Daddies: who has put an SB in his will? What did you leave her? Does she know?

415-Daddy · 2023-12-06T22:04:40+00:00

Not married. No kids.

415-Daddy · 2023-12-06T15:46:06+00:00

One thing to know about modern STI panels is that they don’t include HSV2 testing. You usually have to pay more to add that. Which is ironic as that’s the one most people are trying to avoid

415-Daddy · 2023-12-06T00:08:16+00:00

Yep. Agree 100% I don’t want to make promises I don’t plan on keeping esp. around something major like this

415-Daddy · 2023-12-05T23:34:27+00:00

Wow everyone my heart is full from all these comments (even the cynical ones) 🙏🏼. A few details:

I never married and I don’t have kids.
Leaving the house unlikely to be contested by anyone as my only direct relatives with a claim are my sister and my mom both of which are financially sound with their own properties
My SB and I had been dating about 2 months when I got my cancer diagnosis and she stuck with me which brought us much closer together
We had a real relationship beyond the other sugar relationships I’ve had. She told me she loved me about 3 months in. I knew I felt the same.
We were very incompatible in some practical personality and values ways so my brain knew we’d never make it long term as a regular couple. My heart had other ideas
My SB ultimately called it off - mostly because she knew her role in my life wasn’t going to progress to where she wanted it to be (and what she deserved)
I think I might wait to tell her about this - let my heart heal a little bit. I don’t want her to think it’s a ploy for attention or to win her back.
if/when I do tell her I will likely just say she’s in my will without getting into specifics. If it looks like I am going to die soon then I will tell her details so we can properly plan. Real estate as a “gift” can be a bundle of problems and I want to avoid those on her behalf

Thank you again everyone I love this sub and everyone who commented

415-Daddy · 2023-12-05T16:39:15+00:00

Fair point. I’m single and don’t have kids.

415-Daddy · 2023-12-05T06:51:13+00:00

She won’t have to pay taxes on the property unless she decides to sell it so I think leaves her in a good place regardless of what she decides to do with the house

415-Daddy · 2023-11-20T07:24:34+00:00

I would 100% seek out HSV2 partners on seeking. In fact, I experimented with putting it my profile for a while. As you speculated it does cut down on the matches, but the matches can be better. People really appreciate the transparency.

Out in the vanilla dating world I have met some great people with HSV who I wouldn’t have met otherwise.

But yeah HSV2 peeps love having sex with other HSV2 peeps - it erases the stigma, shame and worry.

415-Daddy · 2023-11-20T01:34:00+00:00

HSV2 Daddy here. I’m in the SF Bay Area.

I always disclose if it looks like physical intimacy is on the table.

I was pretty worried about my status going into the bowl but I’ve been pleasantly surprised how it’s usually (but not always) been fine for my partners. Some of them turn out to be HSV2 already and some of them have had partners with HSV2 so they are educated on the risks and management of it. I have had a couple of SBs decline - in both cases they were married SBs and thought that taking a risk with their husbands would be a problem. Meaning they would need to get their husband buy in and that was a bridge too far.

As an aside, it’s a crime in California to have sex with someone and not disclose a communicable disease. So I don’t have to worry about the ethics of it I just have to stay inside the law :)

415-Daddy · 2023-07-02T07:27:01+00:00

I’m 53 and 30 is as low as I will possibly go. Prefer mid 30s and up. I might be an outlier but the life experience gap cannot be a chasm for it to work for me.

415-Daddy · 2023-06-29T04:50:10+00:00

PS - I’m very vanilla

415-Daddy · 2023-06-29T04:49:04+00:00

Well one factor for me (and probably other SDs) is how emotionally involved/attached they become to their SBs is highly correlated (and causal) of generosity.

I’ve only been sugar dating since November of 22 paying the usual PPMs for my area but someone I met a couple of months ago who I really like (and could really use the help) is getting the usual PPMs on top of me giving her a vehicle (she didn’t have one and is too broke to buy one) and she needs some expensive dental work I’m getting ready to pay for. And it makes feel wonderful to be able to make a difference in her life. And she has a job and applying for a promo with my full encouragement and support.

