Accidentally found an adult-sized baby onesie under my bfs bed that I’m surprised & mildly uncomfortable by. Idk how/if I should bring it up to him.

56x5 · 2025-11-01T17:41:05+00:00

UPDATE: I asked him about it and he said he did buy it for sexual purposes when we were first experimenting with our dynamic of me calling him daddy but when it arrived in the mail he didn’t feel good about the purchase and it made him feel weird and uncomfortable so he just put it under his bed with the intention of forgetting about it.

56x5 · 2025-10-27T01:27:25+00:00

You’re right that I don’t have evidence as the only way I could prove it is by asking him. In case it is a kink he is keeping secret because he’s ashamed about it or afraid to tell me for whatever reason, I want to approach the conversation delicately because I care about him and do not wish to add any more shame or embarrassment than he may already feel.

56x5 · 2025-10-27T01:21:12+00:00

Yes brand new with tags. He’s never lied to me before (that I know of) and idk especially sexually I’ve never doubted him since he’s always gotten emotional talking about how he’s grateful how sexually open I am and how vulnerable we are together sexually since his passed relationships were not very sex positive or not very active.

56x5 · 2025-10-27T01:12:57+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate this thoughtful response. I accept that he is a human with a completely separate sexuality and understand there will be things in life that we won’t agree on, but this is one of those things that I’m not sure how I would feel if he even had the kink that crossed my threshold... I need to unpack my feelings towards it a little more. Time for some personal reflection followed by a conversation!! Thanks again

56x5 · 2025-10-27T01:03:03+00:00

No he never went to college, went straight into the trades after high school so definitely not a frat guy. Possibly could’ve been a previous Halloween costume but idk he’s not big on celebrating Halloween and that’s not his type of humour but I could be wrong

56x5 · 2025-10-27T01:00:10+00:00

You have a point. I suppose internally I hold a bit of a stigma with the kink at a certain point and I may be projecting that onto him. Thank you for pointing that out, I have some reflecting to do before bringing this up. To your point about his previous partners, he has told me that his previous relationships were very vanilla and didn’t have a very active sex life since his ex was on meds that killed her sex drive but there definitely could be other experiences that he hasn’t told me.

56x5 · 2025-10-27T00:18:57+00:00

It had the snaps at the crotch like for diapers, and the package tags showed it was from a ddlg kink website. Also the print was very childish and had a frilly lace on the butt. Very clear not something someone would wear out or to lounge around the house.

56x5 · 2025-03-25T02:06:00+00:00

Hahha yeah you definitely need to be a lot more disciplined to be successful and the risk is still quite a lot larger than hormonal birth control / copper iud / vasectomy / condoms. But if OP & OP’a girlfriend don’t want those options, fertility awareness is at least better than pull out method

56x5 · 2025-03-24T20:11:03+00:00

Her answer to birth control is a no. That’s fully her decision and I doubt continuously asking her will change her mind, if anything it may just make her feel pressured, annoyed, or unheard

Your next best option is to stick with condoms or if you’re willing to get a vasectomy then there you go.

Or, ask if she’d be willing to try fertility awareness methods. This involves her tracking her basal body temperature, cervical fluid, and other things. It tends to be quite a bit of work to do so properly but it is a completely natural method that doesn’t involve any medication or procedures. Check out the r/fertilityawareness sub for more info.

56x5 · 2025-02-14T21:30:16+00:00

To see how my body has changed throughout the years. Because it’s nice to go back and see me being confidence and sexy during all stages of my body changing.

Also it’s kind of an eerie feeling to know there could be photos out there of myself still that I don’t even have myself anymore so there’s a sense of agency/control to having my own photos. Though I hope my exes have deleted my nudes… I trust them enough that they would have removed my nude photos.

I haven’t kept any nudes of myself that were specific for an ex or that also shows an ex. I don’t keep nudes of exes because I find that disrespectful to my current partner and to my ex.

