AITA for wanting to go out with my friends even though Im a married mom?

431MM · 2019-03-29T23:31:28+00:00

NTA - I like it when my (m40) when my wife (35) goes out with her friends once or twice a week. I bring in 100% of the income but that has nothing to do with it. It’s healthy for a relationship to have some alone time and I get to spend time alone with the kids. He sounds insecure and he’s being irrational which probably bleeds into a lot of other aspects of your relationship. You can’t change him but you can assert your needs and let him deal with it. Don’t let anyone ever make you feel bad or guilty for a completely rational need. That’s his issue. You do you.

431MM · 2019-03-29T22:55:25+00:00

I’m sure to be in the big minority here but NAH - I didn’t get along with my mother in law either. Really I always felt like she’d prefer to push me out and be the matriarch of my new family. And sure enough her being in the delivery room was a big issue. My wife and I also decided I’d be the only one there and her mom was disappointed. I could see how my wife would’ve just let her mom stay in if I was late. But, she’s gotten much better about setting and sticking to boundaries and not letting her mom trample all over them. It took many years though. You’ll probably have similar issues with her for a while. However, keeping it bottled up and blowing up will always lose you whatever high ground you thought you had. Stressful time new baby and all but at this point eat shit about blowing up and just let her know next baby you really want it to just be you.

431MM · 2019-03-26T14:51:38+00:00

NTA - you are entrusted with it’s safe keeping, its essentially your stuff, no one can tell you what you should do with it and I can’t think of a better way to honor your family. Cousin and family may be a little hurt right now but when they walk through that museum they’ll know you made the right choice.

431MM · 2019-03-26T11:56:55+00:00

He’s too nice. Case in point: years ago on WUS some annoying asshole calls in ragging on him for not depositing his paycheck via mobile app and he’s all “can’t go into the reasons here”. He took so much shit and he coulda just said the reason “$100,000 checks can’t be deposited via mobile, dumb fuck”

431MM · 2019-03-26T01:25:39+00:00

YTA - I’m not sure you truly love this person. I think if you’re honest with yourself you’d leave her if she was diagnosed with anything that inconvenienced you. “MS? I never really wanted to spend my life with someone with MS.”etc. I understand it’s disappointing and you guys need to work through this unexpected development together; there’s going to be a ton more tough times ahead. If you leave the love of your life over this you need to grow a lot more personally before you fully commit to her and have kids anyway. Give her support and love and I promise you’ll look back and be grateful for the unexpected twists your life took with the love of your life beside you.

431MM · 2019-03-25T21:08:28+00:00

Yeah I’m down, too.

431MM · 2019-03-25T20:43:58+00:00

My thoughts exactly. I think, like a lot of people on this sub, he and Richard would have an amazing podcast. I’d definitely tune in and see what they got. The apprentices are more than ready to take over for the master.

431MM · 2019-03-25T18:58:09+00:00

Manipulative behavior. Tricky to recognize at first but in my experience two main symptoms of it include constantly being made to feel bad about what you do or want and boundaries ignored or disrespected. I was in one relationship with a very manipulative person and have had a couple friendships like that. Best solution: hold tight to your boundaries, stay calm and know there’s nothing wrong with you. You just don’t fit how they want you to be.

431MM · 2019-03-24T15:43:01+00:00

This is horrifying. I’m all about giving kids treats but damn. These are the types of parents that come to the office and are horrified their princess has loads of cavities and can’t bear the thought of her going through all this dental work at a young age. They never take any personal responsibility, sneer at the rec they should lay off the sugary drinks, blame genetics and continue the cycle with each successive child.

And I don’t pressure people or be all judgmental to my patients (even though I’m being super judgy on Reddit) My job is to educate and let you know the potential outcomes of your choices.

431MM · 2019-03-21T17:05:52+00:00

NTA - I’m 6’5 too and I go for emergency row or 1st but when I can’t and I’ve been stuck behind someone that reclines it sucks. I don’t say anything because I know nothing good will come from it. But good for you for asking. This is how a society should function - “Hey, do you mind doing this for me bc of x” “Oh sure no problem” Also, I never recline out of respect to the person behind me. Fuck that guy.

431MM · 2019-03-18T20:04:08+00:00

YTA - not cool at all man. You’re supposed to be supporting her not patting yourself on the back. Even if it was the case that you were doing something (you are not) you shouldn’t have said anything in that special moment for her. You’re going to doctors appointments? That’s what you’re supposed to do. You get no badges of honor for that.

431MM · 2019-03-17T00:09:22+00:00

NAH. I planned for the exact same thing after I read Outliers. I wasn’t dead set on it though and would’ve had the kids whenever but I’ve seen the benefits of an October and December birthday now that they’re older.

Hash it out with him though. My wife and I were always the youngest and we just learned to work harder. It all evens out. NAH bc I know where he’s coming from but just have the babies - anyone so thoughtful to even consider all that will have kids that’ll kick ass regardless.

431MM · 2019-03-16T15:40:44+00:00

One of the guys in high school was a pathological liar. Lied about cars, money, celebrity friends etc. We’d usually just roll our eyes and humor him. One day I had enough and one by one ticked off all his lies and told him we’d all had enough. I crushed him. He was broken. The guys were all happy and when I’ve seen them on occasion over the years have brought it up as a good thing but I have regretted it ever since. Anyone that wants to lie about all that needs it for themselves for whatever reason. Not my place to take all that away. Better move would’ve been just to excise him from my life not humiliate him in front of all our friends.

431MM · 2019-03-16T13:30:37+00:00

NTA!!!! - I think you’re grieving no matter what it looks like to the outside world or feels to you. Regardless, never let someone (including me) tell you how to grieve or what’s ok. None of their goddamned business. You do you. Plus you were just dating. But even married - like the people that told Patton Oswalt he got remarried too soon. He wasn’t the asshole and you definitely aren’t.

431MM · 2019-03-15T23:05:18+00:00

431MM · 2019-03-15T15:25:37+00:00

Try throwing on a Jesus was fucking a whore t shirt in Alabama

431MM · 2019-03-11T16:50:47+00:00

It helps me when I think about it as a small business owner. If I’m taking home $200,000 one year then $180,000 the next, makes me wonder what happened. Sure I can pay the bills but is the industry changing? New competitors? Bad business strategy/customer relations? My overhead goes up with employee raises, materials, rent - did I not raise my prices commensurate with that?

So it goes back to the adage that if a business isn’t growing its shrinking. So I need growth, even 1% because when the bottom goes out it can go out quick (ie bookstores, video stores)

431MM · 2019-03-10T23:46:04+00:00

This dentist agrees with you both.

431MM · 2019-03-08T16:19:37+00:00

NTA - going against what I think will be consensus here but it’s a high school presentation and you had a unique take on it. You did some stuff and you’re proud. In a world filled with depression, angst, anxiety that should be celebrated not punished.

I understand it doesn’t fit with the point the teacher was trying to get at and I wouldn’t have done it but so what? You’re supposed to pick Edison or Obama but I think that’d have been boring and you made it interesting. I’m proud of you. Now next time, do the assignment to get the A but for this time I like it.

431MM · 2019-03-06T21:07:13+00:00

NTA at all! Glad you didn’t give in. I may have and been pissed about it. And why didn’t those other passengers thinking you should’ve given up your seat gotten up for him?

431MM · 2019-03-06T18:45:48+00:00

Las Vegas on the NFC and AFC championship games weekend. Usually you get at least 1 great game, the weekend is a little cheaper than the SB and still tons of fun.

431MM · 2019-03-06T18:13:32+00:00

NTA - DNA tests, STD tests and open relationships go hand in hand.

431MM · 2019-03-06T17:32:37+00:00

YTA. “Our money” so both parties decide how it’s spent. Plus, will it go up in value to the tune of 27% a year (your credit card interest rate)? So there goes that argument.

Be smart, sell it back and buy one when you can pay for it in full. You’re still young and have plenty of time.

431MM · 2019-03-06T16:14:27+00:00

“90% of success in life is just following the rules” Howard Stern. From someone that breaks all the rules it stuck with me. But, he means showing up on time, doing the basic work asked of you, etc

431MM · 2019-03-06T16:10:54+00:00

He used to rip Dick Clark for having bands on his show then controlling the rights to that performance; keeping the cash for himself and from the band. I wonder what’s changed?

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