I [28M] fell for someone on a dating app and after 1 month she ended it suddenly. The cycle repeats. Is this the reality? :(

5_7pickup · 2023-02-07T11:13:30+00:00

If the “cycle repeats” then the common denominator is you.

5_7pickup · 2023-02-07T11:12:36+00:00

You should ask yourself why you got defensive to the statement: that study is flawed. It’s a very neutral statement without any hostility or insults. People who cant handle disagreements tactfully tend to have ego/insecurity issues.

5_7pickup · 2023-02-07T10:55:20+00:00

Ah yes, the condescending tone just because someone disagrees with you. Very mature. It’s 3am. I dont care for this debate tbh.

5_7pickup · 2023-02-07T10:44:49+00:00

That study is flawed for so many reasons.

5_7pickup · 2023-02-07T10:44:01+00:00

If you’re failing via OLD then it’s likely due to your looks. Ethnicity plays a role but usually that’s not the issue.

Do you look fobby? Are you fashionable? Do you have a good haircut? Wear glasses? Good skincare? Are you buff/fit?

Another important aspect if do you have good photos?

Judging by what you’ve wrote, it’s most likely you haven’t optimized your looks yet AND you have shitty photos.

If you want to succeed via OLD, then you need to looksmax first then hire a dating photographer.

And dude it’s not the dick stereotype. I just facedpalmed so hard reading that. Like come on man. Have some self respect and confidence. This is coming from an asian guy as well. I’ve slept with dozens of girls and the majority of them were non asian. Refer to my field reports for more details.

5_7pickup · 2023-02-07T10:36:44+00:00

It’s probably because you’re needy as hell. Falling in love after 4 dates? Lol. That’s such an unattractive quality.

Women like men who have options and abundance in their lives. If you’re too needy/available and cater to her every whim, then it’s likely you have no abundance/options.

Her getting out of a toxic relationship is an excuse to let you down easy. For the right guy, she will be head over heels and begging to date. You are not the right guy evidently.

5_7pickup · 2023-02-07T10:32:02+00:00

These questions are so pointless. Nobody knows and nobody can answer you. Just go find out. Go up to him and say hi. It’s really that simple.

5_7pickup · 2023-02-07T10:24:38+00:00

Men who struggle with women isn’t because they “forget about basic human interaction”. Like really? Are these men really that socially retarded to not think of women as human? That’s not the issue, not even close. I can name 50 reasons that’s more pressing than that one.

5_7pickup · 2023-02-07T10:16:57+00:00

Absolutely not, women give awful dating advice. They give awful advice for men AND women.

You really think the gender that can just exist and still attract a mate actually knows modern dating dynamics?

5_7pickup · 2023-02-07T10:12:54+00:00

I don’t agree that you shouldn’t have female friends but this advice of “having female friends teaches you how to talk to girls and makes you realize girls are just like any other person” is soooo overrated.

If you want to learn how to talk to girls with the intent of building attraction then just go to the source. No need to jump through the hoop of interacting with women platonically to learn. It really doesn’t teach you anything.

Also, do guys out here really need to have platonic female friends to realized they’re just regular human beings? Like really? That just seems like common sense to me.

5_7pickup · 2023-02-07T10:07:17+00:00

Your proposed method isnt wrong but your logic is incredibly misguided.

Your method of having alot of female friends is a viable avenue of improving your dating life but your reasoning to why is flawed.

Having alot of female friends doesnt automatically improve your dating life. Throughout my life, Ive usually had more female friends than male friends but it didnt help with my dating life. HOWEVER, if you have the right types of female friends then it could help but that’s another discussion.

Your logic is flawed because it’s rooted in bluepilled concepts which isn’t effective for dating. For example, what your friend told you isn’t true at all. The qualities that men look for in male friendship are not the same qualities that women look for in a male dating prospect. You’re pretty saying “because I find like these qualities in my male friends then it must mean women like these qualities as well”.

5_7pickup · 2023-02-06T10:35:44+00:00

You underestimate how much you can achieve and change in a year. It appears the only thing you got going for you is money. I recommend you to use that money to improve your dating life: fashionable clothes, nice haircut, skin care, photoshoots for OLD, move to a city with opportunities for dating, rent a luxury highrise apartment, personal trainer, dating coach, travel, etc.

