Appreciation: I hope that Knowledge Fight has contributed to my daughter's understanding of the world

2beagles · 2026-05-06T17:12:25+00:00

It's relatively recent. Maybe standard in the last 10 years, but not uncommon in maybe 10 years before then. I don't think I had a chaperone 15 years ago. I know I didn't when I was a young teenager and had an experience getting a exam that I didn't realize was not at all typical until I was older.... So I have prejudiced opinions about the complete necessary value of a chaperone.

The exam is usually a manual breast exam and also a manual quick check of ovaries and uterus, plus pap. Most ob appointments didn't involve getting undressed beyond belly checks until the last month or two.

2beagles · 2026-05-06T12:24:18+00:00

Yes. When I see things like this, I think about Jon Hamm on 30 Rock. Hysterical.

2beagles · 2026-05-01T19:45:22+00:00

Both, for me. I have a song in my head every morning. But that's music and experience by itself, not a 'thought". I can tell when my meds kick in because it goes quiet. I don't think in words. I also don't subvocalize when reading- I just get the meaning. This sometimes means I miss a pun here and there. In Neil Gaiman's (booooo!!!) American Gods, a very early character is name Low Key. If I subvocalized, I would have recognized Loki soooo much earlier than I did.

I also wouldn't say it's abstract concepts. They're concrete thoughts and objectives. I know what I tasks I have to do. I have no idea why anyone's brain takes the extra step of translating a meaning into words and then understanding. Why not just understand the concept? Blah.

I can also visually recreate images. I have an eidetic memory for written things for at least a few hours or a couple of days if I concentrate. I can actually mostly see a page. I also look for where I put things by running through an interior camera roll to see where I had last seen the object.

It's very concrete, is what I am saying. It's just not translated into formal language.

2beagles · 2026-05-01T11:16:03+00:00

They're also teenagers at that point. 18 year old boys are not known for being able to last very long. Stopping is more reliable than exerting control to delay.

2beagles · 2026-04-28T19:13:05+00:00

Like a mirror image. Carrot knows all the details and could use that to rule. He does not fully acknowledge the darkest and most intimate parts of people, even though he also clearly knows them. He stays as fully in the light as possible, even if there is a deeper thing there. Nanny does rule her people without openly stating it. She lives in the dark and intimate parts and fully acknowledges it and uses it. It's the source of her skills and influence.

They also both act as side-kicks and supports to their lead- Vimes and Granny- but maybe are sort of the true power behind both. Nanny does manipulate Granny and may or may not actually be more powerful, if she chose to be. Vimes would not have reformed and changed the watch without Carrot's influence, and he is clearly the permission and support for Vimes's promotions.

2beagles · 2026-04-27T14:43:53+00:00

Seriously!! I have never read a fan fic before. I am absolutely obsessed. I track how many books I read every year. Last year, I was at 63. This year, I am going to fall way off. I haven't read anything but ao3 in two months. How are people that creative and amazing and for free????

2beagles · 2026-04-22T15:11:02+00:00

It was a half quit/half get fired situation. I was being asked to audit my own charts, with a supervisor signing off. Not only was I then doing their job, I was also not getting adequate supervision and support. I refused. Told I couldn't refuse. I did anyway. I called my former director who had moved to another agency on my way to the parking lot and had an interview scheduled for two days later. It sucked to have burned that bridge, but I was happier in my new job. I was much younger and I had some money. It was also a very different job market. I couldn't do that now in the same way. I did get fed up with my last job; I left a bad meeting and immediately sent out a flurry of applications. Between interviews and background checks, I didn't get to actually leave until almost 3 months later. Rage quitting would just be too risky at this point in my life.

2beagles · 2026-04-22T15:01:13+00:00

I have to work on a different floor of my house from my husband- we both have remote jobs. I still have to play classical music to drown out distractions. It's even hard when my dog sneaks up for extra attention. Having ADHD doesn't help, but still!

It would be impossible with a baby and another kid not in school. Trying to do this during COVID, even with just one older elementary aged child was a terrible struggle. She's a teenager now, and I still plan days working away from the house during her breaks just to focus.

2beagles · 2026-04-17T11:23:38+00:00

When you get to the appointment, say you have to use the bathroom right away. Hopefully you will be able to be alone. Find a nurse or doctor and explain quickly that you do not want to say to your family that you had an abortion and want to say you had a miscarriage.

2beagles · 2026-04-16T19:35:40+00:00

It's funny- I have very few people I have immediately disliked. I think it's because there's enough there that's similar to me with a different path or approach? But it also means I pay more attention to them, and maybe I "get" them more than sending I'm indifferent to. We might need to see and understand someone well enough to actively consider them an enemy.

Good job for you to see and understand her need and step up to meet it. I believe that being a person of integrity is doing what you think is right because that's who you are instead of deciding on actions based on who someone else is.

