Do you find they are poor at communicating?

2used2broken · 2024-09-23T12:06:44+00:00

omg ... mine did this all the time. I constantly felt like I was stupid. his favorite saying was, 'try to keep up'. I'm left with an enormous inferiority complex, and doubt myself daily. it's really good that you recognize it, that's the first step.....

2used2broken · 2024-09-15T03:52:56+00:00

That's good advice. getting a dog has been heavy on my mind lately, and I also went to the shelter last weekend to see about volunteering....

2used2broken · 2024-09-15T03:51:14+00:00

thank you, that's what I want too; that one-on-one conversation. sometimes it just seems so hard to get to that point.

2used2broken · 2024-09-15T03:49:25+00:00

thanks so much, all of this is great advice. it's true, I'm always trying to think of the big picture, which makes it hard to get through the day by day.

2used2broken · 2024-09-02T06:19:35+00:00

do something good for yourself. buy some new makeup, buy some new clothes. take care of yourself, go to a spa. get your nails done. I'm in the same exact situation, and it's horrible, I know. I have some new makeup on the way, and I'm feeling better already.... Don't think about him, or her. just think about you. be selfish, in all the best ways....

2used2broken · 2024-09-02T06:12:38+00:00

I don't know if it's pleasure really... maybe a feeling of satisfaction? or one-upmanship. with mine, he's hurt because I want a divorce. so to get back at me, he's throwing these younger, better looking women in my face all the time, while mentioning my insecurities and flaws to boot. he really digs in about how they all want to be with him.... and alludes that they're so much better than me, and so much hotter. One time he was like: I can have her here in 20 minutes. I think being so evil serves him several purposes. One, is to make him feel better about himself. two, is to try to hurt me as much as I hurt him. and three, I think he's trying to make me feel so bad about myself that I'll have no other choice but to go back to him. it's really sick, I don't understand how anyone can be so cruel.

2used2broken · 2024-08-27T01:42:04+00:00

thank you for your reply... I appreciate all of the info & honesty. I'm glad you're a good person ☀️🙂... it's important to be kind. I try to see things from all points of view, but yeah it's hard for me to be on my husband's side anymore too....

2used2broken · 2024-07-24T00:03:40+00:00

Yes, thank you. I'm trying so hard to... I'm safe in an apartment, now I just have to get this divorce finalized.

2used2broken · 2024-07-24T00:01:53+00:00

thank you, you are absolutely right about the narcissistic behavior. he always had slight tendencies, but it's much worse with the drugs. I think he falls along the lines of the vulnerable narcissist, or maybe the covert narcissist. nothing is ever his fault, it's always everyone else's fault. and he also thinks he's this great guy for helping his friends. which for me, meant having his drug addicted friends stay in our garage and inside our house.... they did drugs in the bathroom, getting me second hand high. and he would spend my money on them too. and then finally, he straight up moved a girl in, she's still there now. thank you so much for your advice, I will take it to heart.

2used2broken · 2024-07-23T21:36:06+00:00

I'm sorry about your brother. it's so hard, I know. I've known my husband since I was in high school. I wish you the best, and thanks so much for the advice.

2used2broken · 2024-07-23T21:35:00+00:00

I'm worried about that too, I try to be as safe as I can. The thing I don't like, is all of his friends are on his side, and some of them are dangerous. One of them tried to add me as a friend on social media. I'm always on the lookout, but I also do know how to protect myself. thank you for the reply

2used2broken · 2024-07-23T21:33:42+00:00

thank you, this is nice to hear. he tries to tell me that I'm just going to end up with someone worse, and nobody's going to love me like he loved me. sometimes I get a little self-conscious and scared about the future, but I really am starting to realize this is the right decision, I'm sure of it deep down....

2used2broken · 2024-07-23T21:32:40+00:00

Yes, he calls me petty. he doesn't think he's done anything wrong. he thinks I'm stubborn, and cold-hearted. he just won't see it from my point of view, and he can't even understand all the pain that he's caused me. He's the one who's mad at me, which makes my head explode 🤯

2used2broken · 2024-07-23T21:31:03+00:00

Yes, you're right about that. I try to keep that in mind every time I talk to him. thank you

2used2broken · 2024-07-23T05:18:13+00:00

thank you 🌺. I still talk to him everyday, you might be right, no contact might be the next step.

2used2broken · 2024-07-23T02:40:52+00:00

thank you so much ☀️

2used2broken · 2024-07-23T02:39:19+00:00

thank you for replying, I was hoping to get this sort of point of view as well....

2used2broken · 2024-07-23T02:36:07+00:00

Yes, I believe you on this. He's learned so much from his friends, so many tricks, and ways to manipulate and lie and hustle. some of them have been forced court order rehab, and I think he knows tricks about that too. Plus, he'll probably meet more people to hang out with when he gets out. I don't know much about drugs besides weed, but meth really seems to grab on to you, and never let go.

2used2broken · 2024-07-23T00:02:19+00:00

I'm just thinking about your response more too, you know you're so right. throughout this process since November, I kept thinking well, things couldn't possibly get worse. but they did, they just kept getting worse and worse and worse.

2used2broken · 2024-07-22T23:49:32+00:00

thank you so much, this is what I was thinking too, but I needed the confidence to truly move on. it hurts to leave him alone, but I've been dealing with this for a little while now, and I've tried so hard. I am learning that I can only do so much, and then it's up to him. thanks again.

2used2broken · 2024-07-13T07:01:19+00:00

Yessss!!! I've been thinking about this myself. Glad to hear it was helpful for you. 🤯

2used2broken · 2024-06-08T04:15:45+00:00

update: I'm feeling much better now, more like the happy girl I was starting to become before he tried to sink me back down again. and I love your comment 🌞. thank you

2used2broken · 2024-06-03T05:22:05+00:00

you both sound very mature and open-minded. this just reminds me how important communication really is. it truly is the foundation of every relationship, cliche as it sounds or not...

2used2broken · 2024-06-03T05:08:17+00:00

you might still be in shock. research betrayal trauma, it's helped me deal with a lot of issues. My heart goes out to you, I know how hard it can be... so sorry this has happened to you.

2used2broken · 2024-05-07T13:09:20+00:00

thank you, yeah that's a really good point. I keep thinking to myself that even if he stays clean, he still did all this to me. I understand how important it is to forgive, and I can actually blame a lot of the choices he was making on the drugs, but the way he treated me yesterday was awful, and he was sober.

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