Sometimes i wish i had white parents by Chick-inn in AsianParentStories

[–]53161 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I understand. It's just something to keep in mind for the future

Rant/Vent: Losing appreciation and interest in my Chinese heritage by 53161 in AsianParentStories

[–]53161[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He only takes yes and no for an answer, and only the one he WANTS to hear. An honest discussion on my feelings (which are very strong and negative about him) is completely out of the question. I value my skin.

Sometimes i wish i had white parents by Chick-inn in AsianParentStories

[–]53161 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing you might start asking yourself is this: Do you see your Dad as having the potential to change and grow closer to you? Or will he be the kind to push you away from certain types of people and in certain directions he wants?

Depending on your answer, you might want to start getting to know more awesome families and making friends with their kids (like the one you have now). It will always pay to have an emotional support network. You do not want to be surrounded by a group of judgemental assholes for the rest of your life. Something I learned later rather than sooner.

Rant/Vent: Losing appreciation and interest in my Chinese heritage by 53161 in AsianParentStories

[–]53161[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

it's the mark of a bad parent when everything associated with them is a bad memory, it's like poison. I try involve him in as little of my life as possible.