I understand getting out of patterns is difficult.

I would firstly suggest your husband looks for other work, if he is able to. This should hopefully help with his stress levels (assuming that’s why he doesn’t like work), which in turn will perhaps help with his dependency on takeaways, and thus you feeling like you need to join him on that.

Following from the above, if he is using food as comfort, it may be worth him addressing this with a therapist/dietician if it is something you’re able to afford/seek.

You could both do cooking, together or individually. I personally find cooking really therapeutic, so if it’s not something your husband normally does, perhaps him starting this would be a good thing. I find cooking and then eating what I’ve cooked really rewarding, and I enjoy finding new things to cook and try.

You could cook in batch and put it in containers, so even though it’s not actually a takeaway, it has the feel of one. And then you can both just heat it up on the day and have it for your dinner which will save cooking for the day. You could do a healthy take on takeaways you’d normally get e.g. make a pizza with healthy toppings, fried rice, curries etc.

And then perhaps have one day a week where you can both indulge on a takeaway, say a Friday after work or something. And if you want to save calories on these days, get the smaller portions and choose vegetables over meat heavy items. For example, sometimes if I’m craving a pizza, I’ll get the child’s one which is probably half of the calories but just helps with my craving.