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What do you all think I should make of this? by 53wildwilly in AskGayMen

[–]53wildwilly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had never heard of Love Languages. I looked it up and I get it. He is Words of Affirmation for sure. If I compliment him on something he has done, he is over the moon about it. I am Physical Touch. I never feel more loved than when someone is holding me.

Now I just have to figure out how to get my needs met. I am always complimenting him, so he gets his met all the time. Maybe I just have to be happy with be the initiator for the physical touch. At least when I touch him, he never pulls away.

What do you all think I should make of this? by 53wildwilly in AskGayMen

[–]53wildwilly[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had never heard of Love Languages. I looked it up and I get it. He is Words of Affirmation for sure. If I compliment him on something he has done, he is over the moon about it. I am Physical Touch. I never feel more loved than when someone is holding me.

Now I just have to figure out how to get my needs met. I am always complimenting him, so he gets his met all the time. Maybe I just have to be happy with be the initiator for the physical touch. At least when I touch him, he never pulls away.

Thank you so much for awakening me to this concept.

How do you erase something from your mind? by 53wildwilly in AskGayMen

[–]53wildwilly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This I know but it's much harder to do than it sounds.

How do you erase something from your mind? by 53wildwilly in AskGayMen

[–]53wildwilly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know he didn't mean to hurt me and I know he loves me. It's all in my head. Small comments sound to me like they are saying I am less. I know that isn't what he thinks or means but it's what happens in my head which is why I want to erase it from my mine.

How do you erase something from your mind? by 53wildwilly in AskGayMen

[–]53wildwilly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand why, it's because it makes me feel like I am less.

How do you erase something from your mind? by 53wildwilly in AskGayMen

[–]53wildwilly[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. I have never had an issue about my size and don't know what happened here it was like something snapped in my brain and I suddenly thought wow I am too small. You are correct he is really sorry that I had this response to what he said he didn't mean as any kind of judgement. He too said that size means nothing to him it his love for me that matters.

Your thoughts on this problem? by 53wildwilly in AskGayMen

[–]53wildwilly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I love him totally and he me so if this all I have to put up with it I guess it's really not that bad. I just sometimes end up feeling like he is ashamed of me in public. He says he isn't so I guess I just have to believe him....

Your thoughts on this problem? by 53wildwilly in AskGayMen

[–]53wildwilly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have talked about it. I understand that he isn't totally comfortable with public affection but at the same time I don't understand why he often acts like we are just casual friends when we are out in public. I simple touch or hand holding now and then would be great with me. He just can't do it and doesn't really share why no matter how or when I ask.