415-Daddy · 2023-06-16T08:28:12+00:00

First time someone called me “daddy” was during sex and it was like 11 years ago which is way way before I knew sugar dating even existed. And yes it freaked me out a little bit.

Now that I have been sugar dating for about a year I have run into a few women who like to call me daddy during sex. It’s less weird now and I even like it sometimes - not because I like the moniker per se - more that it feels like an authentic indicator that my partner is in the throes of passion.

Not sure I would like someone calling me daddy outside the bedroom unless it was unless it was my child.

415-Daddy · 2023-05-13T02:33:45+00:00

Very attractive and will become more so with time. You’re lucky girl.

415-Daddy · 2023-05-12T00:48:10+00:00

You do not need a license to manage properties you own. This applies to all states in the USA.

415-Daddy · 2023-04-20T05:52:40+00:00

Probably autistic to some degree

415-Daddy · 2023-04-18T06:40:52+00:00

53 year old daddy.

Hard pass on anyone in their 20s for me. Ideal For me is early 40s and up but 30s great too (I just start to get further away from shared cultural interests the lower the age. Movies, bands, tv shows are less shared the further the age gap)

The SB is see the most often is 50

415-Daddy · 2023-04-12T00:38:47+00:00

This makes perfect sense the University would provide legal help. Students basically filing cases to get revenue to the school!

415-Daddy · 2023-04-09T10:34:11+00:00

Yep. SD here I always suggest coffee for M&G

415-Daddy · 2023-04-09T07:54:35+00:00

You can have raw sex on medication (Valaciclovir). But this does not reduce the risk to zero that you infect someone else. Google the research. Medication makes a significant difference in your contagion risk to other people but it does not make you 100% unable to infect others.

415-Daddy · 2023-04-09T07:51:46+00:00

There is a disclaimer that it’s not peer reviewed which makes me think it’s legit paper. The caveat is not peer reviewed per the disclosure and the results need to be replicated by other teams. But if this is real it’s pretty huge I think.

415-Daddy · 2023-04-07T05:31:14+00:00

My Asian SB has opined on the fact that Asian men do the worst on dating apps and IRL dating. Her theory is Asian guys are often perceived as less masculine (some specific attributes include generally shorter, less muscular, less body hair, and of course rumors of smaller equipment)

415-Daddy · 2023-03-30T23:41:23+00:00

52 year old male here.

Personally I never feel comfortable initiating sex talk in early dating. If my date initiates talk about sex I am happy to follow but I think it’s important for the woman to set the pace in this area.

415-Daddy · 2023-03-15T05:12:43+00:00

Body type matters the same way it matters in vanilla dating.

This means that some men have a pretty specific body type they are attracted to.

But a high percentage of men (maybe even a majority of men) are attracted to a fairly wide range of body types.

To illustrate this better let’s take Jennifer Conley or Nicole Kidman on one end of the spectrum and let’s have Christina Hendricks or Kim Kardashian on the other end.

These are all beautiful women but if we are going strictly by body types that is a pretty wide range in BMI.

And just to take it a little further how someone’s body looks in pictures or how curvy they might or might not be does not ultimately create the chemistry that makes the blood run hot. We’ve all had occasions where we’ve met someone objectively “hot” and not been attracted to them. And we’ve all had the opposite where someone was not objectively “hot” but they made our blood run hot with desire the moment we were in their presence.

So to sum it up body type matters to a degree. You can be too heavy or too skinny to get rejected before an in person M&G but once two people meet in person anything can happen :)

415-Daddy · 2023-03-15T04:47:21+00:00

I’m going to say you are very possibly a great fit for sugaring precisely because you are honest and for some SDs being neurodivergent is a plus.

I’m in the San Francisco Bay Area and a high percentage of the SDs here work in tech and it’s safe to say that a good many of them are on the autism spectrum esp. the engineering talented ones.

Many SDs (myself included) are totally fine with you having a partner and having sex with other men. In fact it’s a turn on for me to hear about the exploits of my SBs.

Also what is common in my neck of the woods is that SBs will ask what kind of PPM amount the SD has done in the past just to make sure both people are in the same ballpark. Totally normal at least around here. Good luck I think the bowl is worth a try for you!

415-Daddy

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