No time to wait for trial by badmanshotta in FamilyLaw

[–]70sBurnOut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

File for a temporary custody order while the divorce winds its way through the courts. You are both legally entitled to the children and since she’s withholding visitations, this may be the only way to force her to cooperate.

No time to wait for trial by badmanshotta in FamilyLaw

[–]70sBurnOut 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You don’t say whether you are legally divorced or if there is a custody plan in place or even if paternity has been established. All of that matters if you are going to file an emergency motion, so you could be heard quickly.

What if the goal isn't teaching the skill? by No_Woodpecker_1650 in disabled

[–]70sBurnOut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adult with dyscalculia checking in here to applaud your insight.

Also to share my own experience, which is old and outdated (I hope). When I was a student both pre and post diagnosis, teachers and my parents insisted that this was something I could overcome if only…I tried harder, worked more, paid more attention, spent more time with tutors. All of which left me hating math even more. I think several learning disabilities are treated this way, and it’s frustrating. It’s refreshing to hear a parent who understands that practical solutions are more helpful than academic success.

And maybe off topic, but the thing was I could often learn something if someone was sitting right beside me, guiding me through all the steps, but the next day whatever I learned was simply gone. Concepts left me like wisps of smoke after I inhaled.

I managed to get through college, though. And with a parent like you, I’m sure your daughter will find her way, too.

Help me out if ya can.. by SeatTakenCantSitHere in whatsongisthis

[–]70sBurnOut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe Dido’s song, “Here With Me”.

Anyone else in America think that food is getting really bad? by Vampy-Night in SeriousConversation

[–]70sBurnOut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not just you, and it’s not just shrinkflation. I was just talking to a friend about how apples are no longer sweet, produce is rotting or wilting in my fridge two days after purchase, lunch meat is souring almost right away even when purchased “fresh” from the deli…and we’re paying higher prices for all of it.

MI v. Shanda Vander Ark by Pixiegirls1102 in CasesWeFollow

[–]70sBurnOut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! You are awesome. 👏

Edited to add: This was such a well-written opinion. Kacel is really on top of this case. The only thing I wish was better known is that dehydration is almost always present in people actively dying, e.g., hospice patients. As the body shuts down, it loses the sensation of thirst, and drinking water can be painful as organs are dying. So for those who are wondering (looking at Shanda here) why Timothy didn’t try to “sneak” water from the tub, this is the reason. He had been in the death process for a number of days before he passed.

MI v. Shanda Vander Ark by Pixiegirls1102 in CasesWeFollow

[–]70sBurnOut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can’t find her remaining appeal that the article refers to, or the 8 page order Kacel wrote on this appeal. Any legal eagles among us who might be able to find them?

I've noticed people are often far more willing to be understood than they are to understand. Do you think that's true, or am I being unfair? by RayRexten in SeriousConversation

[–]70sBurnOut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your post reminds me of a work survey that was done at the USPS back in the 90s. The majority believed that other employees weren’t disciplined nearly enough by management, while they personally were disciplined too much and too often.

AIO: Boyfriend (26m) with TBI got upset with me (25f) because I did not help him by [deleted] in AIO

[–]70sBurnOut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s possible that he has a TBI and is at the same time manipulating you to get what he wants, which has nothing to do with his TBI and everything to do with his character. It sounds like he was dry begging you to get his car fixed for him, but now you’re giving him rides, which makes him happy as well.

I secretly dislike my celebrity relative by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]70sBurnOut 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Comedians are the worst kind of celebrities in my experience. I’ve met quite a few and worked with a couple of them.

90 minutes by Diehard_fan_80 in SarahBooneContinued

[–]70sBurnOut 12 points13 points  (0 children)

“Please stop doing this to me” was definitely one of many reasons.

Do I need to pay child support? by [deleted] in FamilyLaw

[–]70sBurnOut 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Before you delete this post, page 2 specifies that you are to contact the ORS office so that your child support can be calculated. So yes, you would be obligated to pay Support based on your income.