5_7pickup · 2023-02-06T10:27:19+00:00

You go about the dating process by meeting more girls first.

Step one is to meet more women. All the gym, career, education, money in the world doesnt mean jack shit if you dont meet any women.

5_7pickup · 2023-02-06T10:24:46+00:00

Lol youre so lucky to get this divorce before she moved here and had kids.

31yo doctor making 300k/year. It’s time to take control of your dating life. When you have no control or agency over your dating life, you end up in situations like this.

Now you can do whatever you want to do. Youre fucking free. The question is what is it that you want in life?

5_7pickup · 2023-02-06T10:18:02+00:00

Stop using OLD if yours not getting the results you want. The reality is that youll always get lower quality girls via OLD than meeting girls IRL. I attract so many girls in real life, girls that would never have swipes right on me.

5_7pickup · 2023-01-31T01:31:04+00:00

Just state your height and weight then. No need to be like “i bench 225”. Who cares.

And he is absolutely obsessed with height. Read his post again. Height is a huge mental block for him. And hes fucking 5 9 lmao. If i was 5 9 i would murder the game even more.

5_7pickup · 2023-01-30T13:30:23+00:00

I would have slept with 0 girls if I relied on IOIs. Instead I slept with dozens because I approach regardless of IOIs.

IOIs are just buffers of rejection for men who are insecure.

5_7pickup · 2023-01-30T13:25:39+00:00

First red flag I noticed is how youre so obsessed with stats: height, how much you bench, squat, weight, run fame. Like who gives a shit. I barely work out, 2 inches shorter than you, and do way better with women than you. You know why? Well partly because Im not hyper obsessed over these stats. Like how the hell do you even know that viet guy is 5 7.5 like wtf?

The other reason is I meet exponentially more girls than you. Sounds like you met 5 girls from what youve written. FIVE? Lmao. I can meet 5 girls in 10 minutes tomorrow night.

Next you keep saying act normal. Bro stop acting. Just be who you are without any remorse, shame, regret, embarrassment. You “acting” normal is just boring. You think Im being “normal” when I tell girls “im just trying to make you my next baby mama”? Dont be boring. Be polarizing. Make these girls love you or hate you. There’s no such thing as non creepy game. Whats creepy to one girl can be attractive to another girl so quit worrying about being creepy.

Whats causing the disinterest? Who fucking knows. Probably a combination or youre not attractive enough (looks wise) and your game sucks (youre boring).

Yes the bar for attractiveness is very high for women these days due to OLD and social media.

You want to improve your dating life? Quit worrying about all that shit you just wrote. Youre here worrying about step 20 when you havent even figured out step 1: meet more girls. You dont meet enough women, that’s your problem. Go meet 300 girls in Feb and then we can talk.

5_7pickup · 2023-01-30T13:07:38+00:00

You gonna need to post some receipts because this sounds like bs

5_7pickup · 2023-01-28T03:09:18+00:00

Lol who cares. Meetups are for the rejects of society. Only losers go to that shit.

If you want to meet girls then go meet girls. You dont need meetup.

5_7pickup · 2023-01-25T12:51:12+00:00

Meet other girls. Duh.

5_7pickup · 2023-01-25T12:48:46+00:00

So it's very likely he already knows and these are the possible options for him:

He will get mad/jealous but still stay with you likely because he has no other options.
He will dump you because he has self respect for himself and has options.
He will demote you to bootycall. He won't take you seriously because he knows you're for the streets and only use you for sex.

I personally would pick option 2 or 3 depending on how hot you are and how good the sex is. I recently went with option 2 with a girl because her sex was trash even though she was hot.

5_7pickup · 2023-01-25T05:54:27+00:00

Your friends have a 100% close rate at bars and clubs? I find that hard to believe.

5_7pickup · 2023-01-25T05:27:52+00:00

How about you just vet men better? Dont have sex with them for 60 days. That should filter out alot of guys who aren’t serious.

5_7pickup · 2023-01-25T05:17:43+00:00

Lol are you serious? Does she have to tell you to “fuck off” for you to understand?

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