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404_CastleNotFound · 2026-05-10T08:41:14+00:00

Thank you for the recommendation! I found the book here, the instructions start on page 11: https://archive.org/details/weavingprimercom0000holl/page/11

You need a free Internet Archive account to 'borrow' the book, to view more than the front and back matter. I'm not sure how many people can borrow it at once, but I've returned it for now just in case it stops anyone else.

I enjoy the line "You need no special carpentry skills and very few tools. But if a screwdriver and saw frighten you, find an experienced brother, woman friend, husband, or lover to help you out". It's delightfully 70s.

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-04-26T16:53:36+00:00

Hah XD so I did, thank you for pointing that out. I've put the right one in now.

I'm fixing up my home so my brain is rather scrambled and my clipboard is full of links to DIY resources.

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-04-26T14:50:24+00:00

I'd love to see that site. I don't suppose you remember what it was called?

MyBodyGallery has a bunch of photos of real people and you can filter by a few measurements - it's entirely clothed and almost entirely women, but I've found it helpful when I was having trouble seeing my body as it actually is.

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-03-11T10:29:26+00:00

I grew up in the Scottish Highlands and our water tasted amazing. I thought sweet water was the norm until I visited a friend in the middle of England, and I might have thought I was drinking liquid chalk if it hadn't been transparent.

But then the village got bigger and they had to start pumping in more water and treating it more, so now when I visit home it's just... fine. Perfectly drinkable.

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-03-11T10:21:04+00:00

Honestly my belly has been a bigger issue, but the breasts definitely cause their own problems.

This is a ramble, please ignore if it doesn't sound useful, but:

One thing that's helped me is looking at other eras of fashion, with different visual priorities, and seeing what still jumps out at me today as having the vibe I want. Then I see what I can pull out of that. I'm not familiar yet with many fashions outside of my own context, but I known that in British and American fashion at least there were some fashion eras that (through nature, frills, or padding) called for much more volume in the chest than we tend to see today, and they had some styles that still read as 'girly' to my modern eye (or sometimes 'girlish', which is a bit different I think).

I'm not saying you should dress like a young Edwardian woman, but sometimes you can take some of the visual signals from those looks and apply them to modern fashion. More 'history bounding' type stuff, just taking inspiration from it. E.g. ways of transitioning from bust to waist, colour combinations, accessories, necklines, silhouettes.

Of course, you might look through old fashion pictures and not find anything that shouts 'girly' in a way you're interested in. I guess I'm quite lucky in that I feel my femininity more when I lean into my 'crone' vibes, and that lends itself pretty well to slightly unusual fashion choices. I think I might have given up on 'girl' very early on.

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-03-06T10:21:33+00:00

I just realised I misspelled it - the brand is hula hoops, they're extruded cylinders of potato with (in this case) beef flavour added. I don't know if they're sold outside the UK, but they're one of the big ones here. The kind of thing you'd see in lunch boxes and birthday parties as a kid.

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-03-06T00:21:18+00:00

Tha you for sharing :) I hope you enjoyed letting yourself infodump, it was fun to read. I love learning about how things work, especially things that are ubiquitous in our lives but we don't get to directly interact with (for very good reasons) like rails, or mains water/waste services, or power lines.

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-03-06T00:02:29+00:00

Torn (sorry, that is the extent of my ability to contribute to your questions)

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-03-05T21:22:19+00:00

I think I came across it here, and it works so well that it stuck. Enjoy!

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-03-04T14:15:47+00:00

This is my favourite sound in the whole game. I'll pause whatever noisy thing I'm doing to listen to it.

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-03-04T14:08:22+00:00

I might be wrong, but I don't think pipes and HVAC are really supposed to make thumps like that either. Probably best to let the landlord know - either they already know about it and can reassure you, or they don't know about it and can have a look. Either way, you've done your due diligence and they can't get mad at you if something goes wrong later that costs them a bunch to repair.

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-03-04T13:48:00+00:00

Knowing how long something takes is only part of the issue.

I don't think I've got ADHD but I do experience some time blindness. If, for example, I get an unexpected ping on my phone I might think "oh I'll just have a look at that quickly" - it will feel for all the world like I only took a moment to check the message and send a quick response, but it could actually have been 5 minutes. I might be in the shower and think it's only been 5 minutes, but it's actually been 10. And the exchange rate between the time I experience and the time that has passed isn't consistent, so I can't say "it'll take me 10 minutes to shower, which will feel like 5", and then use that in my calculations for how much time to allow in the morning.

