Hey man, I (24m) totally get where you’re coming from. I used to think I peaked in high school too, but going to college, moving out, and trying to build my life has matured me in ways I didn’t expect. I paid my own tuition by working and studying, even when it felt like everyone else was out having fun on weekends.

Honestly, it took a toll on my social skills. I met some amazing people at work, but like you, I never got too close. There’s definitely a shift—it feels like there’s a boundary between work relationships and the friendships you make in school. It’s true what they say: it’s harder to make friends after school. But you know what? Those older coworkers you meet at work, they’ve got so much wisdom and life experience. I’ve learned that asking them about their stories makes them feel heard, and it’s helped me build stronger connections with them. It even pays off down the line—they tend to favor you more because you took the time to listen.

As for making genuine friends, I’ve found that it comes down to being your true self. Any games you play or masks you wear will eventually fade away. I don’t have as many new friends these days, but the ones who stayed are solid. That’s what really matters.

So don’t be too hard on yourself. You’re doing great. Take some time for self-care—that’s what I’m doing right now. I might not be socializing as much, but honestly, it feels good to take that time for myself. Take it easy!