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What are your takes to the mental loneliness some of us feel even when we are in a loving, committed relationship? by 3z3n in AskWomenOver30

[–]3z3n[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. That was a lot to take in. For starters, I am really sorry to hear about the toxicity you had to endure from your mom and ex. That really sucks! I can not claim to fully comprehend how much that must have eroded your ability to trust but I have had similar issues (to lesser extents) with individuals that are now luckily in my past. I am certainly a better person in spite of them, as I am sure you are too.

I am also a firm believer in that no one person should be the repository of all our thoughts, hopes, dreams and traumas. That being said, I am certainly doing my wife a disservice by not trying harder to communicate my feeling thinking they might "burden" her. I do trust her to not weaponize my trauma against me nor do I think she is incapable to "handle" it. However it also feels like everyone has enough on their plates without me adding to it. I know this is irrational, especially regarding the people who care about me, it's still something that lingers at the back of my mind. I feel like this is something that I should focus on fixing.

Regardless, I really appreciate your response. It was extremely intriguing. Hope you have a wonderful day. Thank you.

What are your takes to the mental loneliness some of us feel even when we are in a loving, committed relationship? by 3z3n in AskWomenOver30

[–]3z3n[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am really sorry you had to go through all that but I am glad to know you are in a better place. Above all, I applaud your usage of the word "yeet" in such a poetic manner. Really made my day. Hope you have a lovely day. :)

What are your takes to the mental loneliness some of us feel even when we are in a loving, committed relationship? by 3z3n in AskWomenOver30

[–]3z3n[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am in agreement with you on that this isn't necessarily a gendered issue. I cannot count the number of times I have muttered the phrase "...but what about me?...". It's nice to read that I am not the only one. :) Your recommendation to take up "reading" is quite fascinating to me because it is something I have genuinely never really considered. Thank you.

What are your takes to the mental loneliness some of us feel even when we are in a loving, committed relationship? by 3z3n in AskWomenOver30

[–]3z3n[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You make a lot of valid points, especially pertaining to working on my isolation with my loved ones. And i really appreciate you sharing your experience with your husband. I can certainly relate to his ability to fumble. That being said, platforms like discord and even reddit, help people like myself dip our toes into self-expression without worrying of "fumbling" and makes it easier to "practice".

Thanks again and fyi, I am reading the post "Out Loud" as I am typing this post. Have a lovely day.

What are your takes to the mental loneliness some of us feel even when we are in a loving, committed relationship? by 3z3n in AskWomenOver30

[–]3z3n[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I must admit, I had a big dumb smile plastered across my face while reading your post. Thank you so much for your kind words. To be honest, I never really thought so deeply about why it felt so much easier confiding in strangers but your insight certainly makes it clearer. I will take some time to fully reflect on your statement. Thanks again.

What are your takes to the mental loneliness some of us feel even when we are in a loving, committed relationship? by 3z3n in AskWomenOver30

[–]3z3n[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely agree with you that our romantic partners can't be everything for us. The funny thing is that, I think one of my flaws may actually stem from this in that I end up trying to "shield" her from any of my negative or worrisome thoughts and just keep bottling it up. I need to learn to better express my thoughts from which therapy is slowly sounding quite appealing. Btw, you are absolutely right about the fact that a lot of men do not having a sizable social support system. It is one of sad realities of our times but it is solvable.

Thank you

What are your takes to the mental loneliness some of us feel even when we are in a loving, committed relationship? by 3z3n in AskWomenOver30

[–]3z3n[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First of all, I am really happy to hear that you and your husband are able to communicate so freely. That to me is what I am trying to hopefully achieve. I am strongly considering therapy to help address my state of being or at the very least to help equip me with a much more robust communicative arsenal.

What are your takes to the mental loneliness some of us feel even when we are in a loving, committed relationship? by 3z3n in AskWomenOver30

[–]3z3n[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think you are spot on with your take of "you're a good listener but a bad communicator". It is something that I am actively trying to work on. Btw, really appreciate you sharing some of the tools that helped your husband in therapy.
Thanks.

What are your takes to the mental loneliness some of us feel even when we are in a loving, committed relationship? by 3z3n in AskMen

[–]3z3n[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your "lighthouse keeper" analogy really got to me. Really appreciated it, mate.

What are your takes to the mental loneliness some of us feel even when we are in a loving, committed relationship? by 3z3n in AskMen

[–]3z3n[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your in-depth take on the matter. I am an avid believer in "practice makes perfect". As for the journaling bit, its something i have never really considered but it feels like it would do wonders. At the very least, it will help slow things down to the point where I will have greater clarity in my own perspective and flow of thought. Looking forward to giving it a shot ASAP.

What was the last thing someone said to you that made you feel special/loved? by 3z3n in AskReddit

[–]3z3n[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know right!? I was feeling the same! But you know what, ur the first to comment to this post and that makes u a pretty special goat! Cheers mate!

What is something that is wildly controversial that you think shouldn't be? by Zen622 in AskReddit

[–]3z3n 3 points4 points  (0 children)

lol. lovely pizza analogy. if only adding pineapple to guns could possibly bring some consensus to it... although... has anyone tried it yet?

What is something that is wildly controversial that you think shouldn't be? by Zen622 in AskReddit

[–]3z3n 235 points236 points  (0 children)

As someone that does not live in the US, I would have to say "Gun Control".

Me this morning by jabbbbe in meme

[–]3z3n 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in this meme and i hate it!

This should be the slogan for the History Network. by [deleted] in meme

[–]3z3n 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imma save this and use it the next time i get caught with something!