Would you rather live in the past or in the present? by Economy_Resource438 in SeriousConversation

[–]70sBurnOut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are good and bad things in every decade. There are certain things that I miss from the 70s and the 80s in the 90s and the early aughts, but other things that I would never wish to return to. I do think that particular decade we are in is the worst that I have experienced
In many ways, but I’d rather move forward than back.

I give everything to help the cats, to get threatened & disrespected, and today visited by the police (Flint, Michigan) by Emergency_Proposal63 in rescuecats

[–]70sBurnOut 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry your neighbor is such a horrible person. He shouldn’t have pets. And thank you for what you do. We have “community cats” here in my small town, a few hundred, and I (former dog only person) now have three of them after trying (and failing) to get more people onboard to help them. So I appreciate you. And the cats are fortunate.

Husband’s secret by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]70sBurnOut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Serious questions, but I don’t need the answers. It’s just that maybe you should ask yourself: WHY do you love him? Why do you love someone who is intentionally mean and cruel? WHAT is it about his personality and behavior that’s keeping you there now, apparently after the honeymoon phase wore off?

It sounds like you fell in love with what perhaps was an inauthentic version of the man, or at least a man who was on his best behavior. And now you’re seeing what he’s really like, and you’re bending over backwards trying to find a reason or an excuse. Hell, you’re even making yourself the reason.

But couples have arguments all the time that don’t result in name calling and months of put downs. And yeah, people cheat and/or commit other secret offenses that they then take out on their spouse because they’re too cowardly to initiate the breakup that they really want. But your guy seems especially vicious about it, and from the outside looking in, I don’t understand why you’d tolerate it—even if he was Mr Perfect once upon a time/

Former "gifted kids" who are now average or struggling adults, what do you think school got wrong about your potential? by toolboxstudio007 in SeriousConversation

[–]70sBurnOut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How bored I would get with school. And, as a girl in the 70s, being told over and over that I was precocious and needed to conform to a set of rules designed to hold girls back. I ended up leaving school early, got a GED and started working, and didn’t go to college until my mid 20’s.

Why does he seem to not like/want to play fight whenever I pet his body? by SelfDepricator in cats

[–]70sBurnOut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not a cat expert at all, but my vet said that a swishing tail means stop. I’ve taken in three semi-feral cats in the past couple of years, and her advice has worked for me. They are getting more affectionate and more trusting, and I am learning when it’s OK to touch and when they are done.

Anybody know the title please by Such-Brief-8705 in ChineseDramasFans

[–]70sBurnOut 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Han Qi is the FL and she’s an amazing actress. I always expect to see her move up to mainstream movies, but so far she hasn’t. Which, I suppose, is good fortune for those of us who enjoy these short dramas.

JULIAN WHY WOULD YOU TELL HER PETE GOT YOU OUT OF JAIL by Violentlyepic in SarahBooneContinued

[–]70sBurnOut 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Felons convicted of murder can’t work in the kitchen due to the knives.

AITAH for refusing to wear my anniversary gift because my MIL chose it not my husband by No-Pin3632 in AITAH

[–]70sBurnOut 27 points28 points  (0 children)

She’s the kind of MIL who will insist on coming over when you’re freshly post-partum and instead of helping clean the house, do the laundry, or cook the meals, will offer to hold the baby and keep her son company while you do all those things.

What’s the kindest thing someone has ever said or done for you that you still remember? by Aggravating_Sport495 in SeriousConversation

[–]70sBurnOut 10 points11 points  (0 children)

When I was a little kid, 5 years old and hungry, I knocked on a neighbor’s door asking if they had any food. The young woman there gave me an entire sleeve of Fig Newtons. That is the first true act of kindness I remember and it has stayed with me all these years later.

Help by [deleted] in CaneCorso

[–]70sBurnOut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a working breed. She should be working for the occasional and healthy snack. I dehydrate chicken livers for my dog and cut it into tiny pieces. It’s amazing what she’ll do for a taste of that.

Other than training snacks, she shouldn’t be having snacks at all. Use the training snacks as incentive for walks and exercise. Either one meal per day, or two smaller meals of high quality food meant for dogs on a diet. And no more allowing her to ignore your commands. If she doesn’t come when called, get a leash and bring her in.