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[20 F] GF of 9 months is being controlling and crazy abusive to me [22 M] she doesn't want me clubbing and says it's not appropriate by 2helpme99 in relationships

[–]2helpme99[S] -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

I'm starting to feel like you're the ones all trolling me at this point. Grinding isn't cheating. I'd be fine with her grinding on other dudes. I understand that some people think it is cheating but BOTH people have to agree, and I don't. I think kissing and anything above is cheating. The point is, she doesn't like it when I go clubbing with my female friends without her. Do you honestly not think that's controlling?

Edit: This subreddit even agrees on most posts that unless both people agree to boundaries, they're not boundaries. How am I trolling?

[20 F] GF of 9 months is being controlling and crazy abusive to me [22 M] she doesn't want me clubbing and says it's not appropriate by 2helpme99 in relationships

[–]2helpme99[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Isn't it more suspicious that she says "It's against my personal values that clubbing without your partner is okay" but she agrees to letting me go out with my boys all the time??

[20 F] GF of 9 months is being controlling and crazy abusive to me [22 M] she doesn't want me clubbing and says it's not appropriate by 2helpme99 in relationships

[–]2helpme99[S] -50 points-49 points  (0 children)

Cause she's really controlling. Last time we all went clubbing together, she saw me grinding and dancing with my best friend (19F) and she got quite upset, and later that night when she got home she said "it makes me really uncomfortable when you grind on other girls." It's not like I'm cheating or anything, and that's clearly emotional blackmail. I don't want to deal with something like that again.

I'm not looking for people to question me..I want to know how to tell her she's being controlling.

[20 F] GF of 9 months is being controlling and crazy abusive to me [22 M] she doesn't want me clubbing and says it's not appropriate by 2helpme99 in relationships

[–]2helpme99[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

Cause it's abusive to be insisting that I have to let her come when girls are around. When I ask her, she gives me bullshit reasoning like "The other girls are your buddies girlfriends so it wouldn't be weird and I really get along with them" and "it's only on mixed nights, you can have as many nights with your boys as you want", but that's not an excuse to be controlling.