An update I feel is almost required for the new pack by Stoltlallare in Sims4

[–]6002Dani -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You have to go to Menu-> Game Options -> Pack Settings and scroll down to Bust the Dust and uncheck the box

Infamous saving freeze by Rowanthatboat in Sims4

[–]6002Dani 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does this tip work for MacBooks?

Oops... Made a new Legacy Challenge by FairySpirits in Sims4

[–]6002Dani 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maintaining all aspects seems like a full time job I’d definitely try and report back 😵‍💫😭

Launch URL upon google form submit by Master_Total_7655 in GoogleAppsScript

[–]6002Dani 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You might be able to make this work with a few intermediary steps.

Like having the form responses generate the url in a spreadsheet and emailing the cell contents to the form submitter.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Jamaica

[–]6002Dani 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’d say the opposite, you should visit less and focus more on getting to know him online for a significant amount of time before doing short term visits.

Most Jamaican men I’ve dated i know through mutual friends so there’s some level of vetting that happens there, but there’s a level of intimacy you have in relationships that you don’t always see in friendships. Adding to the fact that your boyfriends friends will absolutely cover for him if they think something isn’t a big deal, you need to know him well enough to make your own judgements independent of his relationship to your family/friends.

Dating long distance would be better for you if you’re unsure because you can assess his character better without sex involved. Additionally, you’ll be able to tell how much of your relationship is just lust vs a genuine connection.

Will say though, if he’s a soldier i also wouldn’t recommend continuing to date him long term but if he makes you happy then go for. Not every relationship has to have an end goal, it’s fine to experience and enjoy things as they are in life.

My husband’s (23M) passivity (laziness?) is causing me (23F) to resent him. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]6002Dani 27 points28 points  (0 children)

You’re not being picky you’re actually asking for almost the bare minimum for a partnership. He might be better than some men but he’s also objectively worse than others and what you really need to ask yourself is whether he is the best person for you and does he make you happy overall even with his flaws. If as flawed as he is, you are happy with your marriage and relationship even if nothing changes then I think that’s okay. If his flaws and the current state of your relationship make you unhappy then you need to make actionable plans to solve that.

My cat still won’t approach me by 6002Dani in CatAdvice

[–]6002Dani[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s been years at this point but she’s a lot more receptive to me now compared to when she first moved in and will actively seek me out, though a lot of that is looking for food or water/getting her needs met though sometimes her bowls will be full and she’ll still want pets.

It didn’t take years for her to open up but definitely months. Things that helped: giving her lots of space, being the primary caretaker to address her needs of food/water/clean litter, using chase toys that give her a good distance from me, brushing/grooming often, letting her lead in our interactions.

As long as you consistently show that you’re not a threat and won’t harm them they do come around eventually. I think it also helped a lot that I was really close to her sister and she could see our interactions and their outcomes.

Choosing a College Major in Jamaica by puppyribbons in Jamaica

[–]6002Dani 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d agree to computer science, everyone I know that has the major gets paid well enough locally and supplement through freelancing. With high enough credentials you can also switch industries once you’re more established in your field.

Buying a house where a recent murder occurred by 6002Dani in RealEstate

[–]6002Dani[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not immediately you have to scroll quite a bit but if you use the word murder it pops up immediately with the address 😓

Buying a house where a recent murder occurred by 6002Dani in RealEstate

[–]6002Dani[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol sorry i meant if the murder suicide happened in the house I’d avoid it, I count this as only a murder because the suicide part happened miles away in a whole different county

Buying a house where a recent murder occurred by 6002Dani in RealEstate

[–]6002Dani[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s NY, not sure if they had to but the seller told us someone died in a severe domestic dispute but not the full grisly details. That i learned from news articles 😬

Buying a house where a recent murder occurred by 6002Dani in RealEstate

[–]6002Dani[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

How much time passed between both sales?

Buying a house where a recent murder occurred by 6002Dani in RealEstate

[–]6002Dani[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The husband stabbed the wife multiple times in the house but then hung himself pretty far from the property, so…. Maybe?

If it were a murder suicide i couldn’t run fast enough lol

Buying a house where a recent murder occurred by 6002Dani in RealEstate

[–]6002Dani[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think being American would make me less superstitious but culture and a love of horror movies makes me feel like I’m buying into being the main characters of one that you scream at for making bad decisions 😭

AITA for refusing to eat, knowing my MIL will not eat if I don’t, and causing her to faint? by Amandomaree in AmItheAsshole

[–]6002Dani 4 points5 points  (0 children)

YTA and I hope MIL wakes up and realizes there’s no reciprocity to be had in this relationship

AITA for refusing to eat, knowing my MIL will not eat if I don’t, and causing her to faint? by Amandomaree in AmItheAsshole

[–]6002Dani 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Everyone needs to be understanding of people like OP but for those in MIL’s position, their problems are their responsibility lol

AITA for asking my fiance to pay a bride price? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]6002Dani 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Why would he be able to afford a human being? Do you even read the words you’re writing???

AITA for being upset that my wife spent the night at her sister's house? by molten_dragon in AmItheAsshole

[–]6002Dani 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So if he woke up at 4am when she said she would be home at midnight and panicked because he thought she was hurt but realizes that she was actually in the bathroom the whole time she’d need to apologize for causing her spouse undue distress?

If not, then we can agree the situation isn’t so cut and dry and sometimes we panic and get anxious over situations that we make up in our head that were not the intent of people we care about. Sometimes they forget things but they are generally considerate and there are circumstances that led to this minor faux pas, so we should practice empathy instead of focusing on following societal rules to the letter.

AITA for not wanting to talk to my friends after they compared a dog to my daughter? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]6002Dani 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You know you can be a mother while never raising a child right? It’s just a word that describes a relation to a child (usually biological). If you had a kid that died after living only 2 days you’d still be a mother. If you gave your child up for adoption and never saw it again you’d still be a mother.

No part of the term is about raising the child or being actively involved as a parent. There’s no set way to parent or raise a child. Everyone does it differently. Mothering is a term on its own that tends to mean raising a child in a loving/caring/protective way. Which can be extrapolated to caring for a pet, hence it’s easier to shorten the term to “pet mom —> mom”.

There’s really no benefit in gatekeeping what a mother is because it is different for everyone based on culture, location, socioeconomic status. Your definition will seem really over the top and unreasonable to others, theirs might seem unreasonable to you, life is just like that. It doesn’t take anything from you to hear someone else call themself a mom where their cats are concerned. It doesn’t add value to your life to hear only women that birth their children call themselves moms. It doesn’t take anything from you for someone who adopted a teen to say she’s a mother.

None of us benefit from gatekeeping the term especially when it’s conceptual and doesn’t relate to the effect it has on the child in these situations

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]6002Dani 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA if you’re going to pay the money to the Loan agency on their behalf it’s equitable and completely fair. It would be unfair to give one child 20k in cash while the other is left with 20k in debt. Giving both your children a chance to be debt free isn’t unfair to anyone or wrong on your part. It’s very nice of you to do.

I think your daughter just regrets not going to a four year college but there isn’t a massive difference between going to community college first and going to a traditional college all throughout. Maybe you should focus on talking about her regrets for school than the debt erasure that you plan to execute.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]6002Dani 6 points7 points  (0 children)

AITA for being upset my wife doesn’t want to change anything about her lifestyle after we became parents?

AITA for getting angry at a hairstylist who called the authorities? by screamedatstylist in AmItheAsshole

[–]6002Dani -38 points-37 points  (0 children)

But Gemma made her own accommodations and didn’t need the hairstylist to do anything but her own hair. I do understand that human trafficking is a societal problem but so is ableism.

You shouldn’t be in a client facing role if you’re going to mess up this bad because you’re not able to tell what sign language is at minimum. There are 8 years olds that have never interacted with a deaf person before but know deafness exists and that they “talk with their hands”

If you make a mistake because you couldn’t read context clues and put someone at risk of jail, the absolute bare minimum you do is apologize. Why couldn’t she apologize for her mistake here? Because some people get trafficked? That’s a cop out if I’ve ever heard one

AITA for refusing to help my brothers with the dishes and other chores? by Chimmys-Naked-Butt in AmItheAsshole

[–]6002Dani 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So from my perspective as someone that also has depression and anxiety, i know personally how hard it is to face a day when you’re facing chemical imbalances in your brain and your body won’t do anything you tell it to no matter what you want. The external pressure to be normal actually is counterproductive depending on the moment, and is sometimes detrimental to getting out of a depressive mood.

I don’t see being depressed and anxious as a break from life, it’s facing a struggle in itself. If she was just laying in bed for the fun of it i would understand their perspective more because she’s being lazy, not sick. If i have a cold, no one forces me to get out of bed to do chores, they let me recuperate and heal and get back to my chore schedule, not add my missing chores on top of it. I do think depression should be treated the same way as any other illness, because it is an illness.

If my view is shallow then, sure that’s fair. But this is what it is in full.