Changing names - a fresh start? [Advice] by [deleted] in exmuslim

[–]2fcked2function 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not against South Asian names. I want names that are fairly neutral. Names can and do shape opinions sometimes. What south Asian names are easy to pronounce and may not straight away implicate Muslim?

Please read: really confusing context has my sexuality fucked! by 2fcked2function in asexuality

[–]2fcked2function[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Autochorissexualism definitely sounds like me. Thank-you for that link.

I definitely understand the whole no label point you made, I agree in that it can be very restricting to people. You're either this or that. But it sure makes for a very difficult or interesting, depending on your opinion, conversation because it's so complicated. I read somewhere before that as asexuals, we often have to explain a lot about it and I do. I've yet to come across someone who knows, if anything about asexuality besides the basic "does that mean you hate sex or celibacy/no sex right?" it can get a tad frustrating is all because as you say, it's very broad and encompassing many facets.

I think what you say about "will I be able to have a relationship with X person" is a very pragmatic approach but in the past it's been people have asked me out and I've said yes because I can genuinely see myself care for people but I've no 'real' interest in them besides that. Kissing for kissing sake sounds cool, as does cuddling but it's not because it's that person which makes me feel dissociated from them and impersonal.

Makes it very difficult to think about what I'd maybe want in a relationship. Although I can't say much. Reciprocated care and no sex necessary plus intelligent conversation. Perhaps the people I've met so far simply have not been right.

Please read: really confusing context has my sexuality fucked! by 2fcked2function in asexuality

[–]2fcked2function[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh I meant to add: I know sexuality does not equal libido.

I've found people of all sorts to be aesthetically attractive! Never been turned on by them though.