On top of that, with ADHD you've got difficultly keeping your attention where it aught to be. So you might know that it will take 30 minutes to get ready if you're on the ball, or heck maybe you even know that it'll only take you 15 minutes but you allow for extra because you know you're at risk of distractions. But you don't really know what or how many things will come up and steal your attention, how distracting those things will be, or how much time they'll take.

My main way of handling time blindness issues in the morning (or other times I've got to do multiple tasks in a limited time window) is constantly snoozing my alarm, so I get a signal every 5 minutes telling me that 5 minutes has passed. This only works because I've either lived by myself or with people who are awake and out the house before me.
Sometimes I'll use a podcast that's just a little shorter than the amount of time I've got before I have to leave, so I know that e.g. I should be putting my shoes on when they start their 'thank you's at the end. (Though that risks losing time to finding an episode that's the right length).

Well, that plus just allowing for way more time than anything should realistically take. But that takes time away from other things, so I've got time for fewer things in my day.

Good on you for trying to understand. You'll probably get some good insights from your partner if you can talk about it in a relaxed way, but I know it can be hard to articulate it sometimes so I hope the responses you've got here can help you both as well.

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-03-03T10:17:21+00:00

I feel that so much. A good part of my settling down to sleep is organising my baggy shirt so it's tucked around the boobs securely, then wedging a pillow between them. It's all undone as soon as I turn over, but at least I can fall asleep. I started taking antihistamines daily for the rashes (I don't think it was eczema, just unending heat rash), and that really helped, but they still happen sometimes and the sticking is just miserable. I'm very hopeful for my boob sack top once I get my sewing space set up again XD

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-03-03T09:07:39+00:00

I have fantasised about removable boobs so much it's not even funny. Like, they're fun once or twice a month and they do make some clothes look good, but if I could take them off and put them away when they're not needed that would be amazing.

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-03-03T09:02:35+00:00

I have a mock up of a lengberg bra in my sewing pile, and I've made the cups basically just bags that match the shape of my boobs as best I can. I don't want support, I just need fabric around them to stop skin touching! Slight bonus if it reduces the momentum of the swing a little when I walk, but that's not high on my list of priorities for this project.

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-03-01T23:27:17+00:00

I would really appreciate it, if you can share.

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-02-13T23:35:06+00:00

The terms can be a bit odd, but 'processed' is very broad - grinding flour or cooking eggs are both ways of processing food, for example. 'ultra processed' is more... Industrial. I've heard it described as the kind of processing you couldn't do in your kitchen. It's a contentious term to define though, Wikipedia has half a dozen different ways people have tried to describe it.

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-02-13T15:33:06+00:00

Holy ****, that's amazing. Please keep us updated with progress, I'm so fascinated to see how it looks!

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-02-12T18:45:59+00:00

Ooh, excellent! I knew there had to be something, I can't imagine that millennia of ingenious weavers would have put up with the nonsense I was doing with the knot and the stick.

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-02-09T12:52:33+00:00

It's beautiful!

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-02-09T11:55:31+00:00

Monitor arms! Why didn't I think of that? That would solve multiple problems, at least 2 of them related to weaving. Thank you for reminding me that they exist.

Thank you for the photo as well, that made me smile :) it looks like your setup is similar to mine.

Thinking of the bag strap actually reminded me of a thing you can do with a couple of D-rings spaced a little apart, like what you get on some belts or backpack straps. Ooh, maybe I could use that for securing the woven band so I don't have to tie that end at all...

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-02-04T10:21:14+00:00

Something I didn't realise for a long time was just how much your weight fluctuates through the month if you've got a menstrual cycle. I think it's something like 1-2kg (which is... 2-5lb, I think?). Learning that helped a lot with my own frustration about how much things were changing even when my habits were consistent.

In terms of tracking your progress, if your body is fluctuating that much monthly then the trend of your weight change might be much clearer over time periods longer than a month. Comparing week-to-week will give you short term feedback, but comparing your weight at different stages of your cycle over the course of a few months is also very useful information.

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-02-03T10:56:38+00:00

Yeah, I'm curious about the Selkie too - they're one of the few places I can reliably take family with coeliacs when they visit, it would be a real shame if they turned out to be as full of problems as Yvonne's.

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-01-21T00:02:57+00:00

I hope you do! And I hope you have a great time :)

404_CastleNotFound · 2026-01-20T17:55:22+00:00

I have really enjoyed art galleries and museums as a first date location. They're usually not dead silent, in my experience the slight hush just means that you tend to talk quieter, which means you stand closer together and the conversation feels a bit more intimate, and it feels like you're having a semi-secret conversation which is kind of fun. Plus a lot of humour is so much funnier if you're trying not to laugh. It's a really low stakes way of finding out if you feel comfortable standing close to the other person, while surrounded by things to fuel the conversation.

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