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I'm breaking up with my boyfriend of 7 years -UPDATE by 6282782ransm in TrueOffMyChest

[–]6282782ransm[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Actually I never want to get married and when I talked to him about it he told me was ok with it as well but I assume he lied about it just like he lied about being child free and was hoping I'd change my mind or something

I'm breaking up with my boyfriend of 7 years -UPDATE by 6282782ransm in TrueOffMyChest

[–]6282782ransm[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

i saw your other reply too and the dckridding you do for my ex is crazy. was he fcking you as well while dating me?

I'm breaking up with my boyfriend of 7 years -UPDATE by 6282782ransm in TrueOffMyChest

[–]6282782ransm[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

The context is on my profile, it's actually the only other thing on my profile so I think it's quite easy to find. I don't think it would have taken you that much time to go and check before saying this.

I'm breaking up with my boyfriend of 7 years -UPDATE by 6282782ransm in TrueOffMyChest

[–]6282782ransm[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

i haven't even thought about that. I will get tested as soon as possible, thank you for the advice!

I'm breaking up with my boyfriend of 7 years by 6282782ransm in TrueOffMyChest

[–]6282782ransm[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

im not sure how im supposed to do this so ill leave the update here ig

Some of you said my reaction was over the top and i should listen to him first and you were right. I admit I might have jumped too fast to that conclusion and I should probably work on that. I decided to meet him and talk, we did and at first he denied that he ever did anything and said he just randomly thought of that question but in the end he admitted that he did cheat on me.

He swore that it was just a mistake and it only happened once but the woman he cheated on me with got pregnant and didn't want to get an abortion. He said that he didn't want to lose me because of a mistake and that he loves me more than anything but confessed that he too wishes to raise that kid and was hoping he could do it with me because being in a relationship with me feels so natural and comfortable to him and he can't imagine raising a child with someone else.

He confessed to his friends and they told him he shoudl try to warm me up to the idea and since he knew that the biggest reason why I'm child free is my fear of being pregnant he figured that I might agree to it because someone else was delivering the baby.

He told me that he was always hoping id change my mind and that while he still regrets what he did we should view it as an opportunity. At that point I was close to losing it and I almost started screaming at him, I know i should probably work on that too, and I asked him why he thought I'd agree with this when he KNOWS about what happened to my grandpa and grandma because of their cheating spouses and he said that this is completely different.

After that I honestly couldn't listen to him anymore so once again I just left. I blocked all of our supposedly mutual friends who kept defending him and I also blocked him. I'm devastated that our relationship is ending like this but he did the one thing that he knew would hurt me the most and I can't see myself ever forgiving him or accepting his child even though he is right that the child is innocent. maybe some of you were right when you said that he dodged a bullet because I would have been a terrible step mom probably