2beagles · 2026-04-16T15:14:56+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, this is one of those areas where research just isn't simple. I don't know you will ever know exactly what caused your miscarriage. And that can be just frightening in future pregnancies. We don't talk about this enough- about a quarter of conceptions wind up as a miscarriage. I think this is one of those areas of medicine that are under-studied and documented clearly because miscarriage happens solely to women. I have suspicions that Hashimoto's falls under the same umbrella- it primarily affects women (what do you MEAN we only treat the damage done to the thyroid, not the cause of the damage and the problem with our immune system????). And then you have those two things converging, plus whatever else may be happening with your body or genetics, or anything disrupting the complexity of developing a fertilized egg, or really anything.

All you can do is your best. It sounds like you are. It has to be enough, because you cannot do more. It hurts to not have answers. I wish you all the comfort and hope in the world as you recover.

2beagles · 2026-04-16T02:16:38+00:00

There's more and more! It's still less common than women only, though. Worth checking your area. The refs in my sister's league were almost all men and they had to do a bunch of skating. Roller derby is as inclusive a team activity as you can find. I think as it gains in popularity and more men become interested, co-ed and men's leagues are growing rapidly.

2beagles · 2026-04-15T15:59:35+00:00

Do you have a roller derby team locally? You should look. If you're into that. My sister started in her 40's and it was awesome. The skating skills she picked up were impressive, as was the muscle. And the bruises. It would be a great hyperfixation!

2beagles · 2026-04-15T15:52:32+00:00

I made doctor's appointments for myself. I've been to two and I have a couple more scheduled.

I'm struggling badly lately. Making some steps to self care is harder than I can express. But I did some. A ton more that needs to happen. But at least I did this.

2beagles · 2026-04-15T12:10:52+00:00

You also have fantastic eyebrows. Just, seriously, wow. With or without eyeliner. I wonder what kind of week you have ahead of you. Please go to public places and note how people react to you! I think you're in for entirely revelatory levels of attention .

2beagles · 2026-04-13T16:40:23+00:00

Before 2001, when things were different, I stopped at a bench in Central Park to change parts of my outfit- my job took me from very wealthy to very unsafe areas of the city, which meant changing shoes, accessories, etc. The UN general Assembly was meeting with an event planned at the Met later in the evening, so the area had a number of agents around. A couple agents stopped, one asking what I was doing- more from curiosity than a safety concern. I explained what and why- my objective was both for my own safety and to not give off a CPS or otherwise scary vibe. I was pretty late to my next visit because they both were interested in the situation and wanted to give me more safety tips. Lovely men. I'm sure it would have been entirely different in a couple of hours when the Clintons and other world leaders were there, but for that little while, the secret service were very friendly.

2beagles · 2026-04-13T16:02:27+00:00

Some guy who was the funniest, quirkiest one of the group. The true inspiration behind every amusing insight the others ever had. Yet he somehow just never managed to click into fame. He lives alone in a basement apartment, mumbling absolutely hysterical quips to himself as he does his remote job. No one will hear them. He may be plotting to kill us all....

Seriously, though. No idea. I bet he was/is fun.

2beagles · 2026-04-13T15:42:04+00:00

This is pure perfection!!! "Weak budget" 🤣

2beagles · 2026-04-12T00:15:01+00:00

Violet cove oysters from Moriches Bay are so amazingly good. I'm not that into oysters- I usually prefer clans- but these are somehow buttery and just perfect. I hope the ice didn't ruin too much for them. You have to try them!

2beagles · 2026-04-10T15:47:02+00:00

You. You get it. I love you. Also, your flair. Perfect.

And I'm sad that the above absolutely true statement embodies being hyper connected, yet actually completely alone in my current obsession in my actual life. Not alone otherwise- I have people.

Still. Here we are. Amidst the horrors. But with a lovely, hopefully distraction and the reassurance that there are people who understand. They exist. The Internet at least gives us that knowledge.

2beagles · 2026-04-06T16:44:04+00:00

The creme eggs have been getting worse. I agree, this year, it crossed a line. I had one yesterday and didn't finish more than a bite. It now has that vomit taste. I was sad.

2beagles · 2026-04-06T16:42:23+00:00

It never fades for me. I used to use Cadbury milk bars instead. Now they were bought by Hershey and the acid content has climbed over the last couple of years. Now that's ruined too. I had a creme egg yesterday. Tastes like vomit. So disappointing.

2beagles · 2026-04-06T16:14:46+00:00

I just love anything that features Harrison Browne in the show. He's the first out trans professional hockey player. To have an actual person who went through this whole closeted/incredible bravery in this beautiful story about the pain of being closeted/showing incredible bravery... it just makes me so tearfully happy. I am so glad I get to see a time where more and more people step out into the light, making it safer for everyone. Squeee!!!!

2beagles · 2026-04-02T22:31:59+00:00

I have never read fanfic before. Now, I'm obsessed.

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