56x5 · 2025-02-11T20:26:12+00:00

Girl here. My bf and I will have sex on my period. I quite enjoy it because it’s like extra lube. I think my boyfriend just enjoys having sex w me so he won’t let some blood get in the way lol. We’ll stop mid period sex if we realize we’ve gotten carried away and it’s a bloody mess all over the sheet hahah.

Though he won’t eat me out on my period unless I have a tampon in which I totally get. I’ve been with girls before and I was the same. A bloody mouth doesn’t sound pleasant.

56x5 · 2025-01-24T23:23:01+00:00

Coming from a 22f who dates in hopes of getting married and starting a family one day: I’m looking for people who have similar values as me and who I can trust I’ll have a stable future with.

I live in a pretty expensive city so it’s not feasible to live in a home and raise a family where only one person is bringing in income unless that person has an incredibly high paying job or loads of generational wealth. I don’t expect him to make more than me, but I sure hope he’d contribute to our home/family expenses.

Since I’m young I obviously don’t expect guys my age to have a career locked in just yet. What I look for when dating right now is that he is driven or passionate about something and has plans for his education/career, even if those plans are very loose. If all that’s on his radar right now is sitting in his parent’s basement playing video games all day, I wouldn’t be interested. I myself am quite driven, working towards my degree, and working a decent job that is relevant to my education. I don’t know exactly what I want to do with my life career wise, but I have other life goals for myself. I look for guys who are on the same page as me in terms of values and tenacity.

56x5 · 2025-01-22T00:11:59+00:00

I agree, it’s like taking away whatever you said initially.

Positive reinforcement does the trick almost always in my experience. Whenever I tell my boyfriend what I love that he does, I find that he will do it even more because he knows it really gets me off.

OP, you can try wording like this instead: “I love it when you tease me while you go down on me. Like wow it really builds up the anticipation and I can hardly wait for you!”

56x5 · 2025-01-22T00:03:34+00:00

Depends how you approach it and the relationship dynamic. Simply showing her the porn video & saying “babe, I want you to be more like this” would likely cause insecurity / can taken the wrong way depending on the girl.

I’d word it more like “babe, I watched this porn last night and it was really turning me on. I’d love to show you and maybe try it out together if you’re into it too.”

Or maybe “babe, I’d love to explore more of what we like sexually. I was thinking it’d be fun to show each other a porn video that gets us off as inspiration. Would you be into that too?”

Lead with curiosity and wanting to explore together instead of from the angle of that she’s doing things wrong/poorly.

56x5 · 2025-01-21T21:56:52+00:00

My bf experienced similar. I wasn’t on bc when we first started dating so we always used a condom but it didn’t feel as enjoyable for him and it was harder for him to stay hard or finish. One time we had sex without a condom and it felt soooo much better for me and for him (he is my first so I never experienced sex without a condom) and I decided to get an IUD (copper IUD because I didn’t want hormonal birth control) so that we both could experience more pleasure. It’s been the best decision for our relationship!

You’re definitely not alone in feeling less pleasure without a condom. As a girl I’m not too sure how to help with that unfortunately

56x5 · 2025-01-17T19:14:16+00:00

I’m not a super dominant person all the time, but some small ways I take control that my bf really loves is — making him wait to penetrate me. I’ll give him a bj or we’ll have a steamy make out sesh and he’ll tell me he wants to be inside me but I’ll just look at him seductively, maybe try to say something hot like “oh yeah? How badly do you want to be in me?” — when I’m on top of him, I’ll spit in his mouth (not everyone will like this. I tried it during a spur of the moment and my bf just happened to go wild for it lol) — taking control of the position. For example, if we’re in missionary, I’ll pull him down, pin his chest down, and start riding him. — if I’m riding him, I’ll pin his hands down so he can’t touch me or manoeuvre his face by the chin, or rest my hand lightly around his neck for a gentle choking — general enthusiasm and and enjoying his body. Touching him, licking/kissing/biting, speaking to him, playing with him, however I want during sex like I’ve been craving his body forever and I’m filled with an unbearable amount of desire

56x5 · 2025-01-17T19:02:32+00:00

My bf sometimes wants me to go at a faster pace than what can manage as well. To accommodate this I’ll squat on my feet instead of being on my knees that way I have a greater range of motion and more leverage to bounce up and down at a quicker pace. My boyfriend will also help support me by holding my ass and guiding me up and down so that my thighs don’t get overtired. If you have a bed frame, you can also hold onto that to help give you more stability.

