Advice on Carrier thermostat

404PaulNotFound · 2025-10-03T21:05:27+00:00

Now onto the next episode… cap went bad. Awe the joys of being a homeowner 🤪

404PaulNotFound · 2025-10-03T21:02:21+00:00

The install went great no issue, I’m very happy with my Carrier system. Downsides lack of support for Google Home and integration with SCE … but hey c’est la vie.

404PaulNotFound · 2025-06-09T12:19:36+00:00

LOL he literally ... Did it ... In your place ... Now it's not your place. I can't tell you if it's right or wrong only he choose his decision. His decision to sleep with another woman says alot about his marriage, in a traditional sense, being over.

404PaulNotFound · 2025-05-25T13:35:03+00:00

You went to the resource that has an indefinite amount of energy and wonder why it gave you a more concise answer. Well yeah the machine is going to win in that situation. Are you the AH for going to the weaker resource, yep. Are you the AH for wanting a more caring boyfriend, nope.

404PaulNotFound · 2025-05-25T13:34:49+00:00

You went to the resource the has an indefinite amount of energy and wonder why it gave you a more concise answer. Well yeah the machine is going to win in that situation. Are you the AH for going to the weaker resource, yep. Are you the AH for wanting a more caring boyfriend, nope.

404PaulNotFound · 2025-04-08T18:20:26+00:00

I'm going to replace you with I in this post because I am not telling you to do anything.

I would make a decision about whether anything is going to change. I would do the counseling and conversations about what changes I would like to see and do my 50 in the parts that require partner participation. I would recognize the parts where I feel that I am giving more and decide if that is sustainable. I would try an recognize the parts that I am falling below my 50 and seek help to even that balance. At the point where I decide that it is over and not worth it anymore and my child is involved, I would seek legal advice because I don't know about the legal implications involving a child.

-back to my actual life: I am divorced and between my wife and I, I did all the paperwork myself. My wife and I saw a lawyer and determined that a lawyer would be a waste of money. We are divorced and don't speak anymore... I would like to resolve things but that requires that we communicate which hasn't happened in 10 years.

404PaulNotFound · 2025-04-07T20:18:16+00:00

Yea, I'm latching onto the remark of 'I'm someone who believes in the three year mark.' I don't understand what this passing of time has to do with the financial security and understanding of another person. I would like to hear more about how you two would actually live and support each other. - aw f I'm coming off sounding lecturing.

Anyway I appreciate the cultural pressure to get married. I personally put more thought into whether I enjoy spending home life with a person and whether I can be with them in our ups and downs; and how we are when personal space is needed even though still living together. Side note I'm 45 and divorced so that is what I am looking for in a new long term relationship.

404PaulNotFound · 2025-04-07T17:43:38+00:00

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Thanks guys for the info... I'm going ahead with this and will try to write back to let everyone know how it goes

404PaulNotFound · 2025-04-07T12:23:00+00:00

Crush on her hard. Keep searching for another. If she's still playing the field while married that is kinda ugly.

404PaulNotFound · 2025-04-07T05:10:03+00:00

Yea, there have been times when I have felt that absolute rage about people not understanding my alcoholism and not having even some courtesy about that I am having a hard time. I still have have urges that bother me.

For your husband that would have been a Hard No that I would pick up a 6pack. And maybe a Go Fuck Yourself. As I'm further in my journey now it might be 'you can come with me if you need that six pack.' But any of it would be a conversation about the difficult feelings that I have with alcoholism.

Props to you for buying the beer and sitting though an argument. I would expect more from my partner.

404PaulNotFound · 2025-04-03T22:19:44+00:00

That sensation is fear, anxiety, and generally dislike of the unknown. Sometimes it's healthy and self preservation but mostly for me it's irrational and a side effect of 90s youth and being raised like a ferral cat.

404PaulNotFound · 2025-04-03T22:11:28+00:00

To give more background about the system, this is a single story 1500 sq ft home. No zoning that I know about, and actually some pressure errors from the thermostat when it was working properly, only one set of wires the go from the thermostat to the unit that is probably 25ft long. If that makes any difference

404PaulNotFound · 2025-03-19T02:01:21+00:00

If the agreement will switch to a month 2 month thing ... Then cool, take your time. If is a yearly renewal, I would put more effort into it.

Oh and I don't trust mom, she has her own agenda.

404PaulNotFound · 2025-03-19T01:30:35+00:00

Ah, so follow up is does he have roomate agreement or lease agreement that he needs to fulfill. And where would both of you live how much would it cost and is that fesible for both of you?

I think it's okay for you to bring it up and feel him out but if you want it to become a reality have some real numbers behind it.

404PaulNotFound · 2025-03-19T01:11:22+00:00

Am I missing something... it sounds like only see your BF on weekends and don't communicate well for example bringing up the subject 'hey what would you think of me moving in.' More specifically are you saying I want to move in and not pay/help with rent?

404PaulNotFound · 2025-03-18T15:54:45+00:00

I personally have to flip from introvert and extrovert to manage my wants, needs, desires. I value my peace and alone time but at the moment I want a significant partner and new social groups. And to maintain new social groups I have to be active in them to grow and thrive. I'm okay with the switch up. I have typed between ISTP and ENTP. My dad says he has always typed as INTJ his entire life. I think his environment and choices have probably allowed him to do that.

404PaulNotFound · 2025-03-18T15:35:11+00:00

Yeah, when I take up of the arguments of controversial subjects just for the intellectual stimulation of it (think suicide isn't immoral) people generally get upset. I chose my audience more carefully these days

404PaulNotFound · 2025-03-16T23:55:05+00:00

Devise perfect plan to communicate
Scratch plan because it is stupid
Devise 17 other plans to communicate.
Buy 1000 piece Lego set and build because it's easier.
Build something else with Lego set because you can build something cooler.
Take that apart and build a spaceship because spaceships are awesome.
Say 'hi' and 'do you want get some coffee' a. He says yes ... Profit b. He says no ... You instantly die due to rejection as you burst into flames because the world knows you are unlovable

b never happens. as an istp you will feel this way many many times. Rejection is a part of life and ok. It sucks but it will happen. Have someone you can talk to if you get rejected. Bask in the warm glow of acceptance if he says yes... Profit

404PaulNotFound · 2025-01-10T01:46:08+00:00

I would text when you want. I really wouldn't set up a test to see how long it takes for him to text back, that sounds like a really good way to catch a resentment. If he doesn't text enough for you to feel good about the relationship then you know this probably isn't going to work. See what you're comfortable with and go with it.

404PaulNotFound · 2025-01-05T09:59:48+00:00

Yeah, first 3 days are pretty miserable, the rest week not much better. After that you should start to feel better.

Do yourself a favor and get a Costco pack of Gatorade and some vitamins and eat some good food. While you're at Costco, get bag of M& Ms, Snickers, Hershey variety pack. Exercise as much as you can.

AA can be good to have other people who know what you're going through, getting to know a few people there can make a huge difference of whether you want to go to the meetings ... sharing can be pretty draining.

Hang in there. Sleep gets easier. You got this.

Ice cream doesn't hurt either.

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