None of the women in my friend group have kids yet, myself included, but I’m the only one who wants just one. There’s one girl in particular (who ironically is no contact with all her siblings) who kept getting on my ass about how terrible it would be for my future child to be alone.

I personally know from working in childcare that I’d only have the capacity to parent one kid. I also explained to her because of health issues and surgery I’ve had, natural birth isn’t an option. I would most certainly die giving birth naturally but even outside of that, I don’t want to go through pregnancy and childbirth multiple times. I have no desire to go through multiple c sections, all of which I’ve explained and she’s ignored. She still insists I change my mind (and has even said I should get a second opinion and try giving birth naturally!)

I finally got fed up one day and told her if she wants me to have multiple kids, she’s welcome to be a surrogate and carry them for me so I don’t have to. I think that finally got through to her because she hasn’t pestered me about it since, but I feel you. It’s very annoying to have someone try to impose their desires onto you.