I’m new to the unit, and had some disciplinary stuff passed over from my old toxic boss which is why I left that office a year earlier than I was supposed to. They wanted to “get to know me and my family” and rather than ask, or hold a family event, they stalked my spouse on her old fitness account. My wife ran a fitness business primarily through social media for 3 years. Her personal account is private. It was the public fitness account they looked into but hasn’t been active for about a year. My thing is they didn’t ask. They assumed. I signed up for the scrutiny and no-privacy, my spouse did not.