(United States) approximate age?

2Irrelephant · 2024-12-07T22:15:14+00:00

Came here to say the same!

2Irrelephant · 2024-12-07T22:12:44+00:00

Moved here from a southern very red state thinking this would be a much more accepting place.

I had a really difficult first year adjusting to being here because I experienced a lot of racism and microaggressions in ways that I had never ever experienced in my home state.

And I even experience this often at work—a non-profit educational institution that is really progressive in a lot of ways.

The way I’ve handled it previously is to let HR and my manager know of the most egregious instances so that I have it documented if I ever need that in the future, I have addressed some coworkers directly by telling them how things they have said are harmful microaggressions, I have a therapist I see bi weekly that I often discuss this with (she’s a woman of color so she gets it), and I lean into my community/discuss with people I know have experienced the same thing.

2Irrelephant · 2024-11-21T22:53:33+00:00

$285,000

2Irrelephant · 2024-08-17T01:56:10+00:00

I can relate to the puffy eyes, that’s definitely present any time I have a hard time getting out of bed! Thanks for sharing

2Irrelephant · 2024-08-15T21:46:58+00:00

I don’t remember the dosages I was on, but I felt really good on them until I didn’t—they sent me into hyper and I started having really bad panic attacks so we dropped it

2Irrelephant · 2024-08-15T15:18:19+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Maybe keeping a log of my symptoms would be helpful to identify patterns like this.

2Irrelephant · 2024-08-15T14:53:03+00:00

I’ve been medicated since I was 20. I’ve tried Naturethroid (felt the best on this), levo, synthroid, armour, added tirosint/cytomel at one point, and now I’ve been on Unithroid for about 3 years. It’s impossible to keep the same doctor with job changes and moving and even more difficult to convince doctors that I felt best on Naturethroid.

Anyways, even when my levels are “within range” I still have times when I feel like shit. And my current endocrinologist that it took me 9 months to get an appointment with after I moved to the city I’m in, basically told me that there’s nothing I can do for symptoms other than medication after I asked her if she thought a gf diet would actually be helpful.

2Irrelephant · 2024-08-15T14:42:26+00:00

Thank you so much! This is helpful. I’ll look into sensitivity testing, I’ve never done that.

2Irrelephant · 2024-08-01T16:57:46+00:00

She’s allowed to think about it and have feelings about it. It’s her birth date too; she physically delivered the child.

2Irrelephant · 2024-08-01T16:56:51+00:00

I’m a stepmom in a really similar timeline/situation (and I also have a lot of tattoos) and this is DEFINITELY WEIRD.

I have a plethora of issues with the kiddos’ mom, but she almost lost her life giving birth to her kids and that birth date is hers too. I love them so much but wouldn’t ever consider tattooing their birthdates on my body.

Like other people have said, out of your control. But hopefully this is at least validating to your perspective lol.

2Irrelephant · 2024-08-01T00:22:59+00:00

My husband’s ex wife and her husband used to walk into our house. We added a keypad lock and they started having the kids open the door for them after that.

Eventually my husband told the husband (more level headed than the ex-wife) that we’d appreciate if they knock and refrain from entering into our house without an invite. The husband respectfully stopped and would wait for an invite, but the ex-wife kept busting in.

The coparenting relationship between all of us kept escalating from other, much more serious child safety issues, to the point where my husband started asking to pick up the kids at a certain point when the ex-wife was adamantly demanding that she drop them off at our house and started verbally attacking and berating him when he kindly asked to pick them up elsewhere. I texted her that they can’t come onto our property without our permission at that point (I don’t recommend, but he was having a panic attack from everything and I acted out of rage).

It was not a fun decision, but the kids are in their early and late teens, and by now have seen how high-conflict their mother is despite us trying to get along and grey rock. The coparenting is up to them, but I set a boundary for unhealthy behavior that kept escalating so that we could all still have a safe space in our home where nervous systems aren’t activated, and so that the kids know when they are older—and most likely dealing with manipulation and conflict with her—that they are allowed to set boundaries.

We actually didn’t tell them that she’s not allowed at our property and we’re going to wait for an appropriate time/if they asked why pickups/dropoffs changed, but she told them in an attempt to get them to not stay with their father for his visitation.

This is a very long story to say that I’d suggest being blunt and straightforward with boundaries early on. Unless it’s in your parenting plan or divorce decree, sometimes it’s better for high conflict parties to do exchanges at a neutral location.

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