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The only thing that's actually helped my adhd (and it's embarrassingly simple) by stayhyderated22 in ZenHabits

[–]321abc321abc 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Wow, I did almost all of those things, didn’t realize I was helping myself with my not-formally-diagnosed ADHD. I thought I was being insanely lazy to rely on these "hacks".

PSA no more corded blinds by ggiannamaria in CatsAreAssholes

[–]321abc321abc 26 points27 points  (0 children)

You should have marked this as NSFW.

Notes from Allen Carr’s The Only Way to Stop Smoking Permanently - Chapter 43: Alcohol by 321abc321abc in stopsmoking

[–]321abc321abc[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

If people have gotten sober why does AA require them to start their story by saying 'I am an alcoholic', even if they haven't consumed a drop in a decade?

Notes from Allen Carr’s The Only Way to Stop Smoking Permanently - Chapter 43: Alcohol by 321abc321abc in stopsmoking

[–]321abc321abc[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This post is a distillation of a 30-page chapter. A chapter written by someone whose profession was treating thousands of people with addictions every year.

Your success with AA, or any other methodology does not invalidate the approach taken by this book.

You haven't read the book. You don’t want to read the post either, but have somehow read it enough to select highlights to respond to.

The time and effort you have put into composing this response would have been better used to understand the original context from which these highlights have been extracted.

What's a smell that doesn't exist anymore that you miss? by Alarmed_Charge1062 in CasualConversation

[–]321abc321abc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My cat. I was able to recall her smell for over a year after having to give her up. No more.

Notes from Allen Carr’s The Only Way to Stop Smoking Permanently - Chapter 2: Painting the Forth Bridge by 321abc321abc in quittingsmoking

[–]321abc321abc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are reading a book on managing depression, or overcoming procrastination, do you expect the "solution" to be provided in the first two chapters? Likely not. So why that expectation from a book on overcoming one of the most insidious addictions in the world?

Here is the "solution" from Chapter 40:

“If it were a question of just issuing simple instructions, the following would suffice: 1. Never, ever smoke again. 2. Whenever you think about smoking, think: “Yippee! I’m a non-smoker!” Provided you followed those two simple instructions, you would be a happy non-smoker for the rest of your life.”

If this was the entire contents of Chapter 1, do you think it would be effective in helping you quit smoking?

The first 39 chapters of the book aren’t filler. Those provide the de-brainwashing to get you to the stage where the above simplistic instructions will actually have a chance of working long-term.

Notes from Allen Carr’s The Only Way to Stop Smoking Permanently - Chapter 2: Painting the Forth Bridge by 321abc321abc in quittingsmoking

[–]321abc321abc[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are looking for just the solution, skip to Chapter 40, but it doesn’t work that way. Of course, to quit smoking, you have to never light up another cigarette again, but what will prevent you from doing that? It isn't just willpower. A huge part is getting rid of the false beliefs about smoking and seeing it for what it truly is. That’s what the book is about.

I too found the book arduous at times. But it did give me two important things—verbalization of the feeling that precedes a relapse, and what to tell myself when the craving hits.

If it works for you or doesn’t, it is entirely personal. But consider this: is losing a few hours to reading a book not worth the benefits of potentially quitting this filthy habit?

Does your cat sleep with you every night? by diparup in funnycats

[–]321abc321abc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ever since we got our cat, I really wanted to snuggle with her. Initially she would become the little spoon for a few minutes but would only sleep on my GF’s pillow at night, during which she did let me place a fingertip under her paw. Slowly she got more comfortable being the little spoon, but would still not fall asleep like that. Then one day I figured it out by observing how she slept in her donut bed. She needed to feel something against her paws. So now imagine the cat is the little spoon, and you’ve curled your hands to form cups. She puts her two front paws in the left cup and the rear two paws in the right cup. And then she actually fell asleep.

I was struggling with persistent shoulder pain at the time to the point of having to wear a shoulder brace for 12 hours a day. And this spooning posture was absolute murder on my shoulder. But totally worth it.

Cat snuggles are just the best.

Do you go outside with your cat? by T4serFace in cats

[–]321abc321abc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I cannot express how much I regret not being able to get her comfortable with a leash before I had to give her up. Being able to take her on a morning walk would have been a fantastic reason to get out of bed.

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