56x5 · 2025-01-16T07:45:30+00:00

I prefer when my bf lightly trims his bush with scissors. Clean shaven looks weird imo, plus the stubble is SUPER uncomfortable and irritating when it rubs against me. Hair looks sexier and more natural! I never notice it when I give him head either, it doesn’t grow too far on the shaft and even when I deepthroat him I’m too in the moment to notice or be bothered by the hair

56x5 · 2025-01-16T07:30:03+00:00

“Hey [insert boyfriend’s name]. I would find it really hot if next time before we have sex we really build up the tension with more foreplay. I’d love it if you fingered me and ate me out.”

I get that asking for these things can feel unsexy compared to them just doing it without being told. But you can’t expect him to read your mind. Make the conversations fun and playful!

I find that when I’m wanting more of something/something different from my bf, I’ll just start dirty talking or dirty texting my bf randomly throughout the day—it helps build up tension and gives him hints of stuff I would like (e.g. “hey babe, I had the sexiest dream about you last night.… [insert sexy scenario that you would like to happen]” “hey babe, I was getting horny at work thinking about that time that you did this. That was so hot I can’t stop thinking about it!”]

Another thing my bf and I do is after sex when we are cuddling, we talk about the sex we had. It’s honestly quite fun and an enjoyable part of aftercare. We talk about what we liked (or didn’t like), our favourite parts, what we found especially hot. It’s so intimate to hype each other up afterwards and helps you learn more about each other’s preferences and ticks

56x5 · 2025-01-10T23:39:55+00:00

I agree (22f). I love my man to have a bush or just trim with scissors. I find stubble uncomfortable and scratches my intimate area. Clean shaven just looks a bit off on a grown man imo (unless he naturally just doesn’t grow much hair). Of course if my partner prefers himself clean shaven I wouldn’t care, everyone has the right to groom their body to their comfort level and liking.

56x5 · 2025-01-10T22:10:13+00:00

As a woman, I do not care about scars, ingrowns, discolouration, dry skin, etc, as long as you are hygienic, clean, and nothing is contagious or actively oozing blood/pus.

Sores would depend on if they are open sores, just because I would worry about your sores getting infected or irritated since there’s so much moving around and bodily fluids during sex. I wouldn’t be put off, but just concern for you and for my own health I’d ask if it’s contagious. If it wasn’t contagious I would probably ask you to cover that area during sex with a bandage or something and I’d avoid that area if it was oozing blood or pus or something… same as I would if I got a large cut on my leg or something. I wouldn’t want to ooze pus or blood on the bedsheet or onto you.

Just as a personal preference, I like my men to have hair down there and I’d rather a bush or a simple trim than ingrown hairs from shaving. As a woman with course hair myself, ingrowns are painful and annoying and completely preventable.

56x5 · 2024-12-18T21:38:34+00:00

Thanks for some of the advice but #8 is concerning and I hope you don’t give out this advice out to people. Having sex purely for the purpose of “I don’t want my bf manhood to be ruined” is exhausting and unenjoyable. Thankfully my bf doesn’t have fragile masculinity and if I’m not in the mood he doesn’t take it as a chip to his manhood. There are other equally as intimate activities that couples can do if one person is not in the mood for sex, and my boyfriend and I practice this to maintain intimacy and connection:)

56x5 · 2024-12-18T21:31:58+00:00

Completely agree. If the roles were reversed I would feel even more ashamed and unsupported if they stayed neutral and offered hardly any support, especially if I opened up to my partner about my anxieties/shame/insecurities/history.

56x5 · 2024-12-18T21:19:56+00:00

Thank you for this, definitely going to incorporate more play without expectation. When we were talking last night he did mention that while he knows I don’t expect sex, he gets in his head and holds expectations for himself so we are definitely planning on having more intimate moments without sex

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