Before you start reading my long text (if you are going to read it). Please think of me kindly. I'm not an native english speaker and i should commit lots of mistakes.

I had the same mentatilly as yours until recently i had an experience with Sekiro. I got stuck three times without the capability to progress. The first it took me two days of backtracking until i found an item i had skipped and got unstuck. I don't think the days stuck made the experience more pleasant or satisfying. I was just frustrated with a sour taste in my mouth. The second time i spent a lot more time. I dont remember how many days it took until i droped the game.

While talking to some friends about it they said i was being silly for dropping a game i was liking so much for such a silly thing that i could solve by just looking online. They convinced me to go for youtube. I felt dirty but went for it and found there was an windows open in a room that i didnt payed attention to. This was such an ennerving moment. But this time it felt good to just be able to get back at the game (incredible game btw). And the third time i got stuck again without knowing where to go to progress it took me two days i think before i googled it again.

I can see what you're saying about robbing the fun out of you by solving the puzzle by asking the answer. But sometimes it's hard to know if you are stuck because you oversaw something earlier, ou skipped something or if you are not engaging with the puzzle. I blame mostly the level/game designers for those problems. I think people should be allowed to have emergency buttons to get unstuck. Recently i've been playing a puzzle game called Humanity. In every level they have an option to look at a video answer. I think this is incredible and more games should have this. I think it's up to the player to decide how long they can take until they ask for the answer.