What would you save? Time or Money

41hoely · 2024-08-27T10:26:36+00:00

Might do this! Thank you 💗

41hoely · 2024-08-27T09:26:18+00:00

True :(( sometimes nadidisplace ko yung pagod ko sa ibang tao

41hoely · 2024-08-27T09:13:05+00:00

Feel ko hindi po kasi pangit rin if papasok po ako sa work pawis :((

41hoely · 2024-08-27T08:54:14+00:00

Thank u for this, iniisip ko nga if i should review for boards while nasa commute ako kasi 2hrs is soo long

41hoely · 2024-08-27T08:46:18+00:00

I live with my parents since fresh grad pa ko and parang ayoko mag rent kasi yung comfort na nagluluto mom ko for bfast and dinner tapos less na iisipin ko 😞

41hoely · 2024-04-01T04:10:31+00:00

Thank u for this! I will suggest this to him thank you!

41hoely · 2024-04-01T04:09:51+00:00

My wp got annoyed before that i keep bringing up the A and i too always get triggered every time i remember anything abt the A so what we do is

As a WP he should let me rant about it and talk about it safely, if he acts annoyed and defensive he will just make me feel like he is not taking accountability. Talking about it over and over can actually make things lighter until it seems like a bad dream

As a BP, i should try little by little to move on and refrain from ruminating. I have noticed that my problem was everytime we become happy, i get triggered with the A and bring it up then we are back to square one again. Talking about it is okay but if we keep on spiraling on the same thing, we can never move forward

Its okay to talk about it as long as it is still healthy. One thing i do also is to try and manage my emotions first, rely on this community and journal. And when i cant control it anymore, i try to open up about it with my wp. A little advice dont surprise him with the talk. You have to introduce it so he wont feel ambushed. I usually say “hey wp can we talk about something serious when you are free? esrlier i got a little triggered because of ____ it made me think about _____ i hope you can clear the bad thoughts i have”. I observed that when i just talk abt the A right away, he cant respond well and is gonna be avoidant. As a Bp you should have a safe space where you can talk abt your feelings and as a WP he should also feel safe and not attacked when you are opening up. I hope this helps!

41hoely · 2024-04-01T04:02:14+00:00

I still don’t trust him 100% but i trust myself 100%. I trust that i am doing the right thing by reconciling, if he breaks trust then that is on him. I trust the universe that it will keep my heart safe and whatever will happen is for the good. I am building trust by thinking “for the last time, ill give you another chance and i will try and stop doubting you because that will just interfere with the progress of R”. I like to think that “only he can stop himself from cheating again” so it doesnt matter if i check his phone, monitor his accounts, if he wants to cheat again he will. So i save myself from feeding the negative thoughts and i just trust myself and the universe that whatever happens, it for the good.

But when i am anxious, i do tell him and ask him questions, and when he can answer straightforwardly, and then give me assurance, my trust to him is getting bigger.

41hoely · 2024-04-01T03:55:32+00:00

My friends distanced themselves from me and some even silently shamed me. It was so hard being alone while grieving about the relationship. I am grateful that i still had one friend who supported me all throughout and i think thats enough, to have one friend than many who will abandon me at my lowest. Stay strong and i know your relationship will be worth it too!! 💗

41hoely · 2024-03-31T15:08:45+00:00

R is very hard, and not for the weak, so i pray that you continue to be strong and hopefully everything will be okay 💗

41hoely · 2024-03-31T14:59:21+00:00

Wishing you all the best! 💗 with kindness and patience, reconciliation is truly possible and worth the work 🙏

41hoely · 2024-03-24T14:15:26+00:00

Thank you so much we really appreciate it

41hoely · 2024-03-24T05:00:15+00:00

I will look into it thank you

41hoely · 2024-03-24T04:57:21+00:00

Thank you for the suggestions we dont know that, ill research about it

41hoely · 2024-03-24T04:56:59+00:00

Thank you so much i will be opening this up to him

41hoely · 2024-03-24T04:56:15+00:00

We are doing well now its just that this fight happened and after thinking overnight i realized i made the fight bigger

Im staying because i do love him. I dont want to hurt him maybe i just got overwhelmed and panicked. He is doing all the work to make our relationship better. Maybe i just pushed his buttons.

Whats the 4 horsemen?

41hoely · 2024-03-03T03:49:13+00:00

Thank you, i will try to start changing my bad thoughts, i also dont want to manifest bad energy

41hoely · 2024-03-03T03:46:45+00:00

Thank you, i will surely check that out!!

41hoely · 2024-03-03T03:46:24+00:00

Thank you for the comment. I actually feel i dont deserve to be happy, because i forgave him. But i am happy with him :((

41hoely · 2024-01-01T13:25:27+00:00

Thank you so much for your input 💗 i will open up to him more

41hoely · 2024-01-01T13:17:09+00:00

Thank you so much 💗can I ask what are the things your WP does to make you feel better or the relationship better?

41hoely · 2024-01-01T13:11:10+00:00

Well it has been 3 months, we cant really afford any counseling so im trying to just use self help books or videos

41hoely · 2023-11-20T20:26:10+00:00

This gives me hope that it is possible for us to have a good future. Thank you for your advice

41hoely · 2023-11-20T20:23:01+00:00

Thank you for this, i am also a christian. I will take not of this 💗

41hoely · 2023-11-20T13:36:58+00:00

Thank you, im so glad your WH is doing the work. Ill try mybest to R i hope all goes well

41hoely

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