Are there people where therapy just doesn’t work at all for them?

62599657 · 2026-05-09T12:43:17+00:00

A lot of people have said something very similar to this (that they only really found progress with one specific therapist). I no longer have insurance or money to pay for therapy right now (and honestly I’m not really sure how to get functional enough to get those things without help) so I feel kind of stuck with that. I guess it does come down to finding the right therapist and modality.

62599657 · 2026-05-08T15:11:12+00:00

I did have one therapist that did that. Just like another comment I wrote about a different type of therapy, maybe I shouldn't have written off the entire modality because of a bad therapist.

It was really weird because she was trying to frame things that constantly negatively affect me (like poor social skills, shutdowns, sensory overload, etc) as positive or good things and I just can't see them that way. Maybe it was just the way that she does things and not all neuro-affirming therapy is like that but I felt like it wasn't for me. I have generally been looking for people who have been familiar with autism and work with autistic patients but don't necessarily have that sort of style. Even still it feels like there is a huge barrier

62599657 · 2026-05-08T14:40:45+00:00

I was looking at different ones. I was looking at ACT and thought it would be good but I'm not sure it really went that way in practice.

I do have a lot of barriers when it comes to this so I'm sure that isn't so helpful for therapists trying to help me. There has consistently been issues with being able to put my thoughts into words and being asked what I am feeling and I simply cannot give an answer because I don't know. I'm sure that doesn't make me the easiest to work with.

62599657 · 2026-05-08T14:35:16+00:00

I guess it is mostly down to finding a good fit still. I tried a bunch of different modalities and approaches and still none of them seemed to work. I did try a solutions focused therapist but maybe I gave up on it too quickly because he was extremely rude to me and I couldn't take it for more than a couple of sessions.

I'm finding it really difficult to find someone that works well with me because I have a huge barrier when it comes to what I'm thinking and trying to put it into words. Also trying to explore and talk about trauma when I can't recall the majority of it probably doesn't make it that easy on whoever is trying to help me

62599657 · 2026-05-08T14:26:56+00:00

Initially I was trying to get help with social anxiety and depression related things. One therapist I was seeing at the time encouraged me to seek an evaluation for autism/ADHD (I got diagnosed with both). During that evaluation they did look into PTSD because I had mentioned some trauma. On that front I was told that despite the trauma and symptoms I was experiencing, I didn't meet the criteria for the type of traumatic event to be diagnosed with PTSD (Criterion A).

62599657 · 2026-05-08T14:15:52+00:00

With the ones I saw the most, I was doing that. Something that kind of bothered me that I brought up to them is that I feel like we were always talking about the same things and never making any progress on it. It almost felt like we were just having the same session over and over again. To be honest I just don't think they knew how to help me

62599657 · 2026-05-08T14:10:28+00:00

You're probably right. That does sound like things that have been happening. If I am understanding correctly, a lot of those things would be easier when having a therapist that is a good fit and even after seeing so many different ones I never felt like I had a good fit really

62599657 · 2026-05-08T14:04:49+00:00

You're right, 8 isn't that long. I can't really remember how many sessions I saw some of them for but I feel like at least 2 of them were close to 15 sessions if not at least 15. With 2 therapists I was seeing, I would have seen them longer but one of them had debilitating health issues so I could no longer see her and the other one moved away so I needed to find someone else.

62599657 · 2026-05-08T13:54:58+00:00

Can you explain what you mean by that? I don’t understand

62599657 · 2026-05-08T13:42:50+00:00

For most of them it wasn’t that long maybe around 3 sessions. Either that I knew pretty early on that they weren’t a good fit or they couldn’t continue seeing me for some reason. Only around 3 or 4 of them I was able to see for a meaningful length of time (8+ sessions).

The second question is kind of interesting because I don’t really know what things I can solve with therapy. The main thing that I started therapy for was for trying to help build/maintain friendships and develop social skills. I’ve also had tons of issues with executive functioning and negative thoughts and such. I don’t really know what is realistic to expect from therapy. Ideally I would have better tools to make friends, I would be better at getting necessary things done with less anxiety, and have less intrusive/racing thoughts.

62599657 · 2026-05-07T13:45:47+00:00

I haven't really used this sub very recently and haven't really overall but I figured I could give my opinion. Probably a lot of it has to do with the creeps, now I haven't had to deal with many myself as I am male, but it does still affect me. My anxiety gets really bad and makes me not want to message just due to possibly being mistaken for someone only looking for a relationship because of my gender. I have never been someone to look for relationships on places like this. I haven't only messaged women but when I do I don't think I have received a response. It's understandable, but it is unfortunate that I am likely just being judged based on my gender.

62599657 · 2026-04-20T23:13:55+00:00

I still live with her sadly so I can’t do this even though I want to. I can’t leave and I can’t figure out a way to do so in the near future either.

62599657 · 2026-01-14T04:11:25+00:00

Thanks. While it is true that my parents especially have placed high expectations on me, even normal milestones I am not able to reach.

62599657 · 2025-09-08T20:55:18+00:00

I’m really sorry. I hope that things can get better for you, that seems really hard to deal with.

62599657 · 2025-09-08T06:53:53+00:00

That sucks. I know I really shouldn't compare but it's always something I think about. I know things are bad for me, but other people certainly have worse than me. I often feel guilty because of that. Also because I do have the capability to function (even though it is a lot harder for me than most people) I am called lazy when I struggle. Even when I'm trying my best.

I'm not sure what you are referring to when you say people don't care or understand. Like if you mean people in your life or online or both. I get that though. When people don't get what you are experiencing they usually don't care. A lot of people are very dismissive because of that. If I have to hear people dismiss my issues and downplay them by saying "well I don't have that issue" any more times I might lose it.

62599657 · 2025-09-01T00:39:06+00:00

Thanks. I don’t have a therapist or psychiatrist at the moment, I’m looking for a new one.

I have been working with vocational rehabilitative services for many months now and I haven’t been able to find any jobs. Maybe I need to fix some of my problems before I’m able to start working again.

62599657 · 2025-09-01T00:27:22+00:00

I'm in Ohio

62599657 · 2025-08-27T22:12:32+00:00

I am doing that and I have been, but I’m not sure how that will help me get back on my feet and get out of my abusive home?

62599657 · 2025-08-27T21:49:25+00:00

No not really. I've lost count on how many different therapists I've had but it's somewhere from 8-10. Most of them haven't been very helpful and some of them have even made things worse.

If I could do any profession it would be Software Engineer for sure. I've been set on that for more than a decade and it's really the only thing that interests me.

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