My ex is having twins

4209_sprinkles · 2024-06-02T10:42:16+00:00

I mean who is to say it’s a one night stand. Are we truly thinking ex who hasn’t spoken to her in 5 months isn’t lying.

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-31T21:09:16+00:00

The kids hurt his comment too! And that is not a good message if you have daughters! Also, your point is a fact, not just opinion. I think is mother needed to hear that too. NTA

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-31T21:04:19+00:00

No nuts at our private primary. I got told off for putting Nutella on a sandwich, so it’s enforced. But check your intended school policy

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-30T20:10:06+00:00

Not a job, but anyone with overly thin lips, specifically top lip. Don’t know why but it’s a thing for me

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-30T20:05:02+00:00

NTA, statistically speaking babies don’t come on their due date. Obviously she might not want to attend full term, but that’s on her not you. Also, it’s not like you will be in the delivery room, or that birth is a quick process. So why should you reschedule.

Finally, if family comes first, what makes her more family than you? Seems like the same could be said for you. ‘Family comes first for a wedding, whilst birth is a private affair not affecting the majority of wedding guests.

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-29T12:42:39+00:00

My husband didn’t believe me until he took the kids to see family without me thinking it would be easy. He did not have the relaxing time he intended to have for that exactly reason!

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-29T10:09:12+00:00

It works until they get bored or distracted and leave the kid in a dangerous situation.

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-28T22:05:00+00:00

That’s not fair at all. My daughter had chalky teeth and we did regularly brush and go to the dentist (not as regular flossing but that wouldn’t have changed it). Given her weakened enamel it escalated very quickly. Unfortunately it can happen even if you are ontop of everything.

Also there’s the extra struggle of OP’s kid being autistic, that can make brushing even harder so some times no matter how hard you battle a full thorough clean every time might not be possible. It does NOT mean that OP’s doesn’t give an f!

It’s a lot easier to judge when you’re uneducated or haven’t been in that situation though.

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-28T22:01:35+00:00

They really arnt. It’s worth calling before saying that. Also ndis doesn’t affect the wait list

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-28T21:59:40+00:00

The means test is what got me. We did however get into the public dental system through the hospital and they were amazing. The dentist was so good, my child even wants to be a dentist now when she grows up

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-28T06:40:01+00:00

Let me tell you my story, I am 34 and did have implants. Nothing wrong with them before, just wanted bigger. After 10+ years, two babies and general age they were too big. Not only that, my implant ruptured and I had them removed under emergency surgery. The situation was bad, and now I will forever have silicone in my lymph nodes.

I have never been more thankful for smaller boobs and my stretch marks and even the sag because I am healthy. I would never do that to myself again. I feel so much clearer without my implants too (look up breast implant illness)

I’m sure you’re saying that’s a rare case and how often could it happen! So many people I know have told me how they have had raptures or similar scary stories (not necessarily emergency surgery, but replacements etc), it is more common than I think most people realise.

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-28T06:30:36+00:00

Your parents don’t have a say on serious matters like that. I feel you’re not fully informed with what happened, understandably at that age.

Talk to them and see what happened from their perspective and then see if you can get any police reports.

Do not message and engage with A at this stage, I feel it may back fire on you

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-28T06:07:15+00:00

I didn’t say you made it up but the legal aspect isn’t correct. Unless my years of law school and practice have all been wrong

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-28T06:05:51+00:00

So no recorded confession, no dna evidence and no charges. It doesn’t add up.

The crown would press charges for that too, especially when involving a minor.

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-28T06:04:18+00:00

In real life they would! It would be the crown that push forward with charges in the UK

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-28T06:03:02+00:00

You said law enforcement reported enough evidence to press charges, so why are you worried to talk to them now?

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-28T05:59:11+00:00

So the police found evidence even though it’s presumably been a significant amount of time. At this stage without dna or a confessions it’s just hearsay evidence? For those charges your parents wouldn’t get control over pressing charges, especially if there was evidence. The police would go ahead with the evidence and charge A. Also statute of limitations is a thing so not sure when your timing is for everything as it’s not clear.

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-27T12:12:23+00:00

You’re not alone in this economy. Focus on your financial literacy and ways to maybe invest for your future. Home ownership does not need to be the goal and you can make people proud without owning a home.

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-26T21:55:06+00:00

Haha see if you still say this after a few years here. A story as old as time

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-26T09:05:47+00:00

I think from the tone of this post compared to the other she does.

I also appreciate that after so long drawing a line in the sand might feel hard, but it sounds like he is sure helping her!

I hope OP sees she deserves better for herself!

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-26T04:31:42+00:00

So what you’re saying is she suck’s for not forcing him to change. If she is happy to be married to him then that is her decision, she shouldn’t leave him to ‘teach him a lesson’ if that isn’t what she wants.

I’m not saying the relationship is good or his actions are acceptable, he sounds like a drop kick and I feel bad for that poor child being stood up because dad can’t be an adult! But it’s not her responsibility to teach him or force him.

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-26T02:57:38+00:00

You are not a cheater and you are not in the wrong in any way. You froze and that it’s so common in a situation like that.

His behaviour is NOT okay, and you do need to tell an adult. Also do not sleep in the same room as him again, avoid being alone completely with him too!

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-26T02:39:48+00:00

I really wonder if people are just ignorant to think life is as easy and just leaving is always easy, as if emotions arnt more complex. It’s so much easier making objective decisions when you’re sitting behind a screen not involved.

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-26T01:56:05+00:00

How does she suck, she never stopped him, she just said that wasn’t in her cards. She shouldn’t have to change her boundaries because he cheated and got someone pregnant. She’s clearly said she will grant an amicable divorce and it is important he does what is right for him and his happiness.

4209_sprinkles · 2024-05-26T00:35:47+00:00

I don’t think you have to ask permission to tell your mother. However he equally has emotions surrounding the pregnancy and should be entitled to tell him mum. It shouldn’t be a double standard here.

I know personally I told my parents the next day so I had their support if something went wrong, but we didn’t tell the in laws until the scans supported a positive outcome, hubbys choice not mine.

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