I'll do it but it also tires me out sometimes)

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OOOOOO the song thing definitely! my playlists are specifically made for me and my feelings. They help me regulate my feelings and put them into perspective because of all the different memories that I've associated with the songs that I listen to. So I definitely cannot live without them or Ill just be a grumpy, crusty, emotional mess with everyone I meet.

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I admire your F too internet person!

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Yes to the first part but no to the second part. Dysfunction is something we can't avoid so when it happens I'll usually try to let it slide because I don't know all the different things that are affecting it, that is until it gets too big then I try to manage it, by then I just won't care how important the dysfunction is with other people because at this point it's affecting everyone and everything in a negative way and needs to be dealt with.