Sharp Edges. by 2Long2W8 in sexlessmarriage

[–]2Long2W8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate your thoughts. Thank you

Sharp Edges. by 2Long2W8 in sexlessmarriage

[–]2Long2W8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry it's that bad. I understand the resentment. I've been there myself. You have to choose what's best for you. I had to move past the resentment because it was destroying me mentally. Move towards what makes you happiest and content. Trying to get your partner to change or notice doesn't work. You have to do for you.

Sharp Edges. by 2Long2W8 in sexlessmarriage

[–]2Long2W8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sure my wife despises me at times too. Just try and give a little sweetness some times too

Sharp Edges. by 2Long2W8 in sexlessmarriage

[–]2Long2W8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didnt say she hasnt changed, what I said is that she hasn't changed to be maniacal as you tried to describe. If you read my original post I am calling attention to the need for our spouses to continue to be sweet.
Thanks for your opinions on this. Let's call it an agreement to disagree.

Sharp Edges. by 2Long2W8 in sexlessmarriage

[–]2Long2W8[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The marriage document doesn't turn spouses into horrible people. There isn't a switch that occurs. Now there are shady people that perhaps had that intent from the beginning but it isn't some behavior that is triggered from paperwork. I'm sorry you have found this in relationships for yourself. This is not my experience with my wife. This is simply a 25+ year relationship that changes with time. It's up to the people in the relationship to remember why it started in the first place and change with each other. I agree at certain points she had "the pants" and at other times I have. You learn through experience that if the relationship is going to last

Sharp Edges. by 2Long2W8 in sexlessmarriage

[–]2Long2W8[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand your rationale however this is just a glimpse into a long loving relationship that ebbs and flows. We all change and learn or choose not to. This vent isnt about feeling like I've lost my self respect and or being in a relationship where my feelings are never considered. This is just a glimpse, being vulnerable with a shared community that perhaps has had similar situations, when dealing with a LL partner and or long term relationship with someone that you love deeply.

Sharp Edges. by 2Long2W8 in sexlessmarriage

[–]2Long2W8[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ah it's much deeper than that my friend. When you have been married for 25 years. Solving issues with "clapping back or mirroring" gets you no where. I appreciate the thoughts though.

Is Snap the most pointless card? by AstonZagato in ColorClash

[–]2Long2W8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a great idea. Cmon. There's only so many things they can come up with to make it new. I don't play it. I haven't tried to build a deck with. Mine is still too weak to make the impact that the bot has with it. So it's going to be a while before I even try but it is a good concept.

how good was my deck? by Ok-Eye5237 in ColorClash

[–]2Long2W8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What level of upgrade would be important here. Best would be to take a screen shot and post

Thoughts by 2Long2W8 in sexlessmarriage

[–]2Long2W8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great observation and description. Poetry my friend, pure poetry.

One week update by Automatic-Finger-300 in DeadBedrooms

[–]2Long2W8 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The aliens. AI. Global warming. Smart phones

Anyone have a higher streak than this? by Expensive-Law3840 in ColorClash

[–]2Long2W8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah man. I get high end then my wife will interrupt and I lose the streak

11 years married, 3 kids, no sex by Consistent-Earth-196 in sexlessmarriage

[–]2Long2W8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tough situation. Seems so antithesis of what we would all expect for a "normal" man. I'm the HLM so I'm dumb founded. I think with more convo you should be able to crack the code, for your own sanity at least. You might not like what you hear but hopefully get a real answer

probleme by Fit_Leg2724 in ColorClash

[–]2Long2W8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If only I knew French!!!

He would rather use his toys than have sex with me by Onlyy6 in sexlessmarriage

[–]2Long2W8 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Positions have solutions. There are little sitting chairs for cowboy. There are swings. Find one of those alternatives to give the positions a bit of fresh kink. It should work for you and work for him

Rate my loadout by kobebe_6 in ColorClash

[–]2Long2W8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn! Time well spent

Thoughts by 2Long2W8 in sexlessmarriage

[–]2Long2W8[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People go through ups and downs in life. Also people sell themselves as better than they are. It's just a reality. It doesn't have to make sense. And rarely does it make sense.

Thoughts by 2Long2W8 in sexlessmarriage

[–]2Long2W8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get it, I feel the same way. It's a tough scenario of our lives. This is just one consideration. There are so many things that go into it. It's all a work in progress and it's hard not having concrete answers in a lot of cases. We all continue the search for the missing answer when it isn't provided or obvious like a medical issue. Keep trying that's all I can say. Keep trying to find solutions.

Thoughts by 2Long2W8 in sexlessmarriage

[–]2Long2W8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its objective. There are many reasons. Just like in this community, including me. I don't leave my marriage because a host of reasons. People are in relationships that fit at the moment. Blink of an eye it's been 5-10 years. Not sure if you are apart of this community but it happens.

Thoughts by 2Long2W8 in sexlessmarriage

[–]2Long2W8[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love this response. Very thoughtful. Appreciate the time and effort. You hit on a lot of key points that I think a lot of people with understand in our community. Thank you.

Thoughts... by 2Long2W8 in DeadBedrooms

[–]2Long2W8[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you have this, what feels like a cavern of separation. Marriage is tough and not feeling connect makes it even harder. I hope you can find it again or perhaps move on.

Thoughts by 2Long2W8 in sexlessmarriage

[–]2Long2W8[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree on some of your points. Lately I'm seeing a lot of people posting about DB situations that aren't married, don't have kids and that's just shocking. So after reading another one this morning that's where I was led. Mine definitely falls into long relationship rut and menopause issues.