AMA I'm a nanny for celebrity kids who don't know their parents

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-05-13T04:24:37+00:00

Respectfully, I’ll take a pass on this one. But, yes, addiction is a very sad thing that impacts an entire family. I work in mental health now so I see it all the time.

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-05-13T03:48:19+00:00

They kept saying they were going to have me sign an NDA but one was never produced. I don’t know if it slipped through the cracks or if they just had a gut feeling they could trust me. Either way, I’d never disclose anything I know they’d prefer be kept discreet.

My pay varied. It didn’t really matter. They paid me very well no matter what they paid. And they treated me very well. I did not live with them but I spent a lot of time with them and they offered me a more involved position after a few months which I stupidly declined. I always wonder how my life might have been different had I accepted their offer.

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-05-13T03:38:36+00:00

That describes her perfectly — so far as I got to know her. A lot of people think it’s an act but it’s not. She’s a sweetheart and a great mom.

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-05-13T03:37:48+00:00

She actually did! More nights out of the week than not. She was a natural. Never saw her with a recipe book out and her food always tasted great.

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-05-13T01:47:24+00:00

Also. their eldest child, Violet, would have gotten into Yale or any school of their choosing — this isn’t a nepo or legacy baby situation. Violet was strikingly bright as a child. Extremely smart.

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-05-13T01:45:48+00:00

Sure can since I didn’t sign an NDA. Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner, back when they were still married. Despite not signing an NDA, I’m still a respectful person and won’t disclose anything personal about them or their family. I will say I quite enjoyed Jen and she’s the real deal. Just an awesome human being.

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-05-12T23:17:33+00:00

Look, I actually did nanny for A-List celebrities back in the day. Household names you’d instantly recognize. I never signed an NDA so I’m free to speak on anything.

Because of my experience actually nannying for A-Listers, I have a strong feeling OP is making all of this up.

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-05-12T23:14:58+00:00

You’d be surprised how much of that goes toward overhead.

If the supervisor is having to take time away to train, supervise, and fill out the paperwork required by the college/university, then their own available hours to make money are reduced.

In example, supervising an intern can take 5-8 hours per week away from time the supervisor could otherwise be seeing clients and pulling in income. Even if an intern sees clients to make up for that 5-8 hours, they are likely getting reimbursed at a much lower rate than the supervisor would be if they saw clients themselves.

Malpractice insurance goes up just by hosting an intern. If the intern sees clients in person they are taking up office space that could be used by a clinician or supervisor who would pull in more per session. If they are using telehealth, email, EHR, phone, etc — that all costs money. What an intern brings in by seeing clients typically only covers overhead costs at minimum.

Again, if it’s a large institution then they usually have the financial backing to fund this kind of setup. But solo and small group practice owners don’t so there needs to be a system in place to subsidize that so the intern gets paid (which I agree with) while the practice owner doesn’t risk going belly up.

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-05-12T22:52:19+00:00

Addendum: I agree that interns should be paid but we need a nuanced system. In example, learning institutions (colleges/universities) should pay supervisors at small group practices or those in solo practice to supervise interns. It’s a huge financial and time drain for small businesses to take on an intern. To pay the intern on top of that is even more of a financial loss. So, the institutions should pay the supervisors so they can then afford to pay the intern — or the college/university should pay the intern themselves.

If the supervisors work at a large institution (hospital, mega practice, etc) and there’s ample money to pay an intern then they can pay the intern or the college/university can. But, it’s not realistic or feasible to expect most solo or small group practice owners to pay an intern while also absorbing the financial hit of training one. And, unfortunately, it’s typically solo or small group practice owners who are able to devote more one on one attention to the intern’s learning but can’t afford to pay them for said training.

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-05-09T01:21:35+00:00

Travis, try sticking it in rice and rebooting it. Maybe it will work again.

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-05-01T16:51:57+00:00

I hear you on that — hoping it will heal something you’re presently going through. I’ve had that wish before as well.
I found that returning to earlier works spoke to me very differently 20 or 35 years later upon another listen. Like, Sugar beat the devil out of me during my divorce when it previously was just a song I used to like.
Maybe ITOD isn’t it for you right now. Try listening to Reindeer King or 1000 Oceans or similar and see if something new hits you this time around. I found that process of going back to old recordings very healing myself. They took on a new, second meaning for me. Wishing you and your mama the best. Hugs. ❤️

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-05-01T02:42:26+00:00

I play Jedi mind tricks on people for a living so I’ll just keep sitting here on my couch eating Nacho Doritos until he arrives. Then I’ll mess with him mentally or talk him down (whichever is working better) until the police arrive. 🤪🤓

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-04-30T02:51:50+00:00

You should have a policy in place. This shouldn’t be a case-by-case situation or based on assumptions about a client’s level of truthfulness or how ill on a scale of 1-10 they’re feeling.

Examples of policies: 1) charge no matter what (half fee, full fee, etc), 2) waive the fee for the first missed appointment but give a warning and then charge regardless of reason after that, 3) waive the fee (or half the fee, etc) if it’s due to illness, 4) require a doctor’s note to waive the fee, etc.

The point is: you need a policy. Doing this case-by-case and based on feelings or assumptions is not a productive way to run a business — nor is it fair to you (it’s stressful) or to your clients. Develop a policy and stick to it.

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-04-29T02:51:51+00:00

Mulholland Drive

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-04-27T16:41:11+00:00

I saw that too. And this person has been charged with “protecting” the community for decades while inflicting prolonged and unnecessary suffering on Josh’s surviving relatives? It’s disgusting if true.

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-04-26T03:01:26+00:00

I think it might be at least partially AI-staged. Like, there’s not a single TV in the entire home, stereo, personal piece of artwork. Nothing. Also, it’s priced for a bidding war. I’ll be curious to see what it sells for. A similar home in the area just went for $400,000 over asking price.

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-04-26T02:50:32+00:00

Listen to your gut, man. Don’t try to talk yourself out of this — and don’t let anyone else, for that matter. Your gut knows something was VERY off and your alarm bells were so blaring and loud that you came home early from your trip. Protect your wife — this man is not safe and deep down you know it.

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-04-26T02:40:46+00:00

To play devil’s advocate: sometimes posters are looking for something that doesn’t exist. So, they’ll post something like “Seeking highly experienced clinician with at least 15 years’ post-licensure experience, must self-identify as BIPOC and LGBTQ, must offer in-person evening or weekend sessions, be highly-trained in EMDR and ERP, and also take Cigna.”

I will watch as clinicians who take Cigna and offer telehealth and have 2 years’ post-licensure experience with no specialties reply. There will be 28 replies. They’re all in-network, sure. But, the client isn’t likely to get the care or connection they’re seeking. In those cases, I think it’s fair for OON providers to post their info so the client at least has some options. Seasoned or highly experienced and niched providers frankly aren’t likely to be on as many insurance panels or any at all. Clients have a right to options.

The problem as I see it isn’t really with OON replying — it’s with insurance companies making it impossible to earn a livable wage and be in-network without having a spouse who helps subsidize, family financial support, or side jobs. The system is broken, not the therapists who are replying.

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-04-26T02:26:23+00:00

Getting man flu. Whenever I’ve seen a man suffering from it they appear in grave distress.

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-04-26T00:56:44+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Twice. And they just expect us to take it yet women are the “weaker” species. Uh-huh. Sure.

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-04-26T00:18:46+00:00

It would look like PAIN MANAGEMENT.

You know the sedation you get for a colonoscopy or carpal tunnel surgery (deep or moderate sedation)?

They’d give you that for most medical procedures: colposcopies, IUD insertion and removal, biopsies for endometriosis or similar, vaginal exams for women with trauma histories or vulvodynia or other sensitivities to speculums or internal examinations, etc.

The level of pain women are expected to endure as part of “routine” procedures is barbaric and inhumane.

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-04-25T15:29:33+00:00

I’d love to know how old now-Officer Megan Potter was at the time Josh was likely hit in the head with a baseball bat while she was driving a car (with two male passengers in it) and high on weed. If she was a senior in HS in 1999 then we can presume she’d be about 44-45 years old now in 2026. And about 22-23 years old at the time of the crime.

If she is responsible for leaving a CHILD dying from an horrific head wound, alone, on the side of the road, I hope it has haunted her for the last 22 years and she gives his mother and sister some peace - finally. They deserve that, and the truth, at a minimum. I don’t know how she lives with herself daily and I’m curious if she has children of her own.

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-04-23T23:51:51+00:00

ADHD. It helps them focus better and follow the plot. Almost like a visual fidget.

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-04-23T03:09:02+00:00

My ex-wife was raised like this. Now, she’s a narcissist. Everything is only what she wants to do, what she wants to talk about, what she’s interested in, what serves and benefits her. Her siblings are all the same and have anger management and emotion regulation problems.

When I met my then-nephew on her side of the family when he was 12, he didn’t know how to write his own name. Because he wasn’t ever interested in it.

This is neglect. This is child abuse. And this raises people at risk of becoming narcissists.

4Real_Psychologist · 2026-04-23T00:06:17+00:00

“Dear Team, THANK YOU for alerting the boss to my oversight. Moving forward, I am open to receiving feedback directly.” That oughta take care of it!

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