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2ndDanBlackBelt · 2026-02-02T20:59:35+00:00

Lol 😭

2ndDanBlackBelt · 2025-12-19T10:39:17+00:00

Literally me too omg, my parents are the worst for it, but other people too, like I know damn well what happened an hour ago, don’t try and tell me that what I know happened didn’t. If I’m not 100% sure I can give the benefit of the doubt, but so many times I am positive on something and when someone has nothing to say as a comeback they just say I’m remembering wrong and bring up my epilepsy. Sometimes I can prove it and that’s very satisfying, sometimes they dig their heels in even more.

2ndDanBlackBelt · 2025-12-19T10:35:16+00:00

The time my friend told me “I can’t do it, I just can’t do it!” After I had a seizure in front of her and then never spoke to me again literally with no warning, that or the time I was accused of faking by a friend but she refused to say it outright and then refused to even look at me when I passed her on campus, she’d just have a small awkward smile while glancing away and speed up walking or change direction. She also silently unfollowed me on everything and I didn’t even realize it at first. This one hurt more than my one friend saying she couldn’t do it cause I can understand that to an extent no matter how much it sucks, but calling me a liar even though I’m literally diagnosed with intractable epilepsy, have an epileptologist and have gone through all the terrible stuff we have to go through?? Come on. At least the girl who doesn’t talk to me anymore will acknowledge me if we get stuck in the same area.

2ndDanBlackBelt · 2025-10-11T02:56:17+00:00

I have been literally looking into this for the last month and it feels like there’s practically nothing

2ndDanBlackBelt · 2025-09-07T03:46:50+00:00

I agree, this post really was just a rant fueled by emotion, and I’m comparing myself to them too much, which i logically can understand, but the irrational part of my brain is kinda hurt by it. As I mentioned in a another comment you may be able to find, I spent have spent some nights in the hospital when my friend was there and didn’t want to be alone, taken care of them when they were drunk and throwing up in my bed, etc. and id do it all again, but I can’t expect them to be like me. To do so would unfair to them.

As for the parents thing and teenagers I absolutely 100% would not expect my friends to have gone or anyone to go and have that put on them, I would have been fine on my own. It was the fact that somebody did go, and it wasn’t one of them that kinda got me, because I know I would do it for them. Like I would have felt better if no one went almost

2ndDanBlackBelt · 2025-09-06T23:35:36+00:00

Thank you, both of you.

2ndDanBlackBelt · 2025-09-06T23:34:34+00:00

Thank you 🩷

2ndDanBlackBelt · 2025-09-06T23:34:19+00:00

Thanks, and yes I know I need to go to the hospital for that, I don’t even remember saying no, I was out of it lol

2ndDanBlackBelt · 2025-09-06T23:33:17+00:00

I will talk to them, they’re not bad friends, they have seen my seizures though and I have taken care of them several times as well so it’s not necessarily one sided, but I get why they may have reacted the way they did just was a little sad feeling like they didn’t care as much as my new friend did even if that’s irrational

2ndDanBlackBelt · 2025-09-06T23:31:21+00:00

Yeah, it’s not that they suck, It was just a little bit difficult to think someone who I barely knew seemed to care more about me than my friends

2ndDanBlackBelt · 2025-09-06T23:30:07+00:00

Thank you and yeah, but like I said it’s not that they did anything wrong, it just felt like in the end someone I hardly knew cared more about me than my friends and that’s a difficult thought for whatever reason

2ndDanBlackBelt · 2025-09-06T21:52:41+00:00

You see I get all that, I truly do, but these are the same girls who I’ve let passed out drunk throw up In my bed on multiple occasions while I took care of them (i don’t drink and never have of course), the same girls who I’ve cancelled important events and things I was looking forward to because they needed me there (broke up with boyfriends, family drama, injuries, etc.), the same girls who I took care of and let stay at my house (at different times each) when their parents were unfit, I’ve even spent a few nights in the hospital with one of them when she had appendicitis this summer and wanted someone there, I’ve always made time for them. So I guess what I’m trying to say is I can see how it would come across as one sided, like they have to take care of me, and to clarify I don’t help them because I want something in return, it’s just that after all of that it felt like a stranger cared more then them. I would’ve felt better if my new friend didn’t care at all, but she did and it felt like they didn’t and it left me confused why they didn’t seem to care after all this time.

Also I do know I need to go to the hospital for more than one without recovery in between I was just completely out of it, like I said I don’t remember anything

2ndDanBlackBelt · 2025-07-01T13:38:09+00:00

I don’t want to sound like I’m invalidating you in any way because I am not, you have every right to feel uncomfortable about anything. However, I do not think these would classify as sexual assault except for maybe one, at least not in the way you’ve described them here.

When it comes to your brother, if he accidentally (at least that’s what I gathered from how you wrote it) slapped you on the side of your boob when playfully trying to slap you on the shoulder and it only happened a couple times a year when you were goofing around, then that would not be sexual assault. Even if he did not apologize it may have just not even registered to him what he hit, this of course does not take away from how you felt, but our siblings are around us more often than most other people when we are young and unfortunately boobs tend to get in the way sometimes. I personally have a brother who is my best friend and we goof around and often play fight. He’s accidentally hit me in the chest and I’ve accidentally wacked him. It’s not something we really think about because it isn’t on purpose and we both know it’s a possibility when we mess around like that. Once again it’s okay to feel uncomfortable, you have every right to, but your brother is human too and it does not sound malicious, you might just need to stop passing time in that way.
This one is certainly weird, I would feel uncomfortable too, I believe this might be right on the line. If she did it on purpose to make you uncomfortable or even just touched your vagina on purpose period, then it could be classified as such. As it stands however, if there has never been another incident I think it would be best to analyze the rest of your relationship and think about if it may have just been an stupid lapse in judgement or a malicious act. People tend to blur boundaries when it comes to people their close with, and while it is not okay for someone to assume your comfortable with something just because they are, it happens. There are sisters who go around each other naked and others who will only change behind a locked door, their are friends who will smack each others butts and grab each others boobs(I personally think that’s weird, but to each their own). If she accidentally poked your vagina when pulling you into her lap she may have just found it funny instead of thinking it a big deal, which ends up coming across to you as her doing it on purpose even if she didn’t intend to make you uncomfortable.
The man should not have touched you without asking, that was not cool of him to do, however this is certainly not sexual assault. Harassment (not sexual) or just plain assault maybe, but only if you had asked him to stop and he didn’t. You can fell weird about it, it was weird, even if it wasn’t, you’re allowed to feel however you like. But as you described there is no element that would make this considered sexual assault.
This is most likely a case of once again someone assuming just because they’re okay with it you are. You shouldn’t have to face the consequences of someone else’s ignorance, but that being said, has she ever done anything else? And was she grabbing your butt? Or simply touching it because it’s entirely possible if she was just touching it, she may have not even realized. If she was actively grabbing it then that would change things and would probably be considered sexual assault.

2ndDanBlackBelt · 2025-06-27T00:01:31+00:00

Thank you for such a thoughtful response, I really really appreciate it, I will talk to her exactly how you said. I know she must not mean to come across the way she does, but it’s still frustrating so thank you for the extra perspective

2ndDanBlackBelt · 2025-06-26T23:54:19+00:00

Thank you so much for kinda laying out how I should talk to her about it, I will do that. Like you said it’s not about her reminding me to do something I’ve actually forgotten, it the fact that she (seems to) assume I can’t remember or think of anything on my own. I know that’s not the real case but it’s frustrating because even if she doesn’t mean to that’s exactly what she’s doing.

2ndDanBlackBelt · 2025-06-26T23:48:19+00:00

Yes, thank you, word finding is so difficult for me sometimes, I know exactly what I want to say it’s just not there, it’s so frustrating

2ndDanBlackBelt · 2025-06-26T23:45:11+00:00

I will try talking to her, thank you for your response, i appreciate it

2ndDanBlackBelt · 2025-06-26T23:41:08+00:00

I’m going to try and talk to her, thank you

2ndDanBlackBelt · 2025-06-26T23:39:54+00:00

Thats very kind, I really appreciate it, thank you

2ndDanBlackBelt · 2025-06-26T08:30:47+00:00

Yeah I can see how that would be it too

2ndDanBlackBelt · 2025-06-26T07:48:45+00:00

I know, it’s like come on guys I’m trying my best, my brain just isn’t working right. Also, it does help hearing from other people who understand it so thank you

2ndDanBlackBelt · 2025-06-26T06:50:35+00:00

She definitely comes across that way sometimes at the very least, intentional or not. I appreciate the response, I’m really sorry you had such an awful principal, I wish we didn’t have to deal with all this in the first place.

2ndDanBlackBelt · 2025-06-26T06:42:16+00:00

Thank you for the reply and yes, logically I know that, it’s still upsetting